100% it’s Ben’s fault. But I do agree the school failed in their safeguarding, and god only knows why her parents went along with it, I know it’s been said on here before they were scared of losing contact with her which is understandable but they seem so close with him now when I know I would still see him as a predator.
RVK_Loves #25 Ads have dried up, freebies no more so Ben blew his beans up me, now we are four
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Well yeah of course it goes without saying it's Ben as the groomer lol. I wonder if his initial intention was to groom someone, or if he got sucked into her whole issues with eating disorders etc. But I can't really think what other motives he would have had to go on a year 8 school trip? He was already a property developer or whatever so clearly no intentions of being a teacher. But from a safeguarding point of view not sure how the school let this happen. I wouldn't want a 23 year old ex student who isn't a member of staff going on a trip with a child of mine!
Does anyone know if the police were involved at the time? I don't know how (from what's been written) he has managed to escape without full prosecution?
They might have tried to reinvent themselves as some kind of written in the stars Romeo and Juliet but the fact remains he hit on a 13 year old child. And then despite all the fall out he stayed in contact with her and once they got together (when she was 15?) never let her out of his sight. It is incredibly sad that one of the great things about Benpecked for Grabby is hearing about all his exciting adventures before her.
I know some people with a large age gap (12 years) who met when she was way too young (16 so not 13), they broke contact for 5 years, and got back in touch when she’d finished uni etc at 21, officially together at 22. That’s how you deal with an inappropriate age gap/meeting when one of you is too young. Happy to say they’re in their 30/40s now and happily together!
Couldn’t agree more. The whole cake smash thing makes my skin crawl
Its just so disrespectful in my eyes. I’d be fuming if any of my children (now much older mind) mucked around with their food.
What's going to happen when Freya is 13 and wants to have female friends over? As a parent, I wouldn't feel safe leaving my kid in his presence.
When I first heard what this was I couldn't believe it. Babies rolling around in cake for a photo shoot? So tasteless and vulgar!
Wow you are a queen for putting these up! Re reading these I’m just shocked at how spiteful and snobby she is, I don’t understand it
My Mum had a pair in 1996 when she was pregnant with my Brother. I was 7 at the time and recall being quite horrified about them the ! I still like to take the piss out of her “Andy Pandy” outfit (they were even blue and white striped
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I hate these too!! I’ve had heated discussions with friends about the stupid cake smashes. Such a pointless exercise!
Half was down to me going down a rabbit holeWow you are a queen for putting these up! Re reading these I’m just shocked at how spiteful and snobby she is, I don’t understand it
Accountant slash property developer
Woah she was 13?! I read the blog post about when they met and read it that she was 15 then they waited til she was older than 16 to “get together properly”. Which is still vile as she was a naive teenager, barely above the age of consent, and he was an adult.
Also the fact they “stayed in touch” - ie: he GROOMED her. Jesus.
Also the fact they “stayed in touch” - ie: he GROOMED her. Jesus.
Sorry if this is a bit much but I really think the 6 stages of grooming are so rvk and her husband. The way she describes him not making her work (stage 6) how he followed her to uni (stage 4). It makes me sick in my mouth.
I hope she reads here and has her eyes opened.
Also, if you look into grooming more (or obviously work in child services and know more about it) the perpetrators often groom the child’s family too, which explains why Mumma is all over him!!
The Six Stages of Sexual Grooming
I hope she reads here and has her eyes opened.
Also, if you look into grooming more (or obviously work in child services and know more about it) the perpetrators often groom the child’s family too, which explains why Mumma is all over him!!
The Six Stages of Sexual Grooming
- Stage 1: Targeting a Victim.
- Stage 2: Gaining Trust.
- Stage 3: Filling a Need.
- Stage 4: Isolating the Child.
- Stage 5: Sexual Contact.
- Stage 6: Maintaining Control.
Very informative, thank you for sharing. I think the only possibility of her waking up will be when Fweya turns 13! That MIGHT just focus the mind!
That family were definitely groomed, the parents allowed him on their family holiday to the USA for christ’s sake!
..there were probably others too!It’s beyond comprehension!
100% this
They would never admit to any of this
Because it’s all about keeping up appearances
The same what they pretend to be wealthy
Scratch the surface and it’s all a big lie
Because it’s all about keeping up appearances
The same what they pretend to be wealthy
Scratch the surface and it’s all a big lie
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