I’m in such a horrible situation. I love my partner of 8 years so much, we’ve been through some amazing times together. We’re so in tune with each other, and on each other’s wavelength and he is honestly the most considerate and kind person I’ve ever known. He treats me so well and would never hurt me. I just don’t feel fulfilled anymore, I don’t fancy him - sometimes when we spend time together I just drift off and think “am I actually having a good time or am I forcing myself?”. If we do have sex it’s fine, but I don’t have any desire for it with him anymore. We argue more and more lately and I am starting to wonder whether I see a future like this. I’m not sure things will ever change? My moment of realisation was when I was looking at an Instagram post of someone who was engaged, and then thought about what I’d say if my partner proposed to me… and honestly I would say no I feel so torn because we have been so in love for so long, our lives are basically one. Then on the other hand we have no children, no pets, and we don’t share any real financial ties (other than a joint bank account). I’ve got part of me screaming “leave!” And the other part worried Im throwing away someone who treats me so well and will always put me first. He would be a great husband and father (if I decide to have kids one day).
Im also a lot older than when we met, I’m terrified that it’s just too late for me to meet someone else now. I also don’t want to be in a relationship with anyone else, what if they never match up to what me and my partner had
Is it normal to feel like this? Am I mad for wanting to throw away 8 years because I’m just “not feeling it”. I can’t imagine a life without him but I also can’t live the rest of my life wondering what if.
Im also a lot older than when we met, I’m terrified that it’s just too late for me to meet someone else now. I also don’t want to be in a relationship with anyone else, what if they never match up to what me and my partner had
Is it normal to feel like this? Am I mad for wanting to throw away 8 years because I’m just “not feeling it”. I can’t imagine a life without him but I also can’t live the rest of my life wondering what if.