Looking for advice to see if anyone has been in a similar situation before and if it’s paid off?
I met my fiancé in my home city, which was his university city. After a short while of us meeting he moved back home, hundreds miles from me. I ended up moving down there and finding a job to be with him and we now have a house here etc. I don’t have any friends here despite living here for years and now that I’m beginning to wedding plan etc it feels incredibly lonely having all my friends hundreds of miles away. All his friends are also back in my home city, he’s incredibly close to all of his university friends. I’m really really wanting to move back here, not just to be with family and friends, but also because house prices are cheaper and the city is more vibrant/more to do. Fiancé is also wanting to move back too, but he wouldn’t be able to transfer jobs unlike me so that comes with a whole new problem. I can’t tell if I’m looking through all of this with rose-tinted glasses, and that moving back is just going to be a huge hassle and maybe it won’t be worth it? I had a visit back home this weekend and now I can’t stop looking at houses and thinking about how exciting my life used to be, I’m even getting tearful thinking about living here being bored all the time without friends.
I’ve always joked about living in a place where no one ever seems to do anything exciting, and everyone stays in the same area in which they were born. But now thinking about it, I wish I’d stayed, I thought moving away would be exciting and would have lots of opportunities, and whilst we have made good memories here, I just think we’d have a much better quality of life back in my hometown.
I met my fiancé in my home city, which was his university city. After a short while of us meeting he moved back home, hundreds miles from me. I ended up moving down there and finding a job to be with him and we now have a house here etc. I don’t have any friends here despite living here for years and now that I’m beginning to wedding plan etc it feels incredibly lonely having all my friends hundreds of miles away. All his friends are also back in my home city, he’s incredibly close to all of his university friends. I’m really really wanting to move back here, not just to be with family and friends, but also because house prices are cheaper and the city is more vibrant/more to do. Fiancé is also wanting to move back too, but he wouldn’t be able to transfer jobs unlike me so that comes with a whole new problem. I can’t tell if I’m looking through all of this with rose-tinted glasses, and that moving back is just going to be a huge hassle and maybe it won’t be worth it? I had a visit back home this weekend and now I can’t stop looking at houses and thinking about how exciting my life used to be, I’m even getting tearful thinking about living here being bored all the time without friends.
I’ve always joked about living in a place where no one ever seems to do anything exciting, and everyone stays in the same area in which they were born. But now thinking about it, I wish I’d stayed, I thought moving away would be exciting and would have lots of opportunities, and whilst we have made good memories here, I just think we’d have a much better quality of life back in my hometown.