I have quite a few people in my life who I am friendly with, but don’t speak to too often, so I’d say they’re more occasional acquaintances than friends.
I don’t know why, but I worry about looking weird or somehow needy if I text/message them out of the blue. I then don’t message them, and the space in time makes me think I’ll look even stranger if I message them after such a long time!
One example: a couple of years ago, I went to a 4 week language class and met a girl there who I liked and we spent a lovely afternoon and evening together outside the class, and always chatted in the class, but she has since moved away, and I wish I’d suggested socialising with her more often. We kept in touch a little and message each other for birthdays and about big events. We were in touch the other day with a few messages back and forth, but she hasn’t yet replied to my previous message, and I hope she does! I want to speak to her and some other people more.
I’d like to message people more often but I keep thinking that she- and others!- would wonder why. I wonder if I missed the boat for forging a more meaningful friendship. It doesn’t help that I’m naturally introverted and a bit shy at times, sometimes I want to be alone so didn’t always feel like being sociable after class, which is why I didn’t suggest hanging out more often.
Has anyone here felt like this before? Does anyone have any advice? Thank you!
I don’t know why, but I worry about looking weird or somehow needy if I text/message them out of the blue. I then don’t message them, and the space in time makes me think I’ll look even stranger if I message them after such a long time!
One example: a couple of years ago, I went to a 4 week language class and met a girl there who I liked and we spent a lovely afternoon and evening together outside the class, and always chatted in the class, but she has since moved away, and I wish I’d suggested socialising with her more often. We kept in touch a little and message each other for birthdays and about big events. We were in touch the other day with a few messages back and forth, but she hasn’t yet replied to my previous message, and I hope she does! I want to speak to her and some other people more.
I’d like to message people more often but I keep thinking that she- and others!- would wonder why. I wonder if I missed the boat for forging a more meaningful friendship. It doesn’t help that I’m naturally introverted and a bit shy at times, sometimes I want to be alone so didn’t always feel like being sociable after class, which is why I didn’t suggest hanging out more often.
Has anyone here felt like this before? Does anyone have any advice? Thank you!