One Day Of Winter #5 Bathroom locked, lentil slop, favouritism has to stop.

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I thought this was utterly ridiculous! Just use your brain? And she works/worked in a school?
I'm surprised she's allowed to post like she does on social media. I have family and friends who work in schools, and they're all under instructions to be as discreet as possible on social media, and keep their profiles as private as possible. They certainly wouldn't get away with slagging off different parenting or education styles.
 
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It's pretty sad really, obviously she has no friends to talk to or ask for advice so she lives her life through Instagram. And why does she even need advice about this, she's their mother! She hurts my head!
 
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What does her mum think of it all? Must be hard. Surely Nicola wasn't raised this way herself?
I think her family in general tried very hard to offer advice, which of course was declined. So I think her mum just goes along with her nonsense now instead of falling out with her.
 
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Wow, this woman really can’t do anything without having her hand held can she? Can’t even put her sick child to bed without having a one sided debate about doing so on bloody Instagram 🙄
It’s as if she just wants one person to agree with her, therefore making herself think she’s doing the right thing.
She got her mum to come round and hold Ember last night whilst she put Raven to bed 😂
Wow. I have no words.
 
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It’s as if she just wants one person to agree with her, therefore making herself think she’s doing the right thing.

Wow. I have no words.
I often wonder if these questions appear online when she's had a disagreement with Dean over how to handle a situation. I imagine she waits for someone online to agree with her so she can show him and say "see, I told you so!"
 
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I often wonder if these questions appear online when she's had a disagreement with Dean over how to handle a situation. I imagine she waits for someone online to agree with her so she can show him and say "see, I told you so!"
That would make perfect sense. Her online community probably have more of a say than poor Dean.
 
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I think her family in general tried very hard to offer advice, which of course was declined. So I think her mum just goes along with her nonsense now instead of falling out with her.
After the awful death of her baby, I imagine the family just want her to be happy. But at what cost? Some of the stuff she says and does is just madness.

The tone of her post about her girls teaching her I find so creepy. I have a relative who raised her kid as strict "raw" vegan. They also homeschooled, family bed etc for years too. She was OBSESSED with the kids being "natural" living naturally etc but much more than that she was obsessed with then being with her 24/7. There were loads of issues at play and the family and kids were very isolated and didn't socialise, but everyone ignored it (I was a kid myself at the time) and went along because the mum was happy after severe trauma/addiction etc. Very long story, but the children ended up living with their Dad + step family and don't really have contact now with their mum as adults. Anyway...it's different but I just see many parallels with Pea. This isn't a comment about gentle parenting, it's about centering yourself and your wants, needs and traumas as the most important thing in your relationship with your children, under the pretense of doing the very best for them. And expecting your children to heal you, teach you, nurture you in return for giving them this wonderful life. Most of the time it backfires against the mum when kids start rejecting that dynamic.
 
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not being funny but don’t believe for a minute that kid wrote her name independently “completely out of the blue” she’s clearly been taught the letters at some point cos it’s not like she’s got a name you can easily decode into letter like sounds.

there’s nothing wrong with supporting your kid to learn to weite their name at 4 years old, but let’s call it what it is shall we- she’s learned to write her name over a period of time with practice she hasn’t just done that out of the blue 🤥
 
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not being funny but don’t believe for a minute that kid wrote her name independently “completely out of the blue” she’s clearly been taught the letters at some point cos it’s not like she’s got a name you can easily decode into letter like sounds.

there’s nothing wrong with supporting your kid to learn to weite their name at 4 years old, but let’s call it what it is shall we- she’s learned to write her name over a period of time with practice she hasn’t just done that out of the blue 🤥
You take that back! That child is a genius!

😐🙄😂

Is this not a common thing for a child to be able to do at the age of 4, after a year at nursery?
 
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You take that back! That child is a genius!

😐🙄😂

Is this not a common thing for a child to be able to do at the age of 4, after a year at nursery?
Definitely not, my kids could write their names at 3/4. It’s lovely that she finds great pleasure in her kids doing stuff but it’s really irritating when she makes out they are geniuses. When they are average, not in a horrible way at all, but just generally hitting normal average milestones. The way she talks it’s like she’s trying to convince herself by thinking they are so far advanced. One of my kids was crawling at 6 months and walking at 7months, doesn’t mean she was forward in developing it’s just kids do it at different times. She finds ember easier to deal with and gasps at how good she is at sleeping when she puts her down etc. But this is because she is parenting ember differently even if she doesn’t acknowledge it. Ember sleeps in her prom well because she has been allowed to etc. She is probably more mobile because she is left to find her own way whilst pea is occupied by Raven.
 
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How many days has Damien been wearing that scraggy blue dress now?? Stop being such a scruff, pea
 
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This mornings video of Ember pulling herself up and standing is lovely and you’d think she’d be the focus of one video… nooooo! “Sound on as Ray randomly tells me she loves me!” Then telling Raven Embers standing in a wet pathetic way, not building excitement for Embers achievement or getting Raven to praise her! 🙄🤬 She doesn’t seem to promote them building a relationship!
 
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How many days has Damien been wearing that scraggy blue dress now?? Stop being such a scruff, pea
Isn’t this the third day? Did she have it on when she apparently wasn’t well? It’s pure laziness on Nicola’s part.
 
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You take that back! That child is a genius!

😐🙄😂

Is this not a common thing for a child to be able to do at the age of 4, after a year at nursery?
No, recognising her name on paper would be more like it. Being able to write it this young is a big deal, but she’s definitely been taught how to do it!
 
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It's not a big deal. I've known plenty of four year olds to be able to write a lot more than their own name, especially girls. My own was reading fluently at 3 and writing sentences at 4. Very common.
 
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Definitely not, my kids could write their names at 3/4. It’s lovely that she finds great pleasure in her kids doing stuff but it’s really irritating when she makes out they are geniuses. When they are average, not in a horrible way at all, but just generally hitting normal average milestones. The way she talks it’s like she’s trying to convince herself by thinking they are so far advanced. One of my kids was crawling at 6 months and walking at 7months, doesn’t mean she was forward in developing it’s just kids do it at different times...
You'd think in her line of work she'd know this.

My kid started school last September. He lost half his nursery year to lockdown, so we had to do a lot of stuff at home to prepare him for school. The information we were given by both the nursery and the school said that amongst other things, they would expect the children to be able to write at least their first names and preferably their surname too, and to recognise their full name written down. (Obviously this was kids with no known learning difficulties.)

Raven has managed more of a nursery year than my child did, and we all know how much Nicola loves to show off her learning games and the exercise books she buys her. There's no way she was shocked that she can write her own first name. I'd actually be more surprised if she couldn't do it.
 
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