Knowing when to call a marriage quits

[Swipeuplikeandshare]

Hi all

so

suppose by asking the question I kinda know the answer already just wanted to know for those people that there was no extramarital affairs, abuse etc when did or did you call it quits when you just felt the marriage wasn’t really a marriage but platonic?

 

[Doyoureally?]

How long have you been feeling like this? I don’t want to minimise what you’re currently going through but could it be a phase. I’ve definitely gone through phases of not being into my other half, finding them irritating and annoying and thinking I would be happier without them for no particular reason like you’ve said, then I have come full circle again.

 

[Swipeuplikeandshare]

It’s been on and off over the past five years but more recently over the past year.
I feel he just takes me for granted completely - we are at the point we don’t even do a quick kiss hello etc
He doesn’t listen to my views and comments on my parenting yet I have a very happy, healthy and intelligent daughter - I’m the default so if a friend phones he automatically goes it’s like oh she’ll not care. If I get an hour to myself I’m made to feel guilty and texts when are you back - like literally colouring my hair gives me anxiety as it’s two hour appointment

 

[Doyoureally?]

This sounds potentially abusive to me. I think if you’ve at a point where you’ve had enough of it, call him out on what he’s doing and let him know how you feel. The worst that can happen is you break up and you seem to be getting there anyway. He might be unaware and needs to be shocked into making a change. Is he the father of your daughter? Do they have a good relationship. I would not appreciate the comments about parenting especially if they are not very hands on active parents themselves. It’s different to have views on how to raise children but that should be a discussion and compromise if something is really important to one person. Not digging you out whenever there is an opportunity.