It really is a full time job Keeping up with these threads. I’m having to ‘GL‘ a lot Why am I always at work when the threads go wild?
I am concerned about the kitten issue. Having adopted a cat who had a leg amputated, a disabled pet can be really tough. With how she appears to be currently (an observation, your honour), caring for an animal with complex needs seems to be a way to forget her own issues but also a way to project through the kitten and provides a new source of self validation.
Very unfair on the kitten. If she is seemingly unable to take proper care of herself, how the chuff can she care for a complex pet?