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Well said. I had a job some years ago but even after I left, I had to sign a document saying I wouldn't disclosure information for 20 years, even though it had long been irrelevant.
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She realised you were no longer going to be her 'I'm such a hero, look at what this amazing thing I did' story.
I’m so sorry you went through that and was then just cast aside by her. Awful that she was trying to force you into making a decision - anyone with even the most basic of training knows that you can only advise on options not try to force (& bully) people to do what you think they should!
I’m astounded that she invited you to stay with her - no offence to you, but you could be anybody and she’s inviting you to stay with her children? What about their safety? WTF??
Though I think she’s done that with a few women that she’s never met before and they’ve taken her up on the offer.
Did she offer to pay your travel expenses or offer you any money at all? (Just wondering about those PayPal donations).
Glad you feel like you’re in a better place now
No they investigate everything. If you think of it like a company and you’re not happy with the service, you submit a complaint to their complaints team. PSD, professional standards is the police equivalent. Sorta like the real life version of AC-12. With less serious bent cops. And they hang you out to dry if you’ve done something wrong
Thank you for clearing that up, I think I understand better now. So they would be interested in things such as his inappropriate use of social media etc.
Wow, that’s unbelievable. Especially what she said about losing your kidHope you’re okay now. If you don’t mind me asking, do you know when abouts it was that she stopped replying? Just curious where it fits in the lifestyle shift.
If I remember correctly I originally messaged her around feb/March last year and by the middle of April she was ignoring me. It was my child’s birthday beginning of may and I remember sitting and reading every message over and over again wondering if I had said something to piss her off, as she was just ignoring me. Then I thought duck it, I should be sat here looking for birthday gifts for my child so I blocked her and then a few days later I deleted my account.
I set up a new one in December and haven’t followed her since.
Thank you for the welcome. It’s worrying to think about just how vunerable I was and it wasn’t even a dv case, but for some who are in danger how things could turn out for them.
What’s also worrying is that just by messaging me, (I must add she never followed me on Instagram and my account was private) that she offered me to go and stay with her and her family, gave me her home address and her mobile number.......and I’m a complete stranger.
What if I was a husband if someone she had ‘helped’ that was pretending to be a vunerable lady (I’ve had a long time to think about this) and I found out that she was the one who had helped my other half escape and I was angry.
Giving out her details like that puts her children’s safety at risk which is why I believe she only cares about herself.
It was mentioned yesterday he’s been investigated ‘many times’ however after questioning it turns out it was twice. PSD would absolutely not spit you out twice. They are ruthless. But PSD would most definitely be interested if there were concerns
Definitely. But those concerns would have to be evidenced etc
Is this for action fraud? You don’t need to do those bits
It's the same for nursing. If you're doing something inappropriate etc then a report would be made and they would investigate. And by investigate I mean get to the bottom of it and not immediately think someone is to blame x
Just because I think I'm an internet detective, I tried all ve
I've checked same thing, I don't have your credentials but she has covered her arse or somebody has. You can apply yo have certain searchers removed from Google.
Absolutely. You have to hold yourself to a high standard even outside of work so as not to bring the force into disrepute. Obviously you’re allowed a Facebook etc, however most cops don’t use their real names. I look at half my friends and think who are you because names are switched, middle names are used, letters moved around. But that’s for your own safety. But you also have to be careful what you’re putting if you haven’t locked down your SM to Fort Knox level
Thank you. I’m in a better place now and I’ve well and truly had my eyes opened here.
For months I thought it was me, that I had said something wrong to upset her but it seems that this is the person she is.
Unfortunately I was hooked in with all the messages of all the training she had been given, safeguarding, child safety, domestic violence, drugs and alcohol abuse, ptsd, pedophiles, toxic relationships, narcissistic relationships etc.
It’s the others I worry about and I hope that they too can have their eyes opened before it’s too late for them and they follow advice from someone who they think can help them as her husband is a police officer and she has all this training but that clearly is a bullshit.
All done 
Would you mind if I DM you tomorrow sometime on here? Rather ask permission than slide right in given the sensitive nature of what you’ve shared.
All done
Yeahhhh you have.
That’s so risky. You could be anyone and she wouldn’t be any the wiser, you don’t just give out your home address to strangers on the internet! I mean, we teach that in Y4 ffs, there is no excuse for her not being aware of the dangers.
The more I read, the more concerned I am for the children involved (particularly the one not living in the main house) and feel that social services would be interested to know details like this. You can’t just invite strangers to live in your home, not when it’s the sole dwelling of 5 children. You CANNOT do that. As a parent, you have a responsibility to safeguard your children and yes that means not giving their address out online and inviting strangers to stay in their home. God, this has made me so angry.
The UN Convention on the Rights of the Child states that they have a legal right to be safe. Doesn’t bear thinking about what might happen to one of those children if she unwittingly invited a predator to live with them, and let’s remember these people are not all men, they can just as easily be female and pose as victims in order to get close to children
I don’t mind at allWould you mind if I DM you tomorrow sometime on here? Rather ask permission than slide right in given the sensitive nature of what you’ve shared.
I just love you two, always one step ahead@Qwerty6337 over to you.
Just used some of the issues here to have a Social Media Safety chat with my boy - asked him what he thought about a parent sharing so much about a child, B particularly as they are same age, and how he'd feel if I did that.
His answer..?
"I'd be so pissed off! I'd sleep in the shed!"
He doesn't even know B sleeps in the shed!!
Out of the mouths of babes, ehh?
His answer..?
"I'd be so pissed off! I'd sleep in the shed!"
He doesn't even know B sleeps in the shed!!
Out of the mouths of babes, ehh?
It’s the same for the job role I do. I have to look for and block any ‘clients’ even though my FB is set to private. I also have to remove any posts that could be interpreted as offensive. Some of my friends post jokes etc that come up on my newsfeed and I go sick if they’re abit iffy and quickly delete. It’s all about being professional not only at work but in your private life too.
Edited to clarify ‘iffy’ and ‘offensive’ .. I mean jokes that are abit cheeky or political musings and opinions. Nothing horrible!!
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I just genuinely don't get get the ig posts at the moment. Totally crazy. The last one. Sleeping and snoring. We all do or know someone who does. It's not funny really and doesn't deserve that weird laugh. I would be livid if someone posted me asleep snoring 
not sure I'd be so reserved to turn over and go back to sleep *cackle cackle cackle* 
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