My partner is watching webcam girls

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Would you think it was cheating if your partner regularly watched live webcam girls?
 
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No I wouldn’t say it’s cheating but it’s the lies that would bother me.
 
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Not cheating , but I would not accept it as appropriate behaviour for someone in a long term fulfilling relationship. Basically I'd go mental
 
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Cheating, no. As a one off it wouldn’t bother me. Regularly or if it started to replace sex, dealbreaker. A loving, committed relationship should have no need for regularly watching live webcam girls. If that was me I’d be like, ‘I’m right here and I’m the best you’re gonna get hun!’
 
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Cheating? No.
Completely unacceptable/sleazy/disrespectful - yes.

It’s out of order.
Presumably he’s having to pay for this service? I’d wonder how much he’s been spending on it? That’s also an issue.
 
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How did you find out?
I don’t think it’s right at all, and I’d feel very uncomfortable with it.
 
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Yeah, would be a deal breaker for me.

Firstly the exploitation - they're all exploited in one way or another, not as in the girls are all trafficked, but financially, when you are on those webcams, the owner of the site takes so much of a cut from what you earn. When you do well, you end up getting forfeited for the most stupid reasons, such as they'd do a random view of your camera and notice the sound quality or picture quality didn't match their expectations or the lighting wasn't adequate or you said something they didn't like... so they'd make deductions from your earnings.

Also, to be a webcam model/entertainer or whatever, they request a copy of your ID. Fair enough to prove age, but I know for a fact they sold images of mine...

I did it about six years ago as I was a bit of an exhibitionist and got a thrill from it until I understood how degrading it was. The men who watched were ALL trash, no exceptions. They believe they pay and therefore own you for a specific time. The girls have to be nice otherwise....financial penalties and deductions from previous earnings (they don't pay out until you get to certain amounts so they always have your money to hold you to ransom). It's just disgusting, I'm glad I grew up.

I don't know your position with your partner, but paying to view a person does reflect on him and shows how he views women as sex objects. I hope it's not family money he is paying. He could be spending that on you....the real thing!

I wouldn't say it's cheating, though we all have different boundaries of what we would accept in a relationship (I wouldn't accept my husband doing this), but if he paid a random woman at work or in a club to undress for him and speak to him sexually, would you consider that cheating?

Also, sorry you've caught him doing this. It's no reflection on you, I'm sure you're stunning and you're right there in front of him and he's been a dick thinking with his dick. Do you really want to be with someone who views women like this? Either way, I wish you well. X
 
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I would yes and he would no longer be needing to watch webcams as he would have no nob left to play with 🤣
 
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I'd see it as cheating as in emotional cheating!?? Next step is physical !
I'd kill him!!
I’m with you on this one! I’d take the fuse out of his laptop charger and let the battery run down before he would have a clue what was happening! Or change his password.

Then when he couldn’t get on the laptop I’d tell him I knew everything and kick his sorry ass to the curb. Maybe I’ve watched a bit too much Doctor Foster 😬

But that truly is an awful thing to do. He is communicating with a real woman, albeit paying for her time.
 
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I’m with you on this one! I’d take the fuse out of his laptop charger and let the battery run down before he would have a clue what was happening! Or change his password.

Then when he couldn’t get on the laptop I’d tell him I knew everything and kick his sorry ass to the curb. Maybe I’ve watched a bit too much Doctor Foster 😬

But that truly is an awful thing to do. He is communicating with a real woman, albeit paying for her time.
I'm a doctor and have had 16/17 year old patients dealing with their boyfriends doing this and everytime I will curse to the heavens and make sure they dump them lol. One of them broke her fellas laptop and I unfortunately obviously had to be like "--- you can't do that no matter how you feel" but inside and to all the staff I was like !!!! That's! My ! Girl ! 😭😂😂😂

It's deffo cheating to me !! They can request things etc it's so bad !

Haven't seen dr foster !! Good ??
 
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I'm a doctor and have had 16/17 year old patients dealing with their boyfriends doing this and everytime I will curse to the heavens and make sure they dump them lol. One of them broke her fellas laptop and I unfortunately obviously had to be like "--- you can't do that no matter how you feel" but inside and to all the staff I was like !!!! That's! My ! Girl ! 😭😂😂😂

It's deffo cheating to me !! They can request things etc it's so bad !

Haven't seen dr foster !! Good ??
I couldn’t have held back if I were you, I’d have been hi fiving her! I have had to watch a sister getting treated like dirt by her bfs in the past so I can’t bite my tongue when I see women being treated badly.

Web cam girls are one step away from visiting a sex worker or having an affair imo.

Doctor Foster is really good! Good twists and brilliant cast.
 
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I couldn’t have held back if I were you, I’d have been hi fiving her! I have had to watch a sister getting treated like dirt by her bfs in the past so I can’t bite my tongue when I see women being treated badly.

Web cam girls are one step away from visiting a sex worker or having an affair imo.

Doctor Foster is really good! Good twists and brilliant cast.
Love Doctor Foster!
 
Wouldnt say cheating but a defiant no from me. If its the same girl its even worse, I'd class that as emotional cheating.
My partner openly admits he views 'adult websites' and tbh sometimes I do.
But its not as intimate, were not paying for it and it doesn't affect 'our time'
 
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Hmm I wouldn't say it's cheating but I would lose it if that was my OH! I just find it disrespectful, I find it to be more intimate because they can request things. To me it is far different to just watching porn every now and then, maybe if the webcam was a one off I wouldn't lose it so much with him but if it was all of the time I'd seriously consider my relationship with him.
 
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