Hey there! Yes I can totally relate - me and my husband have had countless arguments since the start of my pregnancy and I also had the same realisation as you, that I was being selfish and just because I was pregnant, it was suddenly all about me, my needs and my physical/mental health. I expected him to centre everything around me and I had to take a long hard look at myself and change my ways. As cliche as it may sound, I honestly think the best way to overcome this is lots of communication and self reflection - this in itself will make your relationship way more stronger. I can hand on heart say that we are in the strongest place we’ve ever been in since 2 years of marriage and I appreciate everything he does for me. (this is along with having a full time job with long hours) we still do have arguments, but they tend to be tiny little tiffs and we get over them after 5 minutes
no relationship is perfect after all and it would be weird if you didn’t argue at all! I also now try and ask my husband how his day is, how he feels, and try and schedule in a chat every night before we go to bed to make sure he’s going to sleep with a clear mind and alleviates any stressful things he is thinking about. Men appreciate this more than we think because it truly shows we care about their feelings and acknowledge that they’re human.
You could also maybe try some counselling regarding fears about parenting? I know that the parenting thing is completely natural, and as many lovely ladies on this thread have said, it comes naturally once baby is here (I imagine for both Mum and Dad!)
Sorry if this was not of much help, but I just thought I’d share my experiences with you and hopefully you’ll be over the worst of this soon. I do think it’s a very normal part of the journey as uncertainty and fear can often manifest themselves in this way and cause arguments amongst you both, but it’s normal and speaking about it all is always better than bottling it up. Best of luck to you
just wondering what pregnancy apps everyone recommends? I'm in the UK. It's been a while since I had my first and I'm not joking when I say it feels like I'm starting from scratch lol. Hope you're all keeping well and I'm so glad to have found this thread x
I find Ovia Pregnancy app really useful. It provides daily updates, good tips and it’s really cool to have 4 options of size comparisons on the weekly growth update 
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I appreciate the hospital want to monitor me but the wait times for the simplest of thing is crap. I was in triage the other night for 4 hours and today I sat for an hour before a midwife realised they didn’t know I was there so I spent 3 hours in day care to get my urine and BP checked and couldn’t even see a doctor as I couldn’t extend my parking anymore (left the hospital at 2pm and still waiting for a doctor to call me) 
Thankfully I’m still all clear for pre eclampsia which is the main thing but I’m struggling so much with mobility & breathing (my neck being swollen feels like it’s choking me). I don’t look like myself, I can’t even get my feet in crocs 
Apparently I’m just really really unlucky. Really need to reframe my mentally but the 7-ish week countdown to meet my little baby is on! Gutted I’m wishing this finally stretch away 
anyway, moan over - sorry for such negativity!
never felt so useless in all my life, hate being that waddling, whining pregnant woman but that’s all I am at the minute 
I stupidly walked round ikea yesterday and I thought I was having contractions when I got in the car the braxton hicks are so strong and the lightening crotch wowww