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@Nixlondon
The kids will think what they are guided to think. If they are reassured it’s all ok they will generally be ok. Kids don’t think like adults they need adults to set the tone
My kids turned up to their dads one week and his GF of 2 months who they met once had moved in. No one cried about it although it was confusing, all it took was some reassurance and within a few weeks they got to know her and liked her (she’s still their step-mum 10+ years later). At the time I was
bleeping raging inside with him for being a prick but to the kids I said nothing bad and realised it wasn’t that bad and calmed down! So this actually happened TO ME and my children and isn’t a hypothetical situation
Completely agree. It didn't matter how much i couldn't stand the thought of my kids being around the new girlfriend. It happened and the kids needed to see the adults dealing with it as adults for their sake and not our own. Same here as well, she's been step mum to them for 10+ years. They had a baby and married within a year. Our kids simply have 2 different parts of the same family who they love and have grown to be beautiful girls. Those kids, however much Alice tries to say are happy, would have been even happier and adjusted by now if the seperation was handled in a decent way without poison being dripped into the kids ears. I remember at one point when my ex left that i kinda felt more anger than hurt. I had this anger that i had been with him from us both being at school, chose to have 4 kids, chose to buy a house, did everything for him and the kids and it was okay for him to just up and walk away but my life had to continue the same, the same every day things needed doing as normal. I had no choice but to carry on, i couldn't just walk away and that made me furious. I feel that Alice had a similar anger, like how dare he leave me. It's like she's more concerned about hurting and humiliating him for simply leaving her or for her losing that bit of status she had, not hurt or devastated because of the love that's gone or how it affects the kids. Obviously i'm not a psycho
witch, there were lots of tears but within a month i stopped the crying, decided that i never relied on him before so why did i need to now, walked away from everything we had, even the home we owned and built our own new different life. Stayed civil with the ex and partner and always avoided letting the kids know that i think dad and his bogan
bleep are nob heads when they came home to tell me what they had been doing with them at the weekend!....see Alice, you think it but don't show it