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When is out of the woods as I’ve been told I’m post menopause but suffer badly with so many symptoms and have gained and am gaining so much weight.
Perhaps get your hormone levels checked in case something is amiss? The ladies I've spoken to have been post-menopausal for anything from 2 to 5 years plus. One lady told me she used to be cranky for as long as she could remember (possibly as early as puberty); as soon as menopause was over, she felt as if a huge cloud had lifted and she's finally enjoying life.
I had my blood work done last week and things were looking better apparently. But I’m so so tired, my joints ache and I’m not surprised with the extra weight I’m carrying.
Nobody really speaks about menopause, which is why many women do not know what to expect. I have 4 sisters and I asked them, but got varying answers and mostly, “well it didn’t affect me much” which is no help whatsoever. So it was a baptism of fire for me.
Didn‘t have a clue about peri-menopause either and at one point I thought I may have been pregnant because of missed periods. I kept a peri-menopause/period diary because my periods were becoming more and more infrequent and really heavy too.
I think I may be heading out of menopause now...although I will never be complacent about it because it can catch you unawares.
Talking of nobody speaking about menopause, remember when it would just be referred to as "The Change" 
I always found that a bit alarming. Like we would suddenly sprout hair and fangs at the first glimpse of a full moon
I always found that a bit alarming. Like we would suddenly sprout hair and fangs at the first glimpse of a full moon
Things are changing now. I constantly mention it to literally everyone, Male or Female. People think it's a female issue but I have a number of Male friends and 2 of them have gotten divorced over it, both divorces instigated by their wives. I think the change is actually a really good word as there seems to be a need to change your life during it. I had a great life, business doing well, loved working there and then all of a sudden I hated it and was desperate for a change. I wanted to move to Antigua. If your life is tit then the menopause can be a blessing but if, like me, your life was great and you were happy, it can be catastrophic. I would advise any woman to really stop and think before making any major, life changing decisions during the period of 45ish to 55ish. If you were happy upto that point then it's probably the fluctuating hormones driving the desire.
Does anyone have very sore joins, muscles. My ankles, legs are always so painful. I already take vitamin D, cal/ magnesium and turmeric. Do you have any magic potion?
Yes I do and No sadly I don't. I'm really trying to keep up the stretching to see if that helps. My joints are a bit better now but I'm sure that a prolapsd disc I had a few years ago was caused by menopause. It happened a couple of months after the anxiety and panic attacks started and that has caused ongoing problems. @Reflected view any news on weiging yourself and working out a pattern yet
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yeah I’m starting to form a pattern, iv been writing everything down, iv noticed that when I get certain symptoms my insomnia kicks in 
iv been getting really itchy ears and skin and my new symptom is my hair is starting to thin 
Yes, and yes! Spirulina powder stirred into a smoothie made with bananas, chocolate-flavoured collagen powder and lactose-free milk has changed my life. Without word of a lie! I've always loved spirulina and thought I'd give the collagen a try after looking and feeling so, so exhausted for so long. I still have my usual morning coffee but could probably go without it as my energy levels have been great. I'm two weeks in and very happy with the results. I'm not as hungry as usual either, which is a huge plus. I make mine in the morning and sip slowly on it throughout the day - I don't even need lunch as I'm not hungry.
It really is bizarre how many weird things happen. I wish I had paid more attention to my body when I was younger.Hey
A friend just got some collagen, I've been considering it myself as my hands have literally aged 10 years over the winter but if it's helping with other symptoms I'll definitely give it a go now. Thanks
I’m sure there will be many more strange symptoms to come, thank you for all the advice you have given
You're very welcome, hopefully understanding the pattern will make it easier to manage, the symptoms don;t go but forewarned is forearmed and it definitely helps those close to you.I’m sure there will be many more strange symptoms to come, thank you for all the advice you have given
I get this too. My problem seems to be like that I’m stretching out like crazy in my sleep
wake up aching. I’m starting Pilates next week to see if it helps. I will keep you posted xxxxI don't know about anyone else, but I feel I have a real intolerance to exercise. I never seem to feel any better off.
Iv always exercised 5-6 times per week since my late teens, I would exercise on holiday Xmas day you name it, but the past few years have been a real struggle for me with the lack of energy and motivation, I would go weeks just staying at home and not doing a thing then having to start all over again
but it’s hit me hard this year Iv only ran maybe handful of times since Xmas iv not renewed my gym membership either as feeling very anxious about going back it’s such a horrible cycle to be in , iv started taking a load of vitamins and I’m just now starting to feel a very slight improvement so fingers and toes crossed 
It's utter tit isn't it, I sold my business as I lost the love for it, so regret it now I know what the problem was. I know Women that were making in excess of £100k a year and have had to give up their jobs as they aren't coping, the brain fog is horrible, I went from a really switched on business person to someone that could barely function, couldn't spell, lost loads of things, actually thought I had early onset dementia.Iv always exercised 5-6 times per week since my late teens, I would exercise on holiday Xmas day you name it, but the past few years have been a real struggle for me with the lack of energy and motivation, I would go weeks just staying at home and not doing a thing then having to start all over again
Yes to everything you have said, iv even found myself with horrible thoughts of just walking away from my marriage thinking I’m better off on my own then a few days later I look at my husband and think I would be lost without you, my head gets so confused and mixed up at times. So thankful for this thread
The dissociation if horrible, I would have that at the same time as my weight peaked, I remember going to a BBQ with my entire family there, looking round at them and thinking, you know what all you lot do is trap me here, can't you all duck off and then I can move onYes to everything you have said, iv even found myself with horrible thoughts of just walking away from my marriage thinking I’m better off on my own then a few days later I look at my husband and think I would be lost without you, my head gets so confused and mixed up at times. So thankful for this thread
Thats when I realised what the hormones were doing to me as I had the smell and the weight gain at the same time. Looking back it had been going on for a couple of years atleast before I made the link. Look at the stories of women marrying some greek guy 20 years younger and nearly all the women are late 40's