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southcoastsense
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Mess and some dirt is fine; toys out, unwashed dishes, unfolded laundry, a bathroom that needs a clean
What I don’t understand is the food mashed into the carpet, drawing on walls and woodwork etc. That’s nothing to do with being neurodivergent, it’s poor parenting. To blame it on being ND/ND family members is pretty low imho. It’s reinforcing stereotypes that aren’t helpful.
What I don’t understand is the food mashed into the carpet, drawing on walls and woodwork etc. That’s nothing to do with being neurodivergent, it’s poor parenting. To blame it on being ND/ND family members is pretty low imho. It’s reinforcing stereotypes that aren’t helpful.
southcoastsense
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At last! I used to watch her channel as she spoke some sense at the beginning. It was refreshing to see a ‘real’ person who was a bit messy.
Now it’s just constant excuses about why the house is a such a state and psycho babble about reasons for not being able to stop her children scrawling on the walls.
She’s coming across arrogant and defensive now. Genuine comments that aren’t in her favour get shot down.
Actually rolled my eyes when she announced baby 3.
I think they need some proper support.
Now it’s just constant excuses about why the house is a such a state and psycho babble about reasons for not being able to stop her children scrawling on the walls.
She’s coming across arrogant and defensive now. Genuine comments that aren’t in her favour get shot down.
Actually rolled my eyes when she announced baby 3.
I think they need some proper support.
She hasn’t got a thread but I think she needs one. This lass is constantly making up excuses as to why her house is an absolute mess. She couldn’t keep it clean with 2 kids let alone now expecting another. Now I know it doesn’t need to be like a show home but hers isn’t just a few toys around, there’s clothes everywhere, rubbish and general days and days of mess and grime. I wouldn’t judge for a few cups or some toys but when it’s general grime. That isn’t acceptable.
I really like Remi but I agree with this. It seemed like she was just starting to keep her head above water and have some stability. I'm a bit shocked that she wanted a third child, I'm so curious about her thought process. I think in a comment she said that they plan to be in a bigger house of their own next year, so at least they won't be crammed in there long term.
I don't think this was a great decision to make considering her financial and mental struggles she mentioned in her videos. In my opinion, you don't have to honour every life goal of your 15 year old self, regardless of how many children you've always wanted
For her sake I really hope her third is a super chill, easy kid.absolutely disgusting. great environment to bring a 3rd child into!
This shocked me too, less the mess and more her explanation about it
Like I get toys and stuff falling off the side and getting forgotten but what do you mean you leave food waste and crisp packets lying under your bed after eating in bed at night, and then giggling about how much people react to seeing this?She owns up to the fact that she just cannot register what needs doing at home easily and the most basic stuff demanding a lot of lists and reminders. Fair enough, we're all different. But why bring a third baby to the equation by choice then? Looks like her kids still don't sleep in their room yet either and everything is constant chaos. I really hope for their sake that they move to a more generous house soon. Blows my mind how people can bring kids to the world with so little planning and honest reflection about their situation. She also said if I remember correctly thst she's still saving for a down payment but she has a lot of worry about what would happen if she ir her partner lost their jobs or something. Like, you didn't consider that risk before getting pregnant? If you're on such thin ice, why make your situation more vulnerable on purpose?
She just blows my mind, I like her cleaning/decluttering content but I honestly question how her nearest deal with her impulsiveness sometimes.
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Even when the partner actively takes part in the running of the house, in their current state I doubt it would make much of a dent. Remi keeps saying that all of them are neurodivergent (in their case I think that's ADHD?) which is fair enough, but she seems so defensive about making her kids follow some basic rules at home. Boundaries aren't evil and having some order doesn't make someone any less of an artistic or creative person.
YB64-XUH
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There’s loads of defending her partner saying that he helps and I’m sure he does but probably that thing of him doing what he’s ‘asked’ to the basic standard that he needs to rather than actually seeing the tasks / mess himself so the mental load remains with her for everything and she refuses to see that