I have read here for only a short time, but I feel so very sad for that little chap; I had to leave a message and say how much I agree with what gets written here.
I had my Darling Son 31 years ago - our only child - I didn't know it at the time, but he has learning disability and Autism. I always knew from the midwife placing him on my tummy, that something was not right - we just didn't know what until he started failing all of his milestone checks.
One of his problems was tummy related and still is to this day. As a first time Mum I knew nothing but instincts kick in, don't they? He couldn't go to the toilet, was terribly frustrated/upset and when he did "go" it hurt him terribly that he would scream. It broke my heart - so to read here and watch how they think this is amusing, makes me beyond cross that they are not taking this seriously.
I am not saying at all that Jace, has any of our Darling Sons problems - heaven forbid! But as parents you have a duty to care and love your children - forever as far as I am concerned.
You seek answers, and no way would you be going away for a Easter break while he is not in a good routine of toileting/feeding.
I breastfed for only 5 weeks - I wish I could have done more, but our Son wasn't happen and along with my parents, Husband and Health Visitor support I gave up. At least he was settled with a bottle and started to sleep.
No Mother should feel that she has to breastfeed, if it doesn't come naturally or you feel it doesn't work right - every child is different. If I had had more children, I would have supported a daughter or daughter-in-law, to be kind to themselves, and do what feels right by them.
I would have loved to be a Nanny, or my Son to be married one day - maybe it will happen. They have 4 beautiful children, that they use for their own financial gain - the Girls look like they are not looked after in regards to their personal grooming either.
I don't know why I am writing this - it won't change anything for little Jace. I rarely talk about my time with my Boy, from back then - for some reason today, with the toileting it has opened a wound, that I thought was healed within me.
Please Sarah, if you should read this - please go on your own to talk to the gp/health visitor and find a way to manage this for not only Jace, but for yourself too. You've tried the breastfeeding - no one can ever say you didn't try! But do what is right for your little chap.
I wish I had my time over, truly I do.
Sorry ladies for such a super, duper long post - I'm only a Mum, but old enough to be a Nan! Sometimes, we all need to listen to other views, that have experience.
Happy Easter Sunday, regardless