I hate my job!

Apologies if there’s already a similar thread.

I would love to hear if anyone else is in the same boat... sorry for the self indulgent, first world problem rant.

I’ve been with the company for 11 years. My role is in HR (massive well known business) but it’s just glorified admin, very repetitive data entry, and I can’t get a job anywhere else in HR because I ‘don’t have the relevant experience’. I’m basically a supervisor getting paid an admin colleague wage to do a manager’s job and it’s so stressful. It gets so pressured at certain times of the year and lately it’s just broken me. I feel like I live to work and I’m not appreciated at all. I developed anxiety symptoms when the whole COVID thing hit, terrible chest pains etc, I actually had to tell my doctor (it takes a lot for me to go to the doctor). He offered me a sick note but I didn’t take it because I cared too much about work (silly me right?).

I was promised a promotion before lockdown, they then decided it was absolutely essential to have certain qualification (which I applied for a couple of years ago and got rejected). So that didn’t happen and I felt like I’d been completely taken for a mug. I then requested a demotion and they didn’t even try to stop me. Dragged it out for months keeping me hanging on as long as possible, blaming it on lockdown.

I’m not blowing my own trumpet or anything at all, I have very little confidence in myself. So when someone gets my hopes up only for them to come crashing down again, it really knocks me.

Other people that do less work get ahead, get all the praise and promotions because it’s all about who you are friendly with and it’s not fair! Not once throughout this pandemic have I had any recognition or even just a thank you for the extra work I’ve done. There are a few of us that have to work twice as hard as the rest yet we never get anywhere.

I have to commute quite far for my job, I’ve tried to get one closer to home but they’re virtually non existent. I’ve had a few interviews but I’m so shy I just crumble and don’t get any further. I just feel trapped to be honest and I can’t see a way out, there must be more to life than this

Is there anyway you (family) can make do without your wage coming in? It probably worth going back to see your gp and seeing if you can get a sick note , the time away may give you some clarity about where you are going with work before you end up having a breakdown

I felt like this in a job previously, I left for a lower paid job with less responsibility and I was relieved. Not having so much pressure on me, the lower wage took a little getting used to but it's personally my best decision. I hope you find a resolution to suit you.

Lovegin said:

Is there anyway you (family) can make do without your wage coming in? It probably worth going back to see your gp and seeing if you can get a sick note , the time away may give you some clarity about where you are going with work before you end up having a breakdown

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I would love to go part time, in a couple of years we will be in a position to afford it. I don’t know why but I just feel guilty about taking time off. In 11 years I’ve had 3 sick days. In my new role I get to keep my wage which is good (it’s really not that much difference anyway), it will be nice to just do my job and go home so I’m hoping I feel better when I’ve moved.

I just don’t feel valued at all. It’s a very negative environment. The amount of people in my role that have either left or requested demotions is crazy! And it’s all because of the management.

Noseybatch said:

I felt like this in a job previously, I left for a lower paid job with less responsibility and I was relieved. Not having so much pressure on me, the lower wage took a little getting used to but it's personally my best decision. I hope you find a resolution to suit you.

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I can’t wait to start my new role with less responsibility but as I said above I get to keep my wage. I just can’t decide if I want to stay in a lower paid, easy role like this because it’s less stressful. Or if I want to push myself (elsewhere) to do well and get a better paid job. I have a degree and I feel like I’ve completely wasted it.

I was in a similar situation where i didn't feel valued, mangers had no idea about what was actually going on and it was too stressful for me. Hopefully you will be happier in your new role, I took a pay cut to move to a different job because mine was too stressful and i'm much happier now. If your not happy life's too short.

I work for a big company that generally treats people well. I’m well paid for what I do (general admin stuff) but it’s so so boring I feel I could do a lot more I have applied for loads internally but got nowhere there is nepotism and ageism at play I think (I’m 45). Plus they aren’t replacing people who leave so isn’t as much scope to move about in company anymore

Reejaaa said:

I work for a big company that generally treats people well. I’m well paid for what I do (general admin stuff) but it’s so so boring I feel I could do a lot more I have applied for loads internally but got nowhere there is nepotism and ageism at play I think (I’m 45). Plus they aren’t replacing people who leave so isn’t as much scope to move about in company anymore

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Exactly the same where I work! The wrong people get ahead and get away with so much. There are a few people that are lazy and take the piss but for some reason nothing gets said or done because of who their family/friends are. There’s been a few people had serious complaints against them for other stuff (being inappropriate, mouthing off on social media etc) but the business daren’t take it further.