I don't think you're in the wrong at all. Jacob sounds like a total moron and is only annoyed that he got caught!
That’s fair enough! Thank you for your adviceUnpopular opinion from me perhaps - keep your nose out of other peoples business. I’m sure you don’t want to get tarnished with the busy body brush. You had no duty to this girl and it all sounds very immature. They won’t last; and if they do so what? Their relationship problems are nothing to do with you.
Don’t beat yourself up, just take it as a life lesson and move on! Xx
Thank you so much for your lovely words! I will be confident when I see them, because I know deep down I did a good thing. The guilt would eat me alive if Lauren was still with Jacob to this day. I wouldn’t be able to face herYou did the right thing!!! They’re just unhappy because they got caught. You should feel proud and strong for doing that. Because I am sure any of us in that position would want to know!!! They should so disgusting. Face them confidently with your head held high because you did the absolute right thing.
Thank you! Yeah it’s classic shift behaviour. I tried to spin it round to Sam and say “so if I cheated on you and a mutual friend told you, would it be fair of me to blame them? Or just myself for my actions?” And that shut him up hahaYou're not in the wrong and remember you have nothing to feel bad about when you go to see Sam's family.
It was wrong of Jacob to cheat and he's shifting the blame onto you because he doesn't want to face up to his actions and take responsibility for them.
Oh totally! But I’ve realised over the years that their friendship group is super weird. It’s one of those where boys back each other up no matter WHAT. Like they will lie to their friends girlfriends about the whereabouts of their friend, they will support toxic and disgusting behaviour. I can’t imagine ever doing this with my friendsI don't think you're in the wrong at all. Jacob sounds like a total moron and is only annoyed that he got caught!
This is so spot on for what I think too. I know you don't want to hear it but my first gut instinct reading is that your boyfriend is really immature.You sound pretty dead set on pretending everything is okay since your boyfriend is but I’m going to have to tell it to you straight.
If I was you I wouldn’t be wasting my time worrying about others relationships when you have enough mess at home. This so called boyfriend of yours is more attached to a man who cheats and lies to his female partners than he is to you, someone who he claims to love. He’s so “weak” (I doubt he’s actually that weak but whatever) that he won’t defend his girlfriends name when his friends insult and make fun of you. Just thinking about him sitting there like a pansy while his friends are rude about you to his face angers me and I don’t even know you. He has no respect for you at all and seems to lack empathy.
If he’s as weak and soft as you’re saying I’d be worried that this Jacob has coerced him to cheat a few times. You know how pack minded men are, they love copying and one upping each other and your boyfriend probably thinks it’s cool to cheat since he looks up to Jacob so much. What’s that saying “show me who your friends are, I’ll tell you who you are”...
Ultimately your values don’t align with Sam and you need to think about whether you want to waste any more time, or even risk being tied down, to someone who has completely different morals from you. The guilt of the cheating situation was affecting you negatively emotionally (it sounds like you could be an empath) so much that you had to do something while your boyfriend didn’t not have the same response. It’s not a man v woman thing it’s a morality thing. You’re a good woman and you deserve a good, honest, BRAVE man. You’re so young don’t waste your time with this dud.