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[JellyWobbles]

Ill preface by saying I do love my husband, and our circumstances aren’t the norm.

I’ve just been diagnosed with an autoimmune condition, after a long slog of feeling sh!t. During this time; I’ve had ‘you’re being a hypochondriac’,’you never want to do anything’ etc etc.
I’ve been struggling more and more as times gone on that I barely recognise myself...
he doesn’t help around the house, his chore is to take the rubbish out & that’s it. Everything else is left to me, and I have been struggling as times gone on. The house is a sh!t tip, lockdown and kids don’t mix well!
It’s making me really resent him, he can’t have an open discussion because he works, and that’s his reasoning.

We have two children and our youngest has severe complex needs. She needs help with everything which is me; again. If she wakes after two hours it’s me who’s awake all night because he works. It’s me doing the education meetings appointments funding etc etc.
Everytime I ask him for help work or him being tired are my answers and I have to get on with it. I just feel so bleeping exhausted and exasperated with everything.

honestlt, I’m on a new medication I started *today* and he asked me if I feel better yet! Wtf!!!!!!! I don’t feel like a wife I feel like a bleeping skivvy.

No point to this post other than to rant, I have no friends so Thanks for the outlet xoxoxo

 

[Definitelyme]

Sometimes I feel like the skivvy as well, and I’m not dealing with half as much as you are. He doesn’t sound overly understanding at all

 

[iloveanimals]

I havent got any advice for you about your husband, but i was wondering if you have noticed the disabled chronic illness thread on here. Ive just had the worst birthday because of my husband being an idiot, So im not qualified to give advice ! I do know what its like being tired all the time through illness though, im very sorry for you x

 

[JellyWobbles]

Thank you

 

[Tinkerbell cat]

Sorry to hear you’re going through a bit of a rough time right now. You’ll need to sit down and have a serious word with your husband, it’s not fair on you at all. I hope things get better for you lovely xo

 

[Prince fan 1999]

I can sympathize. I too have an auto immune condition (RA) and husband is exactly the same. Trouble is I've not been able to work so I feel bad asking him to do stuff. It's got to the point all these years later that husband just expects me to get on as I've been the one to always do stuff. Weve been married a long time. He's never loaded a washing machine,cleaned the toilet or bathroom. Can't remember the last time he washed up. He's blinkered when it comes to anything needing doing. I'm really starting to resent him. His personal hygiene is awful. If I nag him to take a shower,he gives me the silent treatment like I'm the one with the problem. I can't leave. I'm miles away from family and have no money. We've not been intimate for years because he really does give me the ick.

And I have a 9 year old daughter so can't leave as it'd break her heart :'(