Lisa Colhoun - one small step

[Buttercream queen]

Much as I feel sorry for anyone grieving the loss of a spouse or partner, I feel that meeting up with Bronagh and doing lives with her, has to be a set back.
Misery breeds misery and when youre with someone who is up to their neck in grief and you've moved past that stage, it is bound to make you feel like you shouldn't be where you are.

I still can't get over anyone thinking to pick up a phone and video themselves crying. No matter when in my life I've ever felt devastation, it's as much as I can do to get a packet of tissues never mind think to switch on my video and record myself

I totally agree with you...... i lost my only child a few years ago, and joined a support group with other bereaved parents. At the start, although it was hard, it really helped to share my story, to hear others, and to find ways through talking, to deal with our unimaginable pain! A few years on, and i actually think, because of covid the meetings werent on, and ive totally managed my grief, really focused on my mental health, and am feeling much, much stronger....I realise that taking on other peoples stories, make me more sad, make me overthink, and make me more vulnerable... i wont go back to the meetings when they start back, cos ive decided "i dont want to be miserable anymore" my child was taken from me in a horrific accident (we were involved in together) and i was more fortunate than him to survive, i will spend the rest of my life being glad for the years we shared, more than be sad for the years we will be apart.... im so gratefull to have been his mom, and to have had his unconditional love, im going to shout his name from the rooftops, and keep his memory alive til we are together again

 

[Duchesspink]

It's wonderful to see her find someone and have the chance of happiness

 

[LMC]

Saying the clothes she wears makes her look promiscuous is like saying girls who are raped asked for it because of what they were wearing. Disgusting comment!

 

[LoveTheGossIre]

Think so too. Would love to be a fly on a wall on her nights out. Is definitely not as innocent as she makes out to be, wearing them clothes she wears

Sorry the 1970s called - looking for their outdated clothes comment back ??? She’s many things and quite the dose but she can wear whatever she wants, doesn’t make her innocent or otherwise

 

[Buttercream queen]

I didn’t want to read your post and scroll on. I’m so so sorry to hear about your child. Can I just say you have an amazing outlook and the choices you have and continue to make you should be so so proud of yourself that couldn’t have been easy. Thinking of you x

To be honest, when it happened i just wanted to die, i couldnt bare living without him, every thought was him, i couldnt eat, sleep, walk even.... washing myself was the most huge effort, it would wear me out, some days it was all i could do.... i was afraid to go to bed, as the accident played in my head like a film, it haunted me i did try suicide, cos i wanted the horrific pain to be over! That went on for 2 solid years, year 3 was a bit better, i got more mobile, and was able to at least keep the house clean.... i couldnt tell you what changed, one day it was like somebody flicked a switch, and i decided to change the way i thought, dont get me wrong, i still miss him, i still have hard days, i will always mourn him, but i cant waste a life, he was denied

 

[Nora Fenn]

There’s a new man on the go from County Down. The grief porn will die down now, that’s why she’s been so quiet lately.

Well fair play to her, she obviously loved her husband so she has nothing to prove there. I hope she finds happiness with someone else.

 

[Lala2021]

Yeah she can be annoying or a bit of a dose. however she lost her husband tragically and sudden. She is raising 2 young kids and doing the best she can. Fair play to her if she has met someone & hope she will be happy

 

[Duchesspink]

There’s more class in a dish rag than in her. Some of those outfits she wears aren’t suitable for a 34 year old mother of 2. But good luck to her moving on with her new man.

Its 2022, women can wear what they like now. There's no such thing as outfits suitable for xyz. If you like it then it's suitable.
Should she be wearing an amish dress (makes a note to send her to Rachel gorrys designs) because she's a married mum of 2?

 

[LurkingLuke]

If they are seeing each other, I wish them the best of luck. Yes she sometimes overshares on social media but I’m from her end of Tyrone & what happened her is devasting. She’s taken her time to gather herself over the years & focus on her girls. She deserves all the happiness she can get

 

[Theydidwhat?]

There’s more class in a dish rag than in her. Some of those outfits she wears aren’t suitable for a 34 year old mother of 2. But good luck to her moving on with her new man.

Wouldn't be her biggest fan but what makes her outfits unsuitable for a 34 year old? I'd be over the moon if I had a body like that after 2 kids

 

[Plainwhited]

I don't think she has met anyone, I think she is just saying that she has realised she doesn't have to live in her grief 24/7 to prove she really loved Christopher. I think it's really healthy and I'm delighted for her. She is too young to be miserable forever. Her and the girls deserve better

 

[lucy66]

Been following Lisa for couple years but have found her so annoying past few months. She’s forever coming “on for a chat “. She rambles on and on saying same thing over and over. Loves looking at herself, putting on slap if make up and doing her hair and going nowhere. Her husband dying was awful. Mine died years ago and I had young children also. But I never went on the way she does, she’s exploiting those young girls, forcing them to have memories that they don’t have. I heard social services had to step in last year as someone reported her to them. She’s not a bad mum but the way she goes on about being a teacher and doing all this educational stuff with girls....isn’t she just amazing!!!! She’s a pure head melt in my eyes

 

[MaryJones1]

Oh how do you know that? I'm pleased for her, she is too young to face life alone. I'm sure Christopher would want her to be happy

 

[Dusty2020]

Looks like they are having a great time. Just what she and the children need.
.who is that girl away with her? I was surprised at the swearing from the friend given Lisa is on insta and is also a school teacher.

That’s her sister, she does show her often enough, she’s a very good sister to lisa and she’s wonderful to the girls, she moved in with lisa when Christopher passed away she moved out a year or so again if I remember correctly! She comes across as a drama free kind of person who will tell you what is it in black and white

 

[lucy66]

There you go ladies

 

[Duchesspink]

I dont think grief porn is all she has. She goes weeks without mentioning grief or Christopher.
I'm glad to see her moving on in her life. Things must be very hard for her even yet, what happened will affect her for the rest of her life.

 

[Duchesspink]

I wouldnt think getting rid of the bed would be a big deal. Maybe it was shit and uncomfortable.
I'm sure she has thought long and hard about how to move on and it's good to see her taking these steps

 

[girltee225]

I dont believe that she is forcing memories, of course you would want your children to remember their daddy, why would you not??

 

[BigMavis]

Thing is SM is relatively new and people use it in lots of ways that probably isn't the wisest. I put these grief posts in the same category as Facebook hospital check ins or that's it, just me and the kids from now on. The difference is when it comes to grief people are wary of saying anything that will add to the persons trauma. I know a few people in real life who are always the first to comment socially on a tragic death, they're the most upset, they knew them so well, so unfortunately there is a market for this stuff.
Grief counselling can't really say at this stage if this type of behaviour Is harmful but give it a few years and they will have more research. Personally I believe it is detrimental to all involved, especially children who should not be saturated in so much sadness. Even the good times are tinged with it, yes we had a good time but we had the good time in memory of someone who is no longer here.
I have so many opinions on this type of SM, but none on this person as I don't follow her. But from what I've gathered she is so deep in grief that she can't move on and is fearful of others forgetting him. Sadly that is the reality, I'm 20 years on and the person only remains in the people who were closest to them, everyone else gets on with their lives.
Don't even get me started on the monetisation.

 

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