BettyCrocker
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Why are you putting up with this?!Hello!
Myself and my partner have been together for just over a year and it was not until this year that he stopped contact with his previous girlfriend. They had been together for six years and broke up in 2017. She didn’t take the break up very well but they remained good friends (they weren’t engaged and had no kids together) we’re all between the ages of 23 and 25.
I was not happy about them being friendly with each other as he still had phone calls with her and meet up for a coffee plans. Anything he’d post on social media, she’d like it straight away unless it was something that had me featured in it. I warned him that I thought she still clearly had a big thing for him but he insisted she didn’t as any time he’d want to get back together with her she’d say no. I basically gave him an ultimatum and felt really out of order about it because I believed him that they were just friends, I just didn’t want her lingering over us for the rest of our relationship.
at the start of this year, He told her that he didn’t want contact with her anymore and she basically saw it as an opportunity to confess her undying love for him but he told her it would never happen and she went in a mood and took it upon herself to message his mother to complain about this decision! His mother of course took her side and I look like the bad person.
His brother recently had a baby and she of course has stuck her nose into it and has been visiting and overly friendly with his family and has been non stop messaging my boyfriend again about the newborn.
Has anybody else got similar stories to this? All my friends think it’s bizarre and until he got rid of her (or tried to) I felt like I was in a three way relationship!
sorry but this is not a case of this girl clinging onto your boyfriend-he’s equally at fault and is a willing participant. If her really didn’t want to have anything to do with her then, frankly, she wouldn’t be an issue. She’s still in his life because he wants her to be, wether he admits that to you or himself or not.
you obviously can’t control wether she has a relationship with any other members of his family, but again, if your boyfriend really was finished with her I’m sure he could speak to his family and put an end to that.