Hey there.
I have spoken before about my on off toxic relationship. I won't go into it all just to say I know it's toxic, I know he doesn't meet my emotional needs, never has and never will and I finished things finally 3 weeks ago after he showed me in no uncertain terms that I would never be his priority.
I've been resolute for 3 weeks, happy about it, sure of my decision. Then today for some reason (might be PMS / might be the length of time indicating finality / might be joining Tinder / might be loneliness - I don't know) I've woke up really teary, I've questioned my decision and panicked and stupidly ended up texting him.
His reply was cold and said everything was in the past now like our relationship and he was done talking.
Firstly I'm gutted I've shown him I'm still bothered. I feel like I've let myself down. I should have walked away with my head held high and got on with finding myself and my happiness after so long of being unhappy but now it looks to him like I've crawled back for more and it will have boosted his ego and it makes me sick he knows I'm still invested.
Secondly I don't know how my mind can know so firmly that he is no good for me, yet emotionally I'm feeling like I'm not ready to finally let him go. I've got myself all upset now thinking of him moving on and that this is final and I'll never find connection with anyone else again and I'm not sure how to cope with these feelings, I've been in tear most of the day.
I'm not heartbroken, I'm not feeling like i'll die without him etc, I just feel like I'm not ready to completely let him go. It's so strange because I want more than anything for him to be in the past and for me to be over him.
I guess my question is how do I cheer the duck up and move on? How do I get the information that he is wrong for me on every level to move from my head into my heart?
Has anyone else ever felt like this and found a found a way to let go? Anyone found happiness after a lengthy toxic relationship?
I have spoken before about my on off toxic relationship. I won't go into it all just to say I know it's toxic, I know he doesn't meet my emotional needs, never has and never will and I finished things finally 3 weeks ago after he showed me in no uncertain terms that I would never be his priority.
I've been resolute for 3 weeks, happy about it, sure of my decision. Then today for some reason (might be PMS / might be the length of time indicating finality / might be joining Tinder / might be loneliness - I don't know) I've woke up really teary, I've questioned my decision and panicked and stupidly ended up texting him.
His reply was cold and said everything was in the past now like our relationship and he was done talking.
Firstly I'm gutted I've shown him I'm still bothered. I feel like I've let myself down. I should have walked away with my head held high and got on with finding myself and my happiness after so long of being unhappy but now it looks to him like I've crawled back for more and it will have boosted his ego and it makes me sick he knows I'm still invested.
Secondly I don't know how my mind can know so firmly that he is no good for me, yet emotionally I'm feeling like I'm not ready to finally let him go. I've got myself all upset now thinking of him moving on and that this is final and I'll never find connection with anyone else again and I'm not sure how to cope with these feelings, I've been in tear most of the day.
I'm not heartbroken, I'm not feeling like i'll die without him etc, I just feel like I'm not ready to completely let him go. It's so strange because I want more than anything for him to be in the past and for me to be over him.
I guess my question is how do I cheer the duck up and move on? How do I get the information that he is wrong for me on every level to move from my head into my heart?
Has anyone else ever felt like this and found a found a way to let go? Anyone found happiness after a lengthy toxic relationship?