Stay at Home Mum in 2020

What are everyone’s thoughts on being a SAHM in 2020?

Currently on Maternity Leave and just really not sure I see myself going back to work even part time I’m lucky my husband earns enough to be able to support us both and he is happy whichever decision I make. I just feel like you don’t hear about as many SAHM these days and worry about being judged etc for it.

There are still plenty of SAHMs, especially up to school age. If youre able to do it, then do Theres judgement as a mother no matter what you do

If you can afford it then do it. I don't have any children but if I did and could afford it then I definitely would.

I was a SAHM for 9 years and do not regret giving up my job one bit. I was fortunate and very lucky that my husbands income allowed us to make that decision. I have never and will also never judge any Mum for going to work whether they want to or have to. You need to decide what is best for your family, you can always try being at home and if it isn’t for you then go back to work.

Now that all kids are at school I am back at work part time and have been for 18 months and loving it.

Chocolate Crispie said:

I was a SAHM for 9 years and do not regret giving up my job one bit. I was fortunate and very lucky that my husbands income allowed us to make that decision. I have never and will also never judge any Mum for going to work whether they want to or have to. You need to decide what is best for your family, you can always try being at home and if it isn’t for you then go back to work.

Now that all kids are at school I am back at work part time and have been for 18 months and loving it.

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Did you find it hard to find part time work after being a SAHM? This is also something I worry about as I think like you I would probably want to do something part time at school age

I’m a single parent currently working from home. I went straight from maternity to working from home so I’ve not actually been in the office since having my baby. I will be going back to part time when I can go back into the office. (After corona)..I would love to be a sahm but I do like the adult conversation etc. Although I would love the option to do both but I don’t think I would be able to afford not to work. You do whatever is best for you and your family as that’s all that matters

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Did you find it hard to find part time work after being a SAHM? This is also something I worry about as I think like you I would probably want to do something part time at school age

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Over the 9 years I done some online training to keep myself up to date with IT etc. I also volunteered in my community so my CV didn’t have a gap.
I have gone back in an admin role, it’s not high flying but it works around the school and I love it. They are also very understanding and flexible with me having a husband who works away on a rotation in the oil industry.

I felt the same after my first maternity leave but I forced myself to go for a month or two before making any decision and turns out I loved being back. I would suggest you trying first and see what you think?
either way it’s hard being a stay at home mum and it’s also hard going to work so it’s not an easy choice. Best of luck

I went back to work after having my son (8yrs ago as he’s 9 now), then when I was pregnant with my daughter I was made redundant at 6m so didn’t have a job to go back to. Kind of fell into being a SAHM but really enjoyed it! I found a bit of a part time job a couple of years ago teaching cooking to kids that was nice as I still got to be at home most of the week, when that ended I started as a relief cook at a nursery and have a proper part time job starting in Sept as my daughter starts school then (looking after children; the irony isn’t lost on me ).

I loved: all the baby cuddles, being at home during the day, not having to interact on days when I just didn’t want to, baby classes, having the time to go to sons school meetings/events without having to reschedule anything.

I didn’t love; lack of money, interaction with others on the days I neeeeeeded it, the boredom of housework, always being available to others for parcel deliveries/lifts etc.

If you think it’s the right thing to do, I’d go for it. If you’re unsure, I’d go back to work for a few months and see what you think. If you don’t want to be there, you’ve at least given it a go and can hand your notice in knowing you’ve made the decision you want to x

I hss as d never planned to be a stay at home mum. We even got to the point of interviewing nannies after we had our third with the expectation of me going back to work...then I just couldn’t stand the thought of someone else people there for all the important milestones.

more recently with the coronavirus pandemic My husband has also quit his job so we can Spend more time as a family and (when it is safe) travel.