My mom’s wearing white at my wedding. Thoughts?

[Kitt]

So I’m getting married in 3 weeks. Yesterday my mom showed me a photo of what she’s wearing. It’s a floor length flowy black and white dress. Like wide stripes so it’s very large portions white and black. I personally think it’s super bad etiquette for anyone to wear white at a wedding except the bride. Also my dress is knee length so she’ll be wearing a long white dress and i feel like next to me it’ll be weird? We’re only having four guests and it’s just a registry office followed by dinner and drinks in my parents garden so the weddings not a ‘huge day’ type deal so I’m trying to not care but it’s definitely on my mind. I don’t know, what do you think?


Additional information - when I saw the dress I was just shocked and said ‘yeah thats nice’ but didn’t think to say anything about it being black and white immediately. Also my mom can be a bit funny if you say anything she doesn’t like. We’re close but our relationship isn’t at a level where I can call stuff out without there being tension.

 

[JoeBloggs]

It’s hard to gauge without a photo and understandably I understand why you haven’t posted on. But I think black and white would be ok, but this is YOUR wedding and if your not happy call her out on it. This isn’t a party this is your wedding.

Perhaps drop in that you’ve been thinking about it you hate when guest wear anything with white on it and as her if she’s got a 2nd option.

My mum gets funny over things and I tend to go along with things to save the hassle but for my wedding, no.

 

[Lollipop2123]

If its black and white I can't see the issue? But tell her if it's upsetting you x

 

[mcfeez]

I think black and white sounds fine. It doesn't sound like anyone would mistake it for a bridal dress.

 

[Kitt]

Yeah I’ve spoken to my best friend this morning and she said it’s weird but they’re different enough that it looks okay. Most important thing is we’re getting married.

Think I’m just worrying about small things because I’m actually stressed about the big thing. We’ve already had our wedding cancelled once so I just want this one to go ahead (please no local lockdowns) and be special and go well.

 

[laughing]

I actually think it's fine if the Brides mother wears white, anyone else is a no no.

Have a great day x.

 

[Tui]

If it’s not just a block colour but stripes then I think it will be fine. Actually better than when women wear pale creams etc to weddings. You’ll be fine! Enjoy the day

 

[mcfeez]

Yeah I’ve spoken to my best friend this morning and she said it’s weird but they’re different enough that it looks okay. Most important thing is we’re getting married.

Think I’m just worrying about small things because I’m actually stressed about the big thing. We’ve already had our wedding cancelled once so I just want this one to go ahead (please no local lockdowns) and be special and go well.

Have a great day! Fingers crossed for you. I think it sounds like a really lovely intimate wedding.

 

[bellinibobble]

I think if it’s stripy, you’ll be okay, but if it bothers you, you should definitely say something to your mum.

 

[eyeballs]

Black and whites fine. If you’re not happy say something

 

[hnoz]

In my experience it’s pretty common for mother of the bride to wear a white or cream outfit.
Since it’s black and white stripes I don’t think it’s going to look more formal than yours.

 

[openbook1]

I think it sounds fine. She is your mum, surely if you are bothered you can tell her?

 

[HoneyBee29]

My mum wore a white floral dress to my wedding it didn’t bother. I was in Ivory anyway not white. On the day you won’t even care too much else is happening and going on

 

[Lauren1994]

If you don’t want to tell her you don’t like her dress or don’t want her wearing that one you could suggest another dress to her. Maybe choose one and say “that looks nice, why don’t you wear this to the wedding?” That way there shouldn’t be tension you’re just offering friendly advice