Sober Curious tattlers support thread (Dry January and beyond!)

Prgirl_cesca · May 2, 2021

We have had some great monthly threads but let's start a little community moving forwards.

All of us are curious of a sober life and the benefits it brings. This isn't AA and some of us are happy just cutting down booze when others are teetotal or nothing.

But here to support each other

I feel like having barely drank since January I am finally not even missing the booze. I have some social plans this month and am not even having the will I/won't I debate in my head about drinking anymore.

Pinkpen 84 · May 2, 2021

I need find my “curious” again. April has not been even dry( ish). I’m tired of it now, so I’m joining in guys. Have a lovely weekend everyone

Thelife&times · May 2, 2021

I’ve been dry since July 2018. It’s really hard not to join in on a night out, but I make myself the designated driver so that I can’t even be tempted.

Meangirl815 · May 2, 2021

I'm dry (did have a cheap can of pink gin last night tho) and have been for a few years.

I'm not very good at drinking in moderation and i get horrific hangovers.
But the main reason i don't drink is medical. It affects my medication in a way that means 1 night drinking results in 3 days of depression, rage and panic attacks and nobody can be dealing with that

Grizzlybear · May 2, 2021

I think it’s definitely time for me to take a break. I bottled it (no pun intended) last night and drank. One last hurrah - I’m stocked with alcohol free beers and not giving myself any more excuses!

Platformcrocs · May 2, 2021

I don't drink either. Alcohol (especially red wine) was a migraine trigger so I don't touch it anymore. I've never been into drinking at home but I really noticed this in the last year - I had friends spending £100+ a month on booze (stocking up on wine, fizz, beers etc) which seemed insane. My hangovers were hellish too, throwing up every time and I just thought nah, this isn't worth it anymore.

I turned 30 this year and people gave me bottles of prosecco and gin etc that I've not touched and my cupboards are full of the stuff! Doubt I'll ever get through it at this rate

Boredofthegram · May 2, 2021

Pinkpen 84 said:
I need find my “curious” again. April has not been even dry( ish). I’m tired of it now, so I’m joining in guys. Have a lovely weekend everyone

Same.

I was doing very well until April then Easter weekend and birthday celebrations plus lots of Prosecco as gifts meant it all went to pot and I have drank every weekend in april. I have one bottle left which I’m having tonight then I will plan to be dry for the remainder of may. I have no booze in the house and I won’t go and buy it myself so hopefully that’ll be fine, I really got into the groove of it in jan/feb and was loving the fresh mornings. Any social meet ups planned I’ll drive to so no temptation.

to be kind to myself, my try jan app still shows 95 dry days so far this year plus when I have drunk it’s been 1 or 2 glasses rather than 1 bottle each occasion so that’s not too bad compared to last year!

bagafreebee · May 2, 2021

Gave up new year 122 days sober today and loving being clear headed and hangover free.

reCAPTCHA · May 2, 2021

Platformcrocs said:
I don't drink either. Alcohol (especially red wine) was a migraine trigger so I don't touch it anymore. I've never been into drinking at home but I really noticed this in the last year - I had friends spending £100+ a month on booze (stocking up on wine, fizz, beers etc) which seemed insane. My hangovers were hellish too, throwing up every time and I just thought nah, this isn't worth it anymore.

I turned 30 this year and people gave me bottles of prosecco and gin etc that I've not touched and my cupboards are full of the stuff! Doubt I'll ever get through it at this rate

Where do you live? I can take that off your hands? In the interests of your sobriety of course

I need to stop drinking but urghhh it’s hard,

Loopypappy · May 3, 2021

Gave up last June ahead of some treatment (which didn’t work). Gave myself 3 days “off” for Christmas but mainly had Bucks Fizz so quite light - hit the 10 month mark yesterday

Am planning on having a really lovely bottle of wine at dinner to celebrate our wedding anniversary in August - God help my husband trying to get me home!
People have asked if I feel better for it - can’t say I do although my eyes are brighter and skin better but I don’t “feel” better (maybe due to other medical issues going on).
I definitely didn’t have an issue but I just loved drinking wine....loved it and have had moments of actually salivating daydreaming about wine but am proud of myself (determined b*tch is me

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Pinkpen 84 · May 4, 2021

Morning. No booze I’m my house. Everything is clean and clear, so is my mind. Let’s do it guys. Right now I’m very very curious about sobriety. I have to be. I drank my weight in booze. And it ain’t small

Prgirl_cesca · May 4, 2021

I was so tempted to drink yesterday but gave myself a proper talking to and asked if I really needed it and I had something else instead.

Something else being chocolate which I am STILL eating too much of

Gloria Rostron · May 4, 2021

I would never go teetotal. I love drinking and I am definitely not anti alcohol like so many people are. I am however, thinking of giving up drinking on week nights and just drinking on weekends, purely for health reasons. I have been drinking a lot recently.

ispywithmylittleeye59 · May 4, 2021

Yay more non drinkers!

I have had alcohol on I think 4 occasions since December 2019 now. Partly I get awful hangovers so it’s just not worth it for me and partly I just really don’t like drunk me!

What do you do in social situations? I’m thinking work pub trips etc. I just avoid as people can get really weird about not drinking and I don’t want to feel like a Debbie Downer sitting in the corner with my Diet Coke

Very pleased to see there are lots more no/low alcohol options now, I went out on Saturday and had 2 very nice low alcohol cocktails which weren’t a thing before!

OatMatchaLatte · May 4, 2021

Tee total here! I've never really drunk, had a couple of phases where I'd have one or two, but I just don't like the way it makes me feel.

I suppose I'm a different kettle of fish, but in answer to the social situations question, I just drink lime and soda, soda water, diet pop etc. I don't really care if people take issue with it, and I'm always honest about why I don't drink - my dad was an alcoholic, and I don't like the way it makes me feel. If it makes them feel uncomfortable, then so be it.

I don't mind people having a drink - each to their own - but really like being around drunk people. It's quite tedious.

Grizzlybear · May 9, 2021

Hope everyone has had a good week? I’ve managed to stick to my one day a week for a bit

seems like I’m back in the swing, so posting here in case I need a reminder

Lollypad · May 9, 2021

I had a couple of days last week where I had a couple of drinks (3 units a day max) as was with friends... and my anxiety ramped right back up again. I'm just not sure I can handle drinking any more, and I'm actually OK with that.
My biggest concern is going for lunches with clients and saying I'm not drinking and how to handle that without looking "boring" or "stuffy"... still working out the details I think.

Grizzlybear · May 9, 2021

Lollypad said:
I had a couple of days last week where I had a couple of drinks (3 units a day max) as was with friends... and my anxiety ramped right back up again. I'm just not sure I can handle drinking any more, and I'm actually OK with that.
My biggest concern is going for lunches with clients and saying I'm not drinking and how to handle that without looking "boring" or "stuffy"... still working out the details I think.

I just get a non alcoholic beer and say “haha lightweight these days, would need a nap.” You’re still joining in, just suiting yourself.

bagafreebee · May 9, 2021

Lollypad said:
I had a couple of days last week where I had a couple of drinks (3 units a day max) as was with friends... and my anxiety ramped right back up again. I'm just not sure I can handle drinking any more, and I'm actually OK with that.
My biggest concern is going for lunches with clients and saying I'm not drinking and how to handle that without looking "boring" or "stuffy"... still working out the details I think.

Tell them you are on antibiotics or have to drive that night. After they have had a few drinks they won't care what you are drinking.

MyLittlePony25 · May 9, 2021

Lollypad said:
I had a couple of days last week where I had a couple of drinks (3 units a day max) as was with friends... and my anxiety ramped right back up again. I'm just not sure I can handle drinking any more, and I'm actually OK with that.
My biggest concern is going for lunches with clients and saying I'm not drinking and how to handle that without looking "boring" or "stuffy"... still working out the details I think.

I think that if you simply say ‘I will have a soft drink please’, people shouldn’t argue. There are multiple reasons why someone may not drink and you shouldn’t be seen as boring because you don’t want alcohol.

I had a pimms last Saturday with a friend which was my first drink since New Years. She messaged me this morning to say she had booked a table at a pub this evening but I’m unsure whether I will have a drink at the moment.

I have a friend coming over from Ireland next week and a reunion with our friends. Luckily, these friends know it can increase my anxiety and that I’m also on a lot of medication which I probably shouldn’t mix with too much alcohol. So one or two drinks are fine but no more and I’m ok with that.

I feel so much better in myself now that I don’t drink regularly and I don’t miss the stuff at all!