Marriage: the good, bad and the ugly

[The Downfall of Us All]

I couldn’t find a thread about marriage on here, sorry if there is! Just wanted to have a space to vent into the void really.

I hope to find likeminded people who can relate and share advice with. I’ve joined a few groups on FB and with any slight issue, it’s “they’re a narcissist, leave them!” When it could just be a lack of communication issue that needs to be corrected.

 

[Rosie glow]

What a great idea hope the thread takes off I will definately be joining in

 

[The Downfall of Us All]

What a great idea hope the thread takes off I will definately be joining in

Thank you! I’m glad that you like. I just wanted a space where people could vent about their marriages/relationships without everyone jumping to “leave” or “narcissist” because their partner doesn’t listen sometimes for example lol. Obviously there are instances where that should be the case, but it’s not always as straightforward to just leave or people may not want to? We’re here to support everyone no matter what

 

[Pesky Tarian]

Didn't really know where to put this. Been with my husband since our teens I'm 40 this year he's a little older. We're finally at the stage where we can leave the kids with family for longer periods so have booked a festival this summer. Before kids we were both into festivals, I said 'yeah book it' hoping I would get in to it but honestly... I can't think of anything I want to do less! He's so excited (music is a big part of his personality) how do I tell him?. We still do gigs etc. I just feel like I've moved past that part of my life but hate to draw a line under something we built our relationship on .

 

[Vangirl]

Didn't really know where to put this. Been with my husband since our teens I'm 40 this year he's a little older. We're finally at the stage where we can leave the kids with family for longer periods so have booked a festival this summer. Before kids we were both into festivals, I said 'yeah book it' hoping I would get in to it but honestly... I can't think of anything I want to do less! He's so excited (music is a big part of his personality) how do I tell him?. We still do gigs etc. I just feel like I've moved past that part of my life but hate to draw a line under something we built our relationship on .

Do you 100% not want to go or do you feel like you could go, try to enjoy it, and afterwards say 'that was ok but I think Im done with festivals, I would prefer to stick with gigs'?

 

[Pesky Tarian]

Do you 100% not want to go or do you feel like you could go, try to enjoy it, and afterwards say 'that was ok but I think Im done with festivals, I would prefer to stick with gigs'?

Good idea I suppose I should try. There are bands I want to see. I'm just over the whole day drinking, crap food, shared amenities .

I suppose if it gets right down to the date and I'm still not keen I could suggest he takes a friend. Thank you for responding.

 

[SquiggleWiggle]

I’m hoping this is seen, I need some honest and frank advice on what to do. My gut feeling is my marriage is over.

We’ve been married for nearly 5 years, no children but have a dog. My Husband has always had a minor anger problem and recently due to work stress it has escalated.

He will hit walls, shout, scream - never at me but that is my worry that I am next. I have also seen him shout at the dog and rough handle him, not hitting but pushing away or forcing to the floor.

I’m at a loss for what to do, I can just see it getting worse and worse and he won’t change

 

[whathastheworldcometo]

I’m hoping this is seen, I need some honest and frank advice on what to do. My gut feeling is my marriage is over.

We’ve been married for nearly 5 years, no children but have a dog. My Husband has always had a minor anger problem and recently due to work stress it has escalated.

He will hit walls, shout, scream - never at me but that is my worry that I am next. I have also seen him shout at the dog and rough handle him, not hitting but pushing away or forcing to the floor.

I’m at a loss for what to do, I can just see it getting worse and worse and he won’t change

Would he go and see a therapist? Would he go to a couple therapist with you?

 

[Rosie glow]

Just coming on for a moan really, so me and hubby have been together 15 years married 4 I love him to bits but there's one thing about him that annoys the hell out of me his ex wife
they have two now young adult kids
So they had an agreement about payments that (they both agreed on) for the youngest one (18) now she's gone back on it and demanding he pays longer or she's taking it further
I don't even think it's about the money she "earns" more in benefits than we earn working She has no payouts like we do im not moaning about the money he's paying (even though we need every penny right now) it is what it is
I think it's more about control, she's doing it because she can
Thing is hubby won't stand up to her, he just bows down to her demands and it drives me crazy, we are 15 years down line and somehow she's still pulling the strings, so of course it caused a big row between us which of course I feel bad about but I was so angry
I know it's only one more year then legally she can't do anything I just hate the fact she has won if that makes sense