As the title reads, please no judgement, I’m just after advice, and support from anyone who has been in a similar situation. I’m not a horrible person, I’m just being honest.
I’ve been with my partner for 3.5 years, he has a 9.5 year old son. I don’t live with my partner and his son. I myself have a 12 year old son who I have the best relationship with. Honestly was so pleased that my partner had a son I thought it was ideal as we had an instant connection over it.
I had a rocky start with his son due to the fact my partners ex is the actual devil. Anyway we got past that and after a few months I was introduced to his son. It was very clear (I won’t go into detail) that his son had been poisoned against me by the ex and so I knew it was going to be more difficult but I was up for the challenge. I had my own son who is lovely and also adore all of my friends kids.
After 3.5 year we have developed zero and I mean zero relationship. If I’m being honest he irritates the hell out of me. I’ve tried to bond with him but he doesn’t like or take joy from anything. He’s just obsessed with the PlayStation 24/7. What doesn’t help is that he swears, has no manners and treats my partner like his live in slave. Which makes me dislike him.
I’m a bit of a discliplinarian and enforce my parenting skills when I’m around him and to be fair he likes my routine and never a argues back.
I’ve tried to arrange days out for us, he literally doesn’t enjoy them, he’s so miserable, and I take games over for us to play but he’s not interested.
Because of this I avoid seeing him, and probably only see him once a month properly and even that’s painful.
I know I sound awful but I really do want a relationship with him. I love my partner and we argue about it all the time as he says I’ve got no relationship with his son. Which I agree with but I feel like I’m at my wits end with it.
It really gets me down.
Does anyone have any advice? Or has been in a similar situation and they’ve managed to form a relationship?
Again please no judgement. x
I’ve been with my partner for 3.5 years, he has a 9.5 year old son. I don’t live with my partner and his son. I myself have a 12 year old son who I have the best relationship with. Honestly was so pleased that my partner had a son I thought it was ideal as we had an instant connection over it.
I had a rocky start with his son due to the fact my partners ex is the actual devil. Anyway we got past that and after a few months I was introduced to his son. It was very clear (I won’t go into detail) that his son had been poisoned against me by the ex and so I knew it was going to be more difficult but I was up for the challenge. I had my own son who is lovely and also adore all of my friends kids.
After 3.5 year we have developed zero and I mean zero relationship. If I’m being honest he irritates the hell out of me. I’ve tried to bond with him but he doesn’t like or take joy from anything. He’s just obsessed with the PlayStation 24/7. What doesn’t help is that he swears, has no manners and treats my partner like his live in slave. Which makes me dislike him.
I’m a bit of a discliplinarian and enforce my parenting skills when I’m around him and to be fair he likes my routine and never a argues back.
I’ve tried to arrange days out for us, he literally doesn’t enjoy them, he’s so miserable, and I take games over for us to play but he’s not interested.
Because of this I avoid seeing him, and probably only see him once a month properly and even that’s painful.
I know I sound awful but I really do want a relationship with him. I love my partner and we argue about it all the time as he says I’ve got no relationship with his son. Which I agree with but I feel like I’m at my wits end with it.
It really gets me down.
Does anyone have any advice? Or has been in a similar situation and they’ve managed to form a relationship?
Again please no judgement. x