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Has she had a health scare?
possibly a mini stroke
Omg how awful. They’ve had a lot of bad news recently. Hope they can actually enjoy their holiday
Of course they haven’t! They do the absolute bare minimum and he will do ANYTHING to never have to talk to a professional.
He is turning poor Lacey into a complete hermit. Previously she would interact with children and adults at school. She had a 1:1 who helped her in every way. Now she just stays locked up at home and only leaves the house to go to B&M. See the thing about Steve is that he will do literally anything for an easy life. They had the opportunity to send Lacey to a special school, she would get transport etc but they just couldn’t be arsed to make the effort because of “Covid”. What?! She had the chance to at some point live an independent life, perhaps live on her own, have a job. That’s not going to be possible now. He is giving her ZERO education. He is causing huge steps backwards in her social development. He does everything he can to make it “easier” for her and avoid any drama but that’s not what parents do. The right path is rarely easy. He’s such a lazy waste of space, sort your head out Steve and make an effort so your kids don’t turn into the backwards hermits that you are.All they’re doing is making it worse long term. They’re doing what’s the easiest option right now, but it’s going to have a massive impact on her future. Her anxiety will get worse because thats all she’s going to be learning from Steve. Honestly, I think they’re messing up her chances at an independent future and it’s scary they don’t see that. Keeping her home is making life easy now. But that’s not going to last forever. What’s next when this doesn’t work anymore? If she’s not seeing any professionals either I wonder how that will impact renewing her dla with no evidence from school or doctors. I think it’s pretty poor parenting if things are that bad and they’re doing nothing about it. CAMHS work in all different ways too. Even if Lacey wouldn’t engage with them, they can work with the parents, at least that’s what happened in my case, I did all the appointments on my own for 8 months (video calls) and then I had to work with my son as he responds better to me anyway. However, whilst Lacey does seem quite shy, she doesn’t seem to refuse these things and rather than write her off as “she won’t do that” - try and see. At the very least, you know you’ve done your best.Of course they haven’t! They do the absolute bare minimum and he will do ANYTHING to never have to talk to a professional.
She won’t be able to cope on her own when she’s old enough as she will have fear over everything. Especially going to job interviews, having to make appointments (which Steve mostly makes Rachel do for him even if it’s for him and not the children) and even having to arrange help (for example what if she has something break in her house and needs it repairing, how will she cope having a stranger come over and sort it out etc without it being really scary).Of course they haven’t! They do the absolute bare minimum and he will do ANYTHING to never have to talk to a professional.
Honestly everyone is different but the best thing to do is exposure therapy. Especially in Steve’s case. I think not having a regular job - one where he is constant contact with the general public - is making him regress even more. Not doing things reinforces the idea there is something to be anxious about.
I hope at the least he will actually take Lacey to a club of some sort ASAP so she can have social interactions.
I also think he is so keen to have Lacey at home , so he doesn't have to go out and actually work. All the kids are at school now, if Lacey was at school. Steve would be sat all day doing nothing, the fact he can now use Lacey being at home is his excuse not to work for the next 5 years.
He moans when he has to do anything beyond taking the kids to school, which he even moans about. I’m thinking about my nephew who is autistic and has quite a few appointments with specialists/doctors/teachers etc. Steve hates appointments because it makes him anxious, so I think he happily wants to keep Lacey locked away and let her anxiety develop like his, so he doesn’t have to put himself through the appointments but he’ll say it’s because Lacey didn’t want to go. It’s not about not trying to help make Lacey's life happy, it’s just about making his life easier.
Steve really needs to stop feeding into Lacey's anxiety!
Instead of asking her if she is okay every 5 minutes he needs to start reassuring her instead. Saying things like 'I don't think she is happy because she didn't go next to Liam' really isn't going to help the situation.
The poor girl looked so worried walking around the park and going on all of the rides, she wasn't even verbally responding a lot of the time she was just nodding.
I don't remember her being that nervous on the previous holidays or even a year ago.
Taking her out of school away from children her own age clearly isn't helping. If anything it is making things worse!
Instead of asking her if she is okay every 5 minutes he needs to start reassuring her instead. Saying things like 'I don't think she is happy because she didn't go next to Liam' really isn't going to help the situation.
The poor girl looked so worried walking around the park and going on all of the rides, she wasn't even verbally responding a lot of the time she was just nodding.
I don't remember her being that nervous on the previous holidays or even a year ago.
Taking her out of school away from children her own age clearly isn't helping. If anything it is making things worse!
Totally agree with all you've said. It really doesn't help. His talk is very negative, even with the other children.
He does seem really negative. He dismissed both Liam and Chloe when they asked him to do a Mario impression. He doesn't seem interested at all.
Steve’s family vlogs 2 _ obsessed with the Shops
steve’s family vlogs - a lifetime in lockdown
completely agree, it’s almost like he wants some sort of negative reaction from her. He should be focusing on the fact she’s there, out of her comfort zone and taking part in things, sure, she was quiet and looked a bit uncomfortable, but she done it! Rather than ask if she’s ok a million times, he should be more positive with the language he uses, even when she says she’s ok he says “are you sure?”. She was clearly anxious, but probably also because she’s only used to being at home, they don’t go anywhere.
Kids are all mini Steve’s. terrified to go onto the big rides. If they faced their fear they would enjoy it
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