The mother never liked me any way. Apparently I humiliated her daughter. No she did that herself by stealing someone who was a friend to hers belongings.She stole from you and her family have the nerve to threaten you as well. WTF!!!
The mother never liked me any way. Apparently I humiliated her daughter. No she did that herself by stealing someone who was a friend to hers belongings.She stole from you and her family have the nerve to threaten you as well. WTF!!!
Wow that is insane, what a nut job she and her family areI had a so called friend before. Lol the cheek of this girl. She come round my house one day and I'd just been out clothes shopping. I have the chest of an overweight pre pubescent boy, she had/has enormous massive melons. She was also 2 dress sizes bigger then me. She tried on my (expensive) new jacket. I calmly explained to her that the reason the jacket was riding half way up her belly and she couldn't zip it up properly was cause it didn't fit. Oh no that couldn't possibly be the reason, it just fitted us 'differently'. She left after a bit and I thought nothing of it. Later in the evening I realise one of my bags and all my new clothes were missing - she had smuggled my clothes out my house using my bag to do so, the nerve lmao. I go to ask her about it and I've been deleted on fb, number blocked and all sorts. So I put a public post on fb asking mutuals if they could let her know I'd like my stolen items back please. Her mother sent me some big long angry message about how she's the most loyal friend I'd ever have, I better watch my back and if I want my stuff I need to come and ask for it.
Last time I checked she has a child now - doesn't appear to be a father on the scene. Lol.
Please could you update with why she was at your door three years later? Or didnāt you answer? Iām very investedJust after Christmas we were watching TV and the Ring doorbell went off. So I looked on the video cam, and there stood my ex friend on my doorstep. I couldnāt believe it. I had gone totally non contact with her for over 3 years. She was an absolute horror of a human being. A leech, a drain, and a spiteful narcissist. Even though I was on benefits she used to drain me of money weekly, cigarettes, petrol, groceries. Could I cook something for
her boys, she hadnāt had time to get to the shops. Yes, this floated. I fed her family four times a week, and there was four of them. She used me, and at the same time abused me. She loved to sound of her own voice. You couldnāt tell her anything that had happened during the day, you know, those little stories. Like who you bumped into, or something in the news. All she wanted to do was talk and repeat the same crap, over and over again. Her life was a drama. She used to call or text me over ten times a day. If I didnāt respond she would simply turn up on the doorstep. She never left me alone. She was struggling so I stayed in her life.
She drained me, financially emotionally mentally, when she used to leave my house I would almost collapse she was such hard work.
One day my daughter and I got caught in a rainstorm. It absolutely bucketed down with rain. We were soaked. We rushed home and had to take all our clothes off because we were saturated, almost like weād jumped into a swimming pool fully clothed. As we are peeling off my mobile goes off. Itās her. So I say quickly to her, āI will call you back, we got caught in that rain, and I got to get this stuff offā and I hung up. 30 minutes later she calls back and this is what she says. āThereās no rain forecast for Bolton todayā. Me, well it bucketed down, me and Ang got soaked. Her, āI just called Irene who lives near you, and she said it wasnāt raining thereā. Me, well it definately rained, you know it is possible for it to rain on one side of town and not the otherā. Silence. me, do you think Iām making this up? Her, yes. Me, why would I make up a story about it rainin? Her, I can never tell when you are lying to me, your life is boring,so it makes sense youād lie about something like that.
BYE
Three years free of her and her bullshit. And it turned out to be the straw that broke the camels back. I live my life without her. She was awful.
You've just reminded me of a psycho friend from school who stole from me on multiple occasions, then when I called her out on it called me mad, and told everyone from school that i was mad (not that they listened.)I had a so called friend before. Lol the cheek of this girl. She come round my house one day and I'd just been out clothes shopping. I have the chest of an overweight pre pubescent boy, she had/has enormous massive melons. She was also 2 dress sizes bigger then me. She tried on my (expensive) new jacket. I calmly explained to her that the reason the jacket was riding half way up her belly and she couldn't zip it up properly was cause it didn't fit. Oh no that couldn't possibly be the reason, it just fitted us 'differently'. She left after a bit and I thought nothing of it. Later in the evening I realise one of my bags and all my new clothes were missing - she had smuggled my clothes out my house using my bag to do so, the nerve lmao. I go to ask her about it and I've been deleted on fb, number blocked and all sorts. So I put a public post on fb asking mutuals if they could let her know I'd like my stolen items back please. Her mother sent me some big long angry message about how she's the most loyal friend I'd ever have, I better watch my back and if I want my stuff I need to come and ask for it.
Last time I checked she has a child now - doesn't appear to be a father on the scene. Lol.
I'm so sorry.Drifting seems less brutal. Iām trying to do that at the moment, and finding it hard because itās making me feel rude!.
Iāve a friendship group that I feel very much in the edges of. Some of it is my fault; Iām a quieter, more reserved person than the others and often donāt get a word in edgeways.
But I always remember what people tell me. if someone is going away, or something important is happening. At least Iāll ask how it went, etc., None of them seem to have any real interest in what everyone else is doing, unless itās to copy or better it.
I once dropped everything to go and help one of them out in a crisis. A few months later, she was relating the story to me, as if I werenāt there; sheād completely completely forgotten! Which just made me feel so insignificant.
Another time I was with this same person when she picked up a box of Christmas Cards, saying that theyād do for neighbours etc, and sheād get better ones for close friends. She later gave one of them to me!! This year she did a similar thing; itās all these little things that make me realise that iāve been investing more in the friendship than them.
I had a Birthday recently. One of them remembered and sent me a card, another messaged a few days later to apologise for missing it. No one else knew or remembered. Weāve been friends for around 7 years now.
Iāve come to realise that, rightly or wrongly, I donāt want to feel the way they make me feel.
But I feel rude at the moment because Iāve not responded to a group chat about a possible night out. And Iāve agreed to something else thatās happening at the end of the summer that I now know I donāt want to go to.
Itās not easy. Iām sorry youāre having a rough time, and I hope you find a way through it.
I definitely feel that I have to broaden my horizons a bit and meet new people. Or just find new interests to pursue and content myself with those and with my family.I'm so sorry.
I can relate. About 4 years ago I felt like this with a friendship group. Not saying it's the same as what you're going through now because what you've described sounds very hurtful. But I know what it's like to feel as though you're on the periphery and that people are just unthinking.
I am back in the fold now and things are better, but I have made other friends so that I'm not reliant on one group as much.
Do you think that might help you?
Don't put loads of pressure on yourself, but great that you have that mindset and also you're not being rude.I definitely feel that I have to broaden my horizons a bit and meet new people. Or just find new interests to pursue and content myself with those and with my family.
It annoys me that I worry so much about being rude and cutting myself off from people who donāt care either way
Iām glad you got to a better place
My daughter reckons it was because she needed cash. She knew my very generous family gave me cheques for Xmas instead of gifts as we are on benefits. One Xmas she cracked her halogen hob and I ended up buying her a new one, not paid back of course. When I asked her for some money towards it she said, and I quote, āIt wasnāt your money anyway, why should I pay you. You can see Iām struggling too.ā (40 a day ciggie habit and hoarder). God I am so glad sheās gone.Please could you update with why she was at your door three years later? Or didnāt you answer? Iām very invested
I would have contacted the policeI had a so called friend before. Lol the cheek of this girl. She come round my house one day and I'd just been out clothes shopping. I have the chest of an overweight pre pubescent boy, she had/has enormous massive melons. She was also 2 dress sizes bigger then me. She tried on my (expensive) new jacket. I calmly explained to her that the reason the jacket was riding half way up her belly and she couldn't zip it up properly was cause it didn't fit. Oh no that couldn't possibly be the reason, it just fitted us 'differently'. She left after a bit and I thought nothing of it. Later in the evening I realise one of my bags and all my new clothes were missing - she had smuggled my clothes out my house using my bag to do so, the nerve lmao. I go to ask her about it and I've been deleted on fb, number blocked and all sorts. So I put a public post on fb asking mutuals if they could let her know I'd like my stolen items back please. Her mother sent me some big long angry message about how she's the most loyal friend I'd ever have, I better watch my back and if I want my stuff I need to come and ask for it.
Last time I checked she has a child now - doesn't appear to be a father on the scene. Lol.
Think about how youād react towards a friend in the same situation and why. Then compare this to how your friends are behaving. Consider if there are any extenuating circumstances making them behave badly. Think about whether if you gave them another chance they would ever change their behaviour.I'm going through a pretty rough time, at what point did you realise that some of the people around you wasn't all that great? And how do you cut them from your life and survive afterwards?