The thing is, when a person first hears language like that for the first time they probably would find it a bit shocking however a lot of TV shows, and literature, have black comedy, so if someone's reading or watching that type of thing a lot it becomes nothing out of the norm, you become indifferent. And if you have a friend who also shares a similar sense of humour then using language like that can be normal. On here the other day I was discussing an animation I love with another tattler, they asked to see an image and I posted one, and to me that character is nothing shocking (so much so I made a real life toy version of it) but a couple of people on here were shocked and it hadn't crossed my mind anyone would feel uncomfortable about it, as to me it's just a character. I removed the image (happily, I don't want to offend anyone) but it made me realise just how different people's opinions on many things such as artwork, literature and films/tv, black comedy, can be. Even if something is not meant in a harmful context by the user of the language/image,others can find it offensive or shocking. So it has to be put into context, Johnny's messages were obviously NOT meant to be taken literally, and he was blowing off steam, to a friend who fully understood the wording in the intended context.
I've probably sent pretty shocking things to my sister for example in the past, she and I have both been in abusive relationships and are very strong willed (so much so she works in law enforcement now). I'm damn sure I'll have called her ex everything under the sun, in text and verbally, because he's an hole. And I've said if I ever seen one of my exes again (who mentally and sexually abused and gaslight me to the point I was sectioned in a psych ward with a mental breakdown) that I'd kick him in the balls so hard he wouldn't be able to sit down for a month. It doesn't mean I'd do it, it was just my way if expressing how much I hate him for everything he done to me.
it's great that you could do that, and I'm glad you were able to have therapy to help, but not everyone can get therapy (either for financial reasons or the fact the waiting list in the UK for counselling is something like over 18 months). Some people cant do therapy, they don't feel comfortable, so saying things in anger to friends, no matter how shocking they might sound to someone unfamiliar with that person and without inside knowledge of that situation, is completely normal. People saying things all the time in anger, it doesn't mean that they're an awful person or that they'd carry out those actions.
On the topic of texts and profanities:
In my case, I very rarely use swearwords or profanities. Not sure why, but for decades they made me physically flinch and I could not help it. Same re my sister. Meanwhile, my sense of humour has always been rather morbid or absurd. I have come across many brilliant, talented, kind-hearted people who from time to time use language you would not believe. I learnt over the years to tune myself out and recently I have noticed I actually enjoy or feel deeply amused when someone uses creative profanities or swear words, I have read interesting takes on this phenomenon (and in many languages you can translate the profanities or swearwords as "the words of power" or "the words of force", literally. And it FEELS so empowering and good to use some of these words. Not often, mind you. Do not want these to become devalued
(I have never written angry venting texts though. To my eternal shame I must admit I have written something akin to what Rachel from friends wrote to Ross the latter failed to read).
However, on the topic of profanities.
For example, think of Malcolm Tucker in The Thick of It or In the Loop. I was often in awe and found him very funny. (Does not mean I would like someone swearing at me like that.. oh no).
So, JD using the word c*nt would no longer make me shudder. When I saw his texts to Paul Bettany (btw, know him only via his roles and I deem him talented but now I looked up his bio and felt really sorry for him as he seems also to be someone who has encountered grief and injustice), I was in fact very entertained as it seemed a creative way of saying "Amber is a witch".
Also, his long tirade years later where he vented calling her an overused flappy fishmarket was like poetry, it was really funny. Also calling Elon Musk Mollusk.
What I very much disliked was how he continued about a sublime little Russian. If it was about a woman, it was puerile (not in an endearing way), lame, misogynist, and rather MEGAcringe. (Made me think that due to his love-hate relationship with his mother, his mother never giving him the validation and respect and love and nurturing he was after, he might have lots of misogyny deep down inside him).
However, if it was about a painting or a hunting dog or a new drug or who knows what, then it is funny.
Or about a woman, but in a way like in that The Fast Show's sketch.
On the topic of lawyers and doxxing of the witnesses:
I am glad Emily D. Baker has enough authority among some really zealous people. I am glad that she (and also Rob the Lumber Guy, Ian Runkle) kept reminding people that in fact, Elaine and especially Rottenborn are good lawyers, who have a client from hell playing against her own team. It would throw any lawyer off their game (there were even moments when Camille showed her insecurities and I particularly remember she used the same "What if..." after many objections that Elaine kept using.
The court is not life, there are strict, sometimes even too strict rules. It is more of a game. In chess, you do not hate on a knight for moving the way they do or hate the game for a pawn's limited movement or the weakness of your king.
And yes, Elaine made many mistakes. But she was so badly thrown off her game, that she was unable to get back to the right track.
So, I also do not like people hating Amber's lawyers. Hate Amber and not the people who are in a way also her victims.
I was actually angry at them during the last day, the twisting, misstating, and so on -- they were playing dirty. I blame Amber's post-its and I wonder what the law tube guys did wonder about -- that perhaps they failed to make her give all her instructions in writing at the beginning and she can use that against them. I was also angry at them realising that however annoying and unjust it is, the law was on Amber's side.
I also disliked people shipping Johnny and Camille -- I found it insulting to Camille, taking away her professionalism and agency.
Why not ship Chew and Depp instead
Also, I really appreciate Emily D. Baker reminding people that looking up Amber's witnesses and harassing them in their private or professional life is not ok.
However unpleasant or disgusting or obnoxious they were, you just do not go and give bad reviews to a doctor when you really have not been their patient. It is an example of online bullying and it is not a decent thing to do.
Oh, and I really really want a miracle to happen, the jurors to buck up and let Johnny win.
Due to my close encounters with female (and male) abusers, it has been liberating and therapeutic for me and, all in all, my wishful thinking is that people like that should get their just punishment. Please...
the smear campaign starts. This whole case is textbook narcissist abuse. Whoās the more articulate one oh yea amber, whoās got form? Amber
she was shown to be the abuser she is by her own voice & caught out multiple times lying
