Starting again at 32

[Bleurghgram]

You shouldn’t be worried about starting over in your 30s. You have SO much life ahead of you. You know yourself and what makes you happy now. Once this daunting shit is over you’ll be better than ever. I’m 34, never married, no kids. I’m not worried and I haven’t even ‘started’

 

[Jojoo]

I’m 33 been single 2 years with 2 kids, I’m not divorced yet but soon hopefully and in such a better headspace now and I’m excited for what’s to come! We really do still have our lives left, I like to think I’m only a 1/3 way through life like someone else said better 32 than 52

 

[PillowsofFluff]

I am in a similar situation. I'm 34, been together nearly 11 years. Have a 4, almost 5 year old. I feel nothing anymore, except just familiarity and comfort. But no feelings of lust or attraction.
I would leave but no idea how to - I just lost my job, so am not earning. My parents live 30 miles away and my daughter is just about to start school so it doesn't feel right to uproot her. I am fat and unattractive so would never find anyone else. I have no libido at all so haven't had sex in years. I'm not sure why he's stayed either to be honest

 

[Laughalong]

No, but fair play to you. You’re still young! Rather 32 than 52

 

[DCICassieStuart]

I'm 44 now and 'started again' at 42, so ten years older than you. My marriage had been awful for years (mental, emotional, financial and towards the end, physical abuse on a couple of occasions) I finally got the courage to leave (still going through divorce as my ex is dragging it out) after thinking that I'd already been through 20 years of this (married at 22) did I want to be there in another 20 years still going through it in my sixties?

I had absolutely no plans to meet anyone else, wasn't on my agenda but met my partner a few months after separating from my ex and we've been together ever since. He was separated for 3 years when we met and was 53 when he separated from his ex wife, so at 32 you're still so young and have many years ahead of you. Wishing you all the best

 

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

Break-ups are daunting but try to keep in perspective that 32 is still young and what do you feel is “starting over”
What is the biggest concern? Money? Love? Childcare?

 

[Bettyboop123]

I’ve been in a relationship for 12 years. Just split up and have 2 kids and worrying about starting all over again at this age.
Has anyone of a similiar age been in this position?

 

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

I’m looking for advice please. I’m 33 and been with my boyfriend for almost 6 years and we have an almost 2 year old together. I think I have feelings for someone else but I’m not sure what to do.
Everything is such a scary thought. Would appreciate any advice

Do you love your bf? If so ignore these feelings. If not then there are bigger issues than a new love interest

 

[soymilk]

32 is still so young and you’ve got so much life ahead of you! Try to enjoy your life in the moment and don’t put too much pressure on yourself about “starting over again”.

 

[catgal]

Do you love your bf? If so ignore these feelings. If not then there are bigger issues than a new love interest

Thank you for replying. I do love him but things have definitely changed. I’ve never questioned anything before. There is more to the story but it’s completely from me.
We’ve even spoken now and I dunno there’s not an overwhelming feeling of omg I need to sort this. Do you know what I mean?
Spark has definitely gone, the fun/excitement. I know it happens but still
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Could it be that the ‘sparks’ gone with your current bf? Could you plan a date night just the 2 of you and get a babysitter for your child? Even if it’s just for a quick meal or something

Thank you for replying. The spark has definitely gone, we’ve spoken about these issues and agreed we need time together alone etc. I just don’t know if it’s too late I’m just so confused

 

[yankydoo]

I started again in my early 30s, although my situation is slightly different as I didn't have kids. My relationship ended with someone amazing and somewhat connected to that I left a good job. I spent a few years single and enjoyed making plans that focused on me only. In terms of my career I had to take a job which wasn't great but it got back me on my feet. I also found it easier to manage my money being single as I could plan my week/month according to what I wanted and was able to do money wise.

I'm 37 now, married and pregnant with my first. I am also in an amazing job.

It's scary starting over but can be done one step at a time. Good luck!

 

[Bettyboop123]

Could it be that the ‘sparks’ gone with your current bf? Could you plan a date night just the 2 of you and get a babysitter for your child? Even if it’s just for a quick meal or something

 

[catgal]

I’m looking for advice please. I’m 33 and been with my boyfriend for almost 6 years and we have an almost 2 year old together. I think I have feelings for someone else but I’m not sure what to do.
Everything is such a scary thought. Would appreciate any advice

 

[whoareyouu]

I’m in a similar situation at 34. The relationship isn’t healthy and I know this but I can’t bare to lose him. It’s probably an abusive relationship. I’m told to fuck off. Told that I’m not wanted.
It all exploded on holiday and he got so drunk every night I ended up getting another room and booking a flight as he trashed the room. I didn’t get the flight of course.

I know I should leave but he will take the cats and I can’t be without them.