Nose job- talk me off the ledge

[SqualorVictoria]

I have a love/ hate relationship with my strong nose. Sometimes I love that it gives me character and isn't cookie cutter. On bad days, it really gets me down. Unfortunately, today is one of those days.

On one hand, I'd love to get it done but I'd worry about the risks and above all, I feel I would be given into idealised beauty standards. I've spoken at length to a friend about this over the years and he has begged me not to but I'm just having one of those days that it's really getting me down and it's all I can see when I look in the mirror.

Has anyone else ever felt like this?

 

[under the ivy]

I hate my nose. It got broken in high school playing hockey and ever since then has been left with a bump. Got bullied for it (been called a witch, Pinocchio). I’d love to have a nose job but like you, I’m more scared of it if goes wrong/the surgery itself. I’ve been looking into nose fillers to even out the bump, have you looked into them?

 

[SqualorVictoria]

I'm so sorry you had to go through that bullying. I was also called names as a teenager. Kids are so cruel

I'm not sure fillers would help me as it would still be strong. Plus I've seen from some influencers that it could make the problem worse.

I've just read over some of the texts from my friend who is vehemently anti nose jobs and it's helped a bit so I'll post the general context of his messages here in case it helps someone else.

He mentioned the Jennifer Grey effect where she had a cute and quirky look that got her the starring role in Dirty Dancing. After her nose job she was still pretty but had lost that look that made her quirky. He made the excellent point that she wouldn't have been cast in that role had her features been a problem

He also said that Sarah Michelle Gellar wanted to get a nose job on her unique nose but had she done that, she would have lost her charm

He's right. I'll try to embrace individuality!

 

[under the ivy]

He sounds like a great friend! Yeah, people always tell me I wouldn’t be me without my nose. I look at Cheryl Cole (Tweedy, whatever she’s called now!) & she’s absolutely stunning IMO and has a bump on her nose. But that’s ‘her’.

I think it’s all about self-esteem and confidence. Nose jobs are £7,000-£10,000. Thinking about it, there’s lots of things I could do with that about of money to make me happy rather than a nose job.

 

[tinyblue1979]

I got a non surgical nose job last year. It was great as never had the guts (or cash!) to get an actual nose job. It was £350 and got rid of the bump on my nose. It’s warn off now so need to book my next one!

 

[Scorpihoe]

I can’t talk you off the ledge because I’m currently on it too also nose jobs can be between 7-10k, but they can also be more affordable, like between 3-4k. My friend got a nose job in Turkey last year by a very reputable surgeon, the hotel and transfers all included and she looks fab and is happier than ever.

my point is, life is too short to be down about it, if you know it’ll make you happy, go for it. BUT research a lot, look at all your options (like fillers), and then really decide.

my boyfriend recently said to me, “let’s say you have a nose job, and we have kids who get your old nose. How would you feel if they got super upset and down about the fact that their nose doesn’t look like yours? Would you also advocate plastic surgery to them?” And that put me off it for a WHILE

 

[under the ivy]

I would definitely consider a filler to see what my face looked like without making the ‘permanent’ choice that surgery does. Sorry OP for talking about myself here! I can just relate to everything you’ve said about your nose. In a way it’s nice to know other people have the same insecurities I do, hope that makes sense x

 

[SqualorVictoria]

I would definitely consider a filler to see what my face looked like without making the ‘permanent’ choice that surgery does. Sorry OP for talking about myself here! I can just relate to everything you’ve said about your nose. In a way it’s nice to know other people have the same insecurities I do, hope that makes sense x

Please don't be sorry, I'm so glad I posted here and love hearing other peoples stories xx

 

[chocolate choux]

Does it help to think about it from someone else’s point of view? No matter what it looks like, someone else thinks it’s a cute nose. There’s a particular nose type which isn’t considered ‘ideal’ that I find really pretty - I actually felt a little sad when I saw a girl with this nose (that I followed online) had got surgery and ‘ruined’ it - silly I know!

I feel the same way about my nose at times but not as bad as in the past. Noses are difficult because they’re splat bang in the middle of the face, a very noticeable feature, but you can work on accepting it. Contouring and/or using make up to draw attention to your other features might temporarily help

In my case, I’ve largely accepted that my nose isn’t that bad. When I was obsessing about it, I felt as if it was like a pig’s snout. When I actually looked at it, I realised my ideal nose wasn’t much different and definitely wasn’t worth paying thousands to achieve

Also, it’s worth exploring why these bad days happen. I have bad days when I get upset and obsess over my imperfections, and only recently I began to question why I was suddenly feeling like this. Some days it’s because I’m upset about something else but I’m subconsciously trying to repress those feelings, some days I realise my period is due so it’s hormones (I recommend tracking your cycle if you don’t already). It’s good to figure these things out, I feel so much more in control now as I understand where these feelings are coming from

 

[drewydrop]

I had a nose-job when I was 22. I’d hated my side profile all my life and was so self-conscious of it, hated pictures of myself and thought it would cure all my problems. It was my dads family nose, with a bump in it. I liked it from the front but hated my profile. An insensitive family member made a comment about it a family party and I was so upset and made the decision to go change it. My parents were supportive and my dad understood as I have his nose and has been teased for having a strong nose too but looking back I was too young and didn’t research it enough or ask as many questions as I was so embarrassed by it.
Im now 37 and do regret it. I’ve been left with a narrow nostril so have a stuffy nose constantly and in photos it doesn’t look straight. I also noticed after years they’d took too much bone from the bridge so it had a scooped look to it. No one notices and are surprised when I tell them I’ve had it down but I still hate my profile which was the reason I got it done in the first place!
I had some filler put in the bridge 18months ago to fill in the dent and I’m so much happier with it, I just wish I had done that years ago instead of surgery but then who knows, I might’ve still hated it. Hind sight is a wonderful thing. I think my point is I thought it was going to make me happy and change my life but it didn’t, just brought me a whole lot more insecurities and problems. Also as I’m older, I feel bad that I’ve rejected the family nose! Plus these days I feel society is more accepting of quirks but I also know how much I hated it and insecure I felt.

 

[Trolleydollycoffeelover]

Hi! I’m trying to talk my friend out of getting a nose job actually. She’s got a strong nose and really suits her face but she says it’s all she sees when she looks in the mirror. She did that nose filler thing and honestly I didn’t notice. I have told her I fancy men with big noses (for me it completes them!) and for sure there are men who fancy women with stronger features too- she def isn’t short of male admirers. A lot of people now wear nose jobs as a badge of honour, especially in countries like Iran and Turkey but you can spot the scooped out look a mile off. If it ain’t broke don’t fix it as long as you have a healthy, functioning nose!

 

[Lico]

My daughter had a nose job when she was 18. I hadn't realised that she hated her nose for years, and was very self conscious about it. I didn't think there was anything wrong with it. But she did. And there was no talking to her otherwise.
So we went to a recommended surgeon, got all the information. She got it done. It is a big operation, and for 2 weeks after, the recovery is tough.
But she is a changed woman. It has given her so much confidence. It was the right decision for her.

 

[AutumnSpring]

I had a nose job five years ago now and although as mentioned above it isn’t “perfect” (whose nose is?) I feel a thousand times more confident compared to before, it’s competely changed my life. I don’t mind having photos taken now, I’m not paranoid when talking to people side on or when I smile. Probably not what you wanted to hear but it’s the truth.
Be aware though it’s completely changed the rest of my face shape (I’ve also gained 4 stone so that might be something to do with it )

 

[Kindred_]

Can anyone recommend a good clinic or surgeon? I’ve had abit of a nightmare with Harley medical!

 

[AutumnSpring]

Can anyone recommend a good clinic or surgeon? I’ve had abit of a nightmare with Harley medical!

I went to Spire and my surgeon was very conservative. However after having mine done and further research I would of chosen Lucian Ion. He is the UK god of noses in my opinion x

 

[Kindred_]

I went to Spire and my surgeon was very conservative. However after having mine done and further research I would of chosen Lucian Ion. He is the UK god of noses in my opinion x

thank you I’ll have a look into him
ive wanted this done for over 10 years, decided to bite the bullet this year but haven’t found the right place for me!

 

[Raininvain]

Whats all this strong nose talk? just say a big nose.
OP people are generally pathetic and sad who make fun of noses but if you want it done get it done.

 

[SqualorVictoria]

Whats all this strong nose talk? just say a big nose.
OP people are generally pathetic and sad who make fun of noses but if you want it done get it done.

"From Longman Dictionary of Contemporary English strong nose/chin/features a nose etc that is large and noticeable, especially in an attractive way She has the same strong features as her mother."

Strong is a perfectly fine way to describe a nose, in the same way that "delicate" can be used to describe small features. I'm glad you didn't post that comment when I was having a bad day @Raininvain !

Thanks to all that posted here. I was having a bad day but I like my strong, sorry big, features. I'll keep the thread open in case I have another bad day!