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She’s out at the fun fair tonite mind blogging stuff personally I couldn’t be that person
Ah Jesus, what do you want her to do?! Sit at home crying. You have to try and get back into some normality, the longer you lock yourself away the harder it will be. I wouldn't be grudge a young widow a few hours out of the house to try and live a little like.
 
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Fitzytour

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I lost my baby boy three years ago, within 4 days I was booked into a five star hotel with my partner. I spent that month out every weekend. anything to distract.

I went on multiple holidays in the months after. but behind it I was drinking way too much and miserable.

it's not for anyone to judge how someone grieves.
 
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monkeycat

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I’m not but I think the carry on of her sick and all for her own benefit
In the most respectful way possible, I think you need to lay off a bit. I know this is tattle but you are constantly posting, often multiple posts in a row, calling her “vile” and “sick” without any justification. You may not agree with how she’s handling her grief and that’s fine. But calling her “vile” and “sick” is a bit of a reach. I think you’ve made it pretty clear how you feel about her, I don’t think there’s any need to keep posting variations of the same thing. Fair enough if she does something new and you feel the need to comment on it, but you’re just posting the same things over and over, without anything new to comment on.
 
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Samsparrow

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Jesus for fuck sake nobody knows what to do in these situations...at the end of the day she needs to survive and get on with life.i don't think anyone should be judging in this situation, most of us know whow we would react...and shouldn't we all be so grateful we don't. Let's just be a little kinder here
 
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Tellyawhat

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She’s out at the fun fair tonite mind blogging stuff personally I couldn’t be that person
The nights are long and lonely enough for her.. good on her friends for dragging her out and giving her something different to think about for a little bit
 
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Due to circumstances, think it's apt to not have a thread title.
obviously if anyone has an issue can report to mods & amend this
 
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Samsparrow

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I'm just shocked that people would be so negative of a person that lost her husband and begrudge her going outside with her friends...I thankfully have never lost somebody so close to me but I would think in this day and age we are beyond the old age thinking. I'm sure that's not what her husband would of wanted.are we really that bad we want a young girl to wallow up in pure misery....what would we all want our friends to do in the same situation?
 
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Shanto

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Its actually good to see here doing something and it looks like theres a decent bunch with her. She needs real friends now while this all processes. Everyone grieves differently so I cant honestly get on a high horde and criticise this girl in the current situation she is in. I hope shes doing OK genuinely
 
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MrsGyllenhall

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Each to their own,but making funny TikToks about being a Widow is very strange to me🫤Feel sorry for Jamies family
 
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roo689

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Oh well then I’m sure he had a great protection policy in place… the best of the best.. her mortgage is probably paid off and then she’d be getting payments or one large payment as well , thank god no financial worries during such a loss

I agree, I find it so bizarreto post him so much to hundreds of thousands of random people online…. I do think he deserves more privacy

Mortgage protection is voluntary not compulsory when purchasing a house
In Ireland? You can’t draw down a mortgage without it
 
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manpyj89

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a friend of a friend is a young widow so maybe I’m just seeing things from her perspective but she takes her rings off on holidays too. Last thing she wants to do is meet strangers and when they see the rings they ask about a spouse and she gets questions and sympathy that she doesn’t want and feels like she has to tell them the intricacies of the most traumatic thing that’s happened to her.
 
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Ear4anose

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Her latest pic of the marriage cert and death cert. OK, at first I thought that is so incredibly sad.
Then I thought, wait...who the hell goes off to get their marriage cert in their house and line it up to take a pic of it with the death cert, then posts it online and says it was an unpleasant day of admin....following by a smiley :)....... make it make sense. She desperately needs some therapy I find it so sad. She is very lost. I really hope her family rally around her as I see an epic fall coming. She needs help it's very sad.
 
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manpyj89

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Agreed. She’s like a teenage girl… so awful what happened to her husband I really am so empathetic regarding that but I do find the multiple posts about him a day quite bizarre… pushing these personal stories out to her hundreds of thousands of random strangers online… I don’t care what you say but it is using him as content
Not having a go at you (or anyone in particular!) but the times she doesn’t post him and posts about what she’s up to people aren’t happy then either. She’s in a lose lose situation. Whether we like it or not, Instagram is her job and most other people who are widowed would also be back to work by now too. Im not a niamh fan and certainly would have had criticism to say before Jamie died but I have a lot of sympathy for her now. I really feel like she can’t win one way or the other with what she posts
 
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I got up at 5am

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I’ve no doubt he adored her but everything she posts is how much he loved her etc. it’s never how much she loved him or how good he was. It’s like the sum of his life was loving Niamh. Main character energy all the time
 
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Tellyawhat

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I think her being out and about with her friends is her way of coping and distracting herself which is fair enough. I do think she is really overdoing the mourn porn of posting whatsapp messages and Valentine's card they are private if you don't post it when they're alive you shouldn't post in their death
 
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I got up at 5am

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Georgie Crawford’s tribute to Jamie on world cancer day is 😬😬😬 it’s all about Niamh. I guess she is doing it for engagement and shares but it’s weird af for people to speak as if he did nothing in his life but love her. I’d hate to be reduced to such shallow bullshit
 
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MiamooMoo

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It’s awful and I’m not a hun, but I would hate my private personal messages posted online after I’m gone. It feels such a violation. I know I’m old and don’t get it all. But it’s wrong imo.
 
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MrsGyllenhall

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Business as normal for Niamh!

Maybe i'm old fashioned/judgemental..but if i was Jamies family I would find this very hard to look at.

Yes life goes on,no one knows how people are behind closed doors etc etc..but this type of posting just seems a bit too much to me so soon after poor Jamies passing🤷‍♀️
 

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Ear4anose

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One second it's sad grieving widow post, next she is on the piss and then again sad grieving widow post, then onto a sauna rave of which she decides to put the "gimme a man after midnight" as the backing track.

I know everyone grieves differently, but the constant switch between deep emotional posts and attention seeking/flirty stuff gives me the ick. Very performative.

I feel sorry for his family.
She shares his private messages and letters etc and then off party party party. Disgusting.

I have second hand embarrassment.
 
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