Just need somewhere to write down my thoughts really. I found out today I’ve had my third MM.
I had a second miscarriage only in September just gone, so we were very surprised to fall pregnant so quickly -but a loss again so soon feels so cruel, particularly as I’d had such strong symptoms this time.
This is my third miscarriage now, this last two at 9 weeks and first at 18. I Had a very bad experience in the hospitals handling of our first loss, which has left me with serious PTSD with regards to being touched by doctors and nurses etc so management of the miscarriages is even more trauma for me.
I’m 38, and feel like I’m running out of time, and wondering if I’ll ever get my turn. I work with
Small children and everyday is a reminder of what I don’t have.
I’ve deleted my social media as I can’t bear to be surrounded by photos of happy families at this time of year. I’m so desperately jealous and resentful, but then feel guilty for feeling that way about something other people can’t control and don’t even know about.
It’s nice there’s somewhere here where people are going through and have been through the same as even my friends who have been through this who’ve then gone on to have healthy children can be so forgetful of how hard this is and always patronisingly ‘it’ll happen’. I know they mean well, but I don’t know if it’ll happen and neither do they. I’d sooner they say ‘it’s really tit and I really feel for you and I’m sorry this is happening’. It’s like they think because they’ve lost a baby or babies but then gone on to have a child, it means everyone will. And at this point I don’t know if that’s true.
I’m sure that makes me sound bitter and I’m sure that’s true, but at this moment in time, I think it’s fair too.
No real point to this, I’ve got some great books I know help as they’ve helped before, but I just needed somewhere non judgemental to blather really.