Loneliness / making friends

[Princesspinky]

I mean it's complete nonsense, fluff!

Really want to watch deawater fell on channel 4 Friday
And I don't know if I'm brave enough but people are raving about this real crime program on Netflix Don't duck with cats

Sabrina the teenage witch is on 4music.

On Netflix there is a new version called , the chilling adventures of Sabrina ! I'm loving it

 

[Influenced]

Oh I watched dont f with cats, mostly from behind a pillow. Some of it is pretty gruesome but interesting nonetheless.

 

[coconochanel]

Really want to watch deawater fell on channel 4 Friday
And I don't know if I'm brave enough but people are raving about this real crime program on Netflix Don't duck with cats



On Netflix there is a new version called , the chilling adventures of Sabrina ! I'm loving it

Oh I thought you meant the old series. Anyway hope you are feeling better.

 

[Princesspinky]

Oh I watched dont f with cats, mostly from behind a pillow. Some of it is pretty gruesome but interesting nonetheless.

I'm easily freaked out these days so I might leave that one. Anything real life will give me sleepless nights

Oh I thought you meant the old series. Anyway hope you are feeling better.

I should have worded it better , the new ones a bit more grown up .
I think having a routine again really helps me mentally , I have no idea why , a purpose perhaps .

 

[Lovelylavenderface]

For me I’m socially awkward but it’s weird how you sometimes don’t realise people wanted to know you till you even just say hi or try to talk to them then they have even invited me to coffee!

 

[Jc456]

I hope everyones had a good day . It's back to school here , and back into our normal routine which makes me feel a lot less down . Netflix it is tonight

My girls are back to school tomorrow, I can't wait to get back into routine.
I've been thinking of volunteering to get me out of the house and socialising more.

 

[Princesspinky]

My girls are back to school tomorrow, I can't wait to get back into routine.
I've been thinking of volunteering to get me out of the house and socialising more.

Yes I'd like to do some volunteering , bit I'm not sure what or where to start . My auntie used to volunteer with the scouts years and years ago and absolutely loved it

 

[lipsticktaser]

I went to my first bounce back to netball group today and it was really fun.
bar the ball hitting my acrylics. They will be coming off before I go back. But there were loads of new girls and they seem nice.
I’ say it was a success.

 

[Danielle1]

Same! Been feeling this a lot lately, but at the same time don't want to speak about it because it's so upsetting or I feel so pathetic! Im 21 and live in a town centre and at the weekend I definitely feel it sometimes feel so rubbish hearing everyone out having fun and I'm in my flat by myself. Two years ago I ended up homeless in a hostel at the other side of the city and made some good friends there and we still talk but mostly on the phone because they seem to be quite busy with there own lives. I've had my own flat for a while now and wanted this so badly but genuinely felt happier homeless staying with 9 other girls in an old house having such a laugh and always having support from staff. It's crazy l know, my goal for 2020 is to try and make more effort to make friends here but it's so difficult like where to we start?

 

[Princesspinky]

I went to my first bounce back to netball group today and it was really fun.
bar the ball hitting my acrylics. They will be coming off before I go back. But there were loads of new girls and they seem nice.
I’ say it was a success.

That's brilliant , maybe one of could suggest going out after group ?

Same! Been feeling this a lot lately, but at the same time don't want to speak about it because it's so upsetting or I feel so pathetic! Im 21 and live in a town centre and at the weekend I definitely feel it sometimes feel so rubbish hearing everyone out having fun and I'm in my flat by myself. Two years ago I ended up homeless in a hostel at the other side of the city and made some good friends there and we still talk but mostly on the phone because they seem to be quite busy with there own lives. I've had my own flat for a while now and wanted this so badly but genuinely felt happier homeless staying with 9 other girls in an old house having such a laugh and always having support from staff. It's crazy l know, my goal for 2020 is to try and make more effort to make friends here but it's so difficult like where to we start?

Exactly , where to start . Some people have suggested joining a group , or the gym (not my favourite suggestion though ) .

 

[Jc456]

Yes I'd like to do some volunteering , bit I'm not sure what or where to start . My auntie used to volunteer with the scouts years and years ago and absolutely loved it

I've been looking on do-it.org and on local charity websites.

 

[Princesspinky]

I've been looking on do-it.org and on local charity websites.

I'll have a look at that , thank you

 

[DowntoearthDawn]

Does anyone else spend a lot of time on thier own ? Find it difficult to make new friends.
I moved to this area when I was young and so I don't really have any local friends, I have a few close old friends dotted about the country. I only really have my mum , who lives 80+ miles away.
I lost my best friend a year ago (she was mentally unwell) , I so miss having someone to pour my heart out to , go on adventures with , just be there when life's gotten too much. I am on my own with my son divorce has just been finalised , I do have a boyfriend and things are going good between us but he works alot and is away (armed forces) . I work part time but I don't socialize with my colleagues.
Maybe it's January blues , but my own company is getting to me a little bit of late . All I seem to do is work , housework , spend the evings with my 7 year old , which of course I love him and the time we spend together is precious but I miss adult company.

Why not arrange a get together with other Mums from school as a starting point. We whittled our group down to 4 and we’ve all become friends. Just an idea. Good luck x

 

[Princesspinky]

Why not arrange a get together with other Mums from school as a starting point. We whittled our group down to 4 and we’ve all become friends. Just an idea. Good luck x

My son's been at school 4 years and I'm yet to make any mum's friends all those friendships are well established now and no one seems willing to move from their clique , plus the fact as I work I don't really do school pick up so I haven't had the opportunity to "chat" to anyone.
So hard as an adult
There have been some good suggestions on this thread though.
I have just found this website that gets voluteerstogether to do beach cleans for the marine society (we live on the coast) - thought that would quite good for us both , if nothing else were getting out and doing something

 

[KateESJ]

I feel exactly the same way. I recently separated from my partner and moved out, he was the only person I really ever spoke with. I always said he was my best friend (even though looking back, he was an ass to me at times). I literally don't have anyone, I don't speak to the majority of my family anymore and the only family I do speak to all live quite far. The two people I would call friends also live in other cities, I don't see them often at all. One of them I've not seen in about 3 years.

I see people through work (just co-workers and I'm older than most of them! They're all about 18-21) and my kids, I try to get out as much as I can with them (they're 3 and 11 months) to library, music time, story time etc. But I tend not to socialise to much at those as I'm so bloody socially awkward! Cliques form even at those library events and it's hard to get 'in' with people.

It is hard so I completely relate. Every day is the same: work, kids, housework, sleep & repeat.

 

[Orange Creme]

I feel the same. We have moved around the country a lot with my husband's job and settled here about a year ago.
I'm both shy and socially awkward and usually say something stupid. To make things worse I'm not even really a people person i just miss having a close female friend

 

[Princesspinky]

I feel exactly the same way. I recently separated from my partner and moved out, he was the only person I really ever spoke with. I always said he was my best friend (even though looking back, he was an ass to me at times). I literally don't have anyone, I don't speak to the majority of my family anymore and the only family I do speak to all live quite far. The two people I would call friends also live in other cities, I don't see them often at all. One of them I've not seen in about 3 years.

I see people through work (just co-workers and I'm older than most of them! They're all about 18-21) and my kids, I try to get out as much as I can with them (they're 3 and 11 months) to library, music time, story time etc. But I tend not to socialise to much at those as I'm so bloody socially awkward! Cliques form even at those library events and it's hard to get 'in' with people.

It is hard so I completely relate. Every day is the same: work, kids, housework, sleep & repeat.

Well I'm always up for a chat , all be it a cyber one
My situation is pretty much identical to yours. I was with my ex husband 13 years and he was literally my best friend for the majority of that ( probably not healthy) when our marriage ended I was lost.
And yes it's the monotony of every day being the same which gets to me

I feel the same. We have moved around the country a lot with my husband's job and settled here about a year ago.
I'm both shy and socially awkward and usually say something stupid. To make things worse I'm not even really a people person i just miss having a close female friend

I do too , someone to confide in

 

[Plasticbox]

I have never felt as lonely as I do now and have been feeling the same for the last 9 months or so.

No one ever seems to want stay friends with me, never make the first contact with me, never invites me anywhere. It always has to be me who texts first or asks to meet up.

One friend totally cut me off a few years ago and to this day I can’t work out what happened as she literally disappeared over night.

I don’t do anything or go anywhere apart from work and my house.

I go to bed early most nights as even my husband doesn’t seem interested in being around me.

I’m a really friendly person and love a chat and a laugh so I can’t work out why no one seems to like me.

 

[Tor88]

I have never felt as lonely as I do now and have been feeling the same for the last 9 months or so.

No one ever seems to want stay friends with me, never make the first contact with me, never invites me anywhere. It always has to be me who texts first or asks to meet up.

One friend totally cut me off a few years ago and to this day I can’t work out what happened as she literally disappeared over night.

I don’t do anything or go anywhere apart from work and my house.

I go to bed early most nights as even my husband doesn’t seem interested in being around me.

I’m a really friendly person and love a chat and a laugh so I can’t work out why no one seems to like me.

Pretty much a similar story to me, hard to make good friends that stick around

 

[Walnutss]

I have never felt as lonely as I do now and have been feeling the same for the last 9 months or so.

No one ever seems to want stay friends with me, never make the first contact with me, never invites me anywhere. It always has to be me who texts first or asks to meet up.

One friend totally cut me off a few years ago and to this day I can’t work out what happened as she literally disappeared over night.

I don’t do anything or go anywhere apart from work and my house.

I go to bed early most nights as even my husband doesn’t seem interested in being around me.

I’m a really friendly person and love a chat and a laugh so I can’t work out why no one seems to like me.

I'm sorry your having a rough time. I don't think it's anything your doing wrong other than picking the wrong people to try and befriend. If someone can cut you off without so much as an explanation then they aren't worth another thought.

I've been in the same situation where it can feel like it's always you making the effort with everyone and if you don't no one is bothered. My advice is be good to yourself. Do things for yourself do things you love. Give it time and everyone will realise your missing stop making that effort and act like you don't care slowly you won't

Well I'm always up for a chat , all be it a cyber one
My situation is pretty much identical to yours. I was with my ex husband 13 years and he was literally my best friend for the majority of that ( probably not healthy) when our marriage ended I was lost.
And yes it's the monotony of every day being the same which gets to me


I do too , someone to confide in

Where did you move to? Is there alot to do in your area?