Lonliness and feeling lonely keeps coming up on other threads I'm on so I've started a thread for it.
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I've found even when you get out there and join clubs etc it still sucks. Im Too self aware and I also do not enjoy my own company, so im trying to learn to like myself a bit more. It's SOOO hard though.
I have my moments.
I have my moment. Since realising that I'm in my 40s and everyone I know has kids - which is fine but my husband and I (by choice and not by choice, it's a long story) choose to stay childless. It really hard for a woman my age to find a childless friend, someone who just wants to do all the fun things like you - so I recently joined a BFF 'dating' (dating might be the wrong word but you know what I mean) app/site. Still getting to grip with it.
I feel most lonely when I'm around other people . I feel like I never fit in , and that I'm just tolerated.
I don't have any close friends, more acquaintances that I rarely interact with ( and vice versa) . I'm an only child , and my parents are both dead. I think I only started to experience true lonliness that I feel in my soul once my parents had died.
I don't have any close friends, more acquaintances that I rarely interact with ( and vice versa) . I'm an only child , and my parents are both dead. I think I only started to experience true lonliness that I feel in my soul once my parents had died.
I have no one apart from my husband and dog, hubby has gone away for weekend, I will not see or hear from anyone until he comes back, yep it's sad, and it does bother me, I feel like one of those folks who die and no one finds for weeks, if it wasn't for my husband and dog, I wouldn't bother in this life.
Like you I just have a hubbie too, and last year I swore to myself I had to get myself out there . Its hard to make friends when you hate people
. I found a social badminton group that is one hr a week and even though every Wednesday I say ugh I dodnt want to go I always feel lighter after . I recently joined yoga. Every Friday for a wind down after the week and even though i might know these woman it is putting me in a social setting where I'm part of group I'm doing good for myself . It's hard to put yourself out there when you don't want to but do it for you do it for your brain you will thank yourself . I promise it gives you a little pep in yourself . Xxxx
I feel this I don't have close friends and never seem to fit anywhere
Hi all, I’m lucky in the sense that I have family and friends, however I’m in my 40’s, living alone, no partner or children and just the cat. To see friends it has to be planned so there are lots of occasions where I feel like I have too much time on my hands and am lonely/bored. I lived alone for 6 years and never felt lonely, but had a friend living with me for the last year who has recently moved out and am wondering how I never felt lonely before. There’s only so much tv you watch and books you can read.
I’m occupied with work during the day but the evenings now feel strange with no company.
I’m occupied with work during the day but the evenings now feel strange with no company.
It's working age adults that seem to be the lonliloneliest . Everyone sympathises with elderly people, particularly widowed ones and there are social initiatives aimed at them .
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I live with my husband and 3 kids but I go a very long time without anybody speaking to me nicely. Which I think is a subject for another thread .
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I live with my husband and 3 kids but I go a very long time without anybody speaking to me nicely. Which I think is a subject for another thread .
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I live alone and WFH 2 days a week. I go from getting home Monday to going back Thursday morning without speaking to anyone apart from any work calls. Some weeks it doesn't bother me in the slightest then another I can struggle.
I'm like that this morning. Sunday, weather is rubbish and even though I have plans this afternoon I'm really feeling it.
I'm like that this morning. Sunday, weather is rubbish and even though I have plans this afternoon I'm really feeling it.
This is where I am, too. I have a couple of close friends but they live a long way away, and I live in a rural area so unless I get a dog & start walking it, I'm not going to meet any people. And yes, I'd love a dog but my job just doesn't really fit around owning a pet at the mo. I'd love to just have someone to go for a quick drink with, to chat silly nonsense with, without having to plan it weeks/months in advance. There's no easy solution to this I don't think, at this age.
I'm trying out Bumble BBF at the moment. That might be a good place to start, also where are you based? I'm always down with talking silly nonsense with people. xx
Rural Sussex - I looked at that app before but there wasn't anyone on it anywhere near here. That's the other thing isn't it as well, if we're not busy with children, we're busy with work, I do really long days and I'm sure there's some other woman nearby who finishes work at 7pm, and would just like to pop over to a friend's house without having to put 'going out' clothes on and drive for half an hour.
I'm sure the modern world has made life like this for lots of people.
Definitely working adults. I have a husband and two kids and no friends just colleagues and people I say hello to. I find nights horrendous when the husband sleeps early for work
I feel like I have so much to say and I never get conversations to say it. Thank God for tattle eh.
Same!! You can talk to me
I was horrendously lonely for several years before I moved in with my partner and cats. I know exactly what it's like.
I've been shopping and I've come to a nice cafe. It's heaving and I'm sure people are giving me dirty looks because I've got a 3 seat table to myself and they are turning people away as there are no tables left. At least I'm not on a laptop!