TriviaNewtonJohn
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Your friends don't sound much like friends.
agree with this. This is childish and petty. Seems like they intentionally want to hurt or annoy you. You’re worth more than that. Get yourself some nice new friends.Your friends don't sound much like friends.
This is unpleasant and rather unkind, joke or not. I cba with this type of behaviour, personally. I feel that when people do it, no matter how much they pretend to be joking, there is always some kind of tiny underlying dig. I’m 31 now and married and have my first baby. But growing up I never really dated, no dates at all through uni. It just never happened for me and it got me down a lot. Around age 25 I put an add on POF, I wrote out exactly what I was like, on my profile, met a lot of very friendly guys online, and eventually dated one who turned out to be my husband. Don’t give up hope you never know what is around the corner.I fancy this guy at uni. I have ever since I've been there. We don’t know eachother that well but we get on and he’s lovely. I don’t think I’d ever make a move. I’m rubbish at friendships and relationships and I’m nothing special. So I promise I’m not being weird and possessive. I just think he’s nice.
Start of the year I met up with friends who asked how university was going and I mentioned this guy...
found out that both friends had found him on my friendlist and decided to add him on Facebook. Fine, whatever.
I got a text from one of them a few weeks ago making out that they’d seen this guy when they‘d gone out and he’d invited them for a meal.
Mildly gutted but nothing I can do about it. Jokingly messaged back something about me seeing him at uni and asking him for my invite and they backtracked completely, ‘oh i didn’t mean him I meant so and so, I was just joking’. Nothing came of it so I’m assuming it was a stupid joke.
Just got a text from the friend again, saying that they’d been in touch with another boy I fancy (asked him out and he rejected me ) and want to meet up. I don’t know if they’re joking again.
I know it sounds so bloody childish and it IS but I just wish they wouldn’t message me and celebrate it. If they go out with people I fancy then they go out with people I fancy, I can’t stop them
The fact that they joked about it initially makes me feel off, as if they’re trying to make me jealous about it. And at the same time I just wish I could be... normal. I wish I could have a relationship and for someone to pay attention to me. It happened through school, boys used to ask me out as a joke, as if it was funny that someone could ever go out with me. It’s soul destroying.
i sort of feel like they’re rubbing it in my face and feel stupid for feeling like this in the first place. I know there are bigger things to worry about ATM so feel free to hit me xD
Try finding some clubs at uni of things your interested in and hopefully meet some like minded peoplei do also wonder if it has something to do with their parents... when I went off to uni their dad was fuming with me and I mean proper spitting feathers because I was going to uni and “abandoning them”. He liked me up until I mentioned that and then his attitude totally changed, he kept saying that I was going to get better friends and forget about them and I suppose, planting the seed (to them) that I was the kind of person who would do that - if that makes sense? We went away one half term after that, to London. Big trip for me, eight hours of continuous walking, which is difficult... their response (and their dad’s!) was ‘well we shouldn’t have invited you, you shouldn’t have come if you were going to moan like this’ (‘moaning’ = asking to stop for a bit after the eight hours walking lol) - I cried.
Reading this back does make me wonder why I’m still friends with them tbh I just wish I made friends easier. I’m just so introverted and awkward
I used to have a friend very similar to this when I was at school, she was tall, blonde with huge boobs, I was the absolute opposite. I was always the good friend and she always swooped in. We're now in our 30's I'm happily married with kids, she still floats from relationship to relationship, still lives at home with her parents and never seems happy!Thank you everybody. I was really scared to check this in case I was in the wrong. As I said I’ve never really had friends other than these two so I don’t really know what goes and what doesn’t friendship wise (although I know that sounds like im a mug) I really appreciate it I cut contact with them a while ago cos I was just fed up of it, i just don’t think I’ll bother anymore anyway x
Your friends need to get in the bin! Get yourself some friends that are actually nice and care about you.I fancy this guy at uni. I have ever since I've been there. We don’t know eachother that well but we get on and he’s lovely. I don’t think I’d ever make a move. I’m rubbish at friendships and relationships and I’m nothing special. So I promise I’m not being weird and possessive. I just think he’s nice.
Start of the year I met up with friends who asked how university was going and I mentioned this guy...
found out that both friends had found him on my friendlist and decided to add him on Facebook. Fine, whatever.
I got a text from one of them a few weeks ago making out that they’d seen this guy when they‘d gone out and he’d invited them for a meal.
Mildly gutted but nothing I can do about it. Jokingly messaged back something about me seeing him at uni and asking him for my invite and they backtracked completely, ‘oh i didn’t mean him I meant so and so, I was just joking’. Nothing came of it so I’m assuming it was a stupid joke.
Just got a text from the friend again, saying that they’d been in touch with another boy I fancy (asked him out and he rejected me ) and want to meet up. I don’t know if they’re joking again.
I know it sounds so bloody childish and it IS but I just wish they wouldn’t message me and celebrate it. If they go out with people I fancy then they go out with people I fancy, I can’t stop them
The fact that they joked about it initially makes me feel off, as if they’re trying to make me jealous about it. And at the same time I just wish I could be... normal. I wish I could have a relationship and for someone to pay attention to me. It happened through school, boys used to ask me out as a joke, as if it was funny that someone could ever go out with me. It’s soul destroying.
i sort of feel like they’re rubbing it in my face and feel stupid for feeling like this in the first place. I know there are bigger things to worry about ATM so feel free to hit me xD