hi, I’m so so sorry for your loss 🤍 no matter how early it may be you grow so attached and wonder and pine for the life that may be.Hi, I just came across this thread and was hoping for some comfort / advice.
I recently had an early miscarriage at 8 weeks, only myself, my fiancé, a friend and his mother knew. The pregnancy was a shock, we weren’t trying as our wedding and festivities are coming up in 2023. (We’d probably try soon after)
Although, this baby wasn’t planned and it wasn’t the best timing I cannot help but feel so empty and upset.
My mother has passed away so no comfort from her but my fiancés mother has been so unhelpful and hurtful, stating that this baby would have been an inconvenience, it wasn’t really a pregnancy as it was such an early loss, I shouldn’t be feeling this way etc.
I know I will be better soon and maybe it wasn’t the right timing but I just don’t understand her comments!
Has anyone else had to deal with this sort of thing? I’m not sure how to approach it or to just ignore from now on in? I just wish my mother was here right now.
i recently went through a miscarriage in May then I had a second in August exactly 3 months apart. My MIL has been a bit crappy with her reaction, similar to yours, when she found the news out she said ‘maybe you shouldn’t have even bothered trying’ and (I’ve already got one child) ‘I wouldn’t want another grandchild anyway because (child number 1) is my favourite’ she’s just been completely insensitive and quite hurtful with her comments. Having a miscarriage at anytime is grieving and if someone isn’t helping, distance yourself away from them, I’ve found that that’s what’s helped. I’ve just let my partner go and see her whilst I’m still struggling because her comments don’t help me at all.
i hope you’re ok, baby loss is so hard, go easy on yourself 🤍 xxx