I guess it *could* be, but its a weak link. You consent to sex but all the negative feeling around it is the result. I did feel abused in some cases (like having sex with one guy, and we hadnt even got dressed yet and he offered me up to his friend.. just really horrible blurred lines and left me in many a dangerous situation). Maybe consent isnt the right label to give it, but its definitely an issue women face isnt it. Theres a vulnerability to it, i think
Correct, consent isnāt the right word. I think Lalalaletmeexplain needs to be very careful with what she says around these kind of subjects. Firstly such talk could devalue any more serious cases where consent wasnāt given, and where does she stop with it all? Next sheāll be saying āI was promised a night of passion, I didnāt get it, the sex was terrible, now I feel used and let down, I didnāt consent to terrible sex.ā Itās like sheās opening Pandoraās box with these grey areas, then men will be saying āI was so drunk, I had my beer goggles on, she took advantage of that, I wouldnāt go near her sober, I feel ashamed and the sex was terrible... I didnāt consent to thatā
Yeah, i mean - consent to sex/ual contact is exactly that. Theres deception potentially before hand that means its not informed consent. But, cringing after and feeling scummy isnt really about consent. Consents about the sexual act and not the feeling.
Not to belittle the surrounding behaviours of it though - it still causes harm and upset. Im sure theres more women who wake up the morning after and think 'oh god, why did i do that' than men
And like someone said earlier, how many women were fine and now feeling victimised because of her words? She needs to focus on educating women on how to avoid such situations, but her book will do that no doubt, buy it now!!
Note: Itās already in the best sellerās list on Amazon, getting ready to push Florence Given out of the way, sheās not even been on GMTV yet
And she will be, once she has more work done to her face and her teeth are straightened, her ego wonāt be able to stop her