I agree Rembrandt. I think it’s really important to move away from the “monster” narrative. Abusive people are normal, human people. They don’t look like monsters, lots of people would never guess they were monsters. I think if as a society we learned to accept that it’s your brother, your neighbour, your priest that can be abusive, not just the creepy guy down the street or strangers lurking in dark alleyways, more people would be believed.
My mum was abusive, to everyone else she’s meek and mild, my ex husband was abusive, to everyone else he’s charming, my ex boyfriend was abusive, convicted of battery, and still kept his job teaching primary children.