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About 4 days after we got home from hospital. Immediate family popped in to see us the day we got home but friends came over a few days later.
They were waiting for me at home after I left hospital!
duck that. Really?! I can’t think of anything worse!!!!
Still waiting for them to come 2 months later
We had family gradually filter through a few days after we were home & settled(ish)
After my husband went back to work and had friends come round to entertain me and help
Same. In laws massively over stayed their welcome and I ended up with horrendously engorged boobs as my milk had come in because I didn’t want to feed in front of them.
Don’t be afraid to set boundaries! I was not at all prepared for how vulnerable you feel after you have a baby
Nah I asked them!! It was lovely!!
Is that because you haven't asked yet or because they haven't been able to make it?Still waiting for them to come 2 months later
We had family gradually filter through a few days after we were home & settled(ish)
They were told they were all welcome to come round, and they all know I'm feeling very isolated (I had twins) and I constantly get "I will call up x,y,z" and they never materialise.
Gosh that's awful. I'm on the other side. My best friend's baby is 8 weeks old...20mins away and yet to have an invite.
I didn't want to pressure her and have sent two messages 3 weeks apart asking if she's okay and if she needs anything. Both times she has mentioned needed to get me and another friend over to meet the baby but when I make suggestions no reply...
We have been drifting be apart all year so wanted to make sure I want being unreasonable in expecting to see her within 8 weeks. I sent her a basket of goodies too for her family and she was greatful.
Another friend had a baby and she invited me to visit in the hospital.
Do you think maybe she's worried about Covid? And the same for those who have expected visitors who've not appeared, could they maybe be being careful around a new baby?
I know with the friends I expected they're not overly bothered, they're out on the piss most weekends which is obviously more enjoyable than coming and sitting with me for an hour or so
I did wonder that but her brother has just come back from holiday and had been round there. She is also doing way more than I am. I still work from home and am basically living in self isolation.
When we met up ( once when she was pregnant) she suggested a restaurant and I said no because of covid and she seemed to think I was overreacting.
Perhaps il just wait and see if she messages me. I just didn't want her to feel alone or that her friends were not interested.
Bless you. I'm sorry you feel like that, I found it hard with one premature baby years ago, how you must feel with twins is something else
You've offered and reached out so have done your bit, I agree wait and see.
Tbf holidays mean you’re tested and lots of baby groups expect lateral flows so she could be more concerned than you think.
Perhaps make it clear that you’re in practical isolation and prepare to test before visiting so you can be sure it’s not a factor.
I’d keep the offer of a visit open but don’t take it personally if she doesn’t take it up until baby gets to 4-6 months old. I don’t think I was properly settled and confident until around then. Just trying to breast feed baby with guests there was a stressor despite being a confident Mum generally for instance.
i gave birth 2 weeks ago and weve refused to let my husbands parents come see the little baba yet
his sister has come over for a holiday for a month as she hasnt been home for 15 years from america and staying with his parents
no way am i letting people who have flown through 3 airports to come see the baba espically with increasing cases
so it hasnt gone down well that she cant see her nephew while shes visiting
his sister has come over for a holiday for a month as she hasnt been home for 15 years from america and staying with his parents
no way am i letting people who have flown through 3 airports to come see the baba espically with increasing cases
so it hasnt gone down well that she cant see her nephew while shes visiting
Only our parents and siblings have seen our baby so far. But because she was very prem we were told to avoid people seeing her over the winter period however over Christmas we’ll be visiting my home city and all my friends and family are coming to meet her and I can’t wait. We’ve had quiet the traumatic journey and they’ve all been supporting us from afar so it’s going to be quite emotional everyone meeting her. People however know that if they have a cold or anything to keep away.
Completely understandable. I'm extremely careful with covid. I do 2 tests a week just to see my boyfriend who is also working from home.
I did message and say how are you doing and she had just been to her brothers who had been on holiday. I asked if he had to do a covid test and she said no . I told her I'd be more than happy to do one right before I came in and she said she's not concerned about it at all.
Our friendship has changed so much in the past few years. Think I'm trying to be friends with someone that hasn't been interested in a long time.
I did message and say how are you doing and she had just been to her brothers who had been on holiday. I asked if he had to do a covid test and she said no . I told her I'd be more than happy to do one right before I came in and she said she's not concerned about it at all.
Our friendship has changed so much in the past few years. Think I'm trying to be friends with someone that hasn't been interested in a long time.