How often do you argue with your partner?

[Begborrowsteal]

Before kids, we rarely ever argued. After kids? LOL.

 

[Platypusfattypus]

We used to argue quite a lot, I'm very hot tempered and he is very laid back so that would wind me up. I say we have a big row once every few months but do tell each other to fuck off quite often

 

[Tricham]

very occasionally. Think we do very well since we spend 24/7 together. We work together and our colleagues are amazed at how we can do that without getting on each others' nerves! On the rare occasions that we do argue, it is usually something so stupid, and is forgotten within minutes. Neither of us ever hold a grudge with the other. Once we've said our points we then let it rest. I can be a bit of a neat freak, and my husband is messy.. so that is sometimes the cause of a disagreement.

My friend is like this with her partner. I don’t like arguing but I do think it’s almost necessary sometimes - and I like the fact that myself and my partner are comfortable enough with each other to do it without fear.

I've definitely heard that it is more worrying if a couple never argues. That generally signals that there is no care there. It does make sense in my opinion, if you don't care, then there is no argument to be had. It takes passion and a want for things to be settled, for an argument to happen in the first place! If you don't want that, you don't care enough to fight about it. Am I making any sense?

 

[InstaFamous]

Once a month, about 3 days before my periods due

 

[GlennCoco]

Depends what is classed as an argument. We can bicker about ridiculous things on the daily, flare up but flare down just as quickly.. or every now and again have raging hum dingers where we're getting divorced a lot of it is having a 2yr old and a 20yr old in the house to deal with.

We're the same, if it is just little "tiffs" then that's fairly regularly. Big arguments are few and far between

 

[Platypusfattypus]

It’s interesting, how many arguments/disagreements does it take to maybe think you’re not meant to be? What makes you stay? This is in no means judgey! Just genuinely interested, we’ve been together nearly a decade but not sure I could stick it if we argued a lot but that’s my personal preference

I think it depends on what you argue about, how you feel during and what happens after. My ex, we would row loads about some really shitty things, I felt scared at times when we argued as he would smash things up and I once thought he was going to hit me. Afterwards there was never any attempt to clear the air. So I left him. My husband, we argue over ridiculous things such as mess and occasionally over more serious things but I always feel safe and we always make up with no resentment. So it's not the amount we argue that worries me.

Plus sometimes a good argument is a good way to get out all your frustrations

 

[Drea1984]

I feel like we’re “in” an argument at least 50% of the time - whenever we do argue it lasts WEEKS. I’m not even kidding, he will walk out and not come back for days, and then he’ll come back - we’ll argue again and then won’t speak for another week or so. Good job I don’t mind being on my own and it doesn’t really even bother me anymore.

My partner “huffs off” in argument. I just let him go. I’m not chasing him about like a 15 year old. I used to but now I refuse. Ridiculous behaviour. Now when he has a princess moment I enjoy the peace and quiet while he is gone.

 

[Suzesnooze]

Just wondering really. I see some couples saying that they never argue.... ever. Can this really be true?!

My sister never argues with her husband but instead bottles it all up and he just goes around wondering what he's done! I've told her to tell him but she says 'I don't like arguing'!

 

[megsmagoo]

It’s interesting, how many arguments/disagreements does it take to maybe think you’re not meant to be? What makes you stay? This is in no means judgey! Just genuinely interested, we’ve been together nearly a decade but not sure I could stick it if we argued a lot but that’s my personal preference

 

[Fairypop]

My sister never argues with her husband but instead bottles it all up and he just goes around wondering what he's done! I've told her to tell him but she says 'I don't like arguing'!

My friend is like this with her partner. I don’t like arguing but I do think it’s almost necessary sometimes - and I like the fact that myself and my partner are comfortable enough with each other to do it without fear.

 

[Suzesnooze]

My friend is like this with her partner. I don’t like arguing but I do think it’s almost necessary sometimes - and I like the fact that myself and my partner are comfortable enough with each other to do it without fear.

Yes. She's witnessed my husband and I arguing and says she hates it and she would cry if her husband argued with her! Each to their own but I think bottling it up is much worse. Better out than in!

 

[Spencerskates]

I’m not sure what this says about me, but I’ve only ever had a proper argument with my boss

 

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

We rarely argue but when we do they are HUGE. Tbh I am surprised we are still together after some of those!

 

[HoneyBee29]

We rarely argue we may have disagreements but we’ve rarely had a fully blown out argument. Weve never shouted and scream at each other I just think it solves absolutely nothing personally

 

[Flossy2019]

We bicker a lot because im a bit hot headed and he is really laid back which angers me a bit. He sometimes has no get up and go and it really annoys me.. and we have different parenting styles and find it hard to agree sometimes. But mostly we get on really well just the odd argument but we have never had a full on row. Whereas my friend rows with her boyfriend like three times a week and I just couldn’t live like that!!!

 

[Chandler Bing]

We really only argue on the walk home from the pub when we're drunk soberly hardly ever. 10 years together, married for 5 of them.

 

[Tor88]

We bicker like little kids and tell each other to fuck off on the regular but we laugh about it. Nothing huge but a massive blow out argument?! I’d say every we’ve had 3/4 in the last year but we usually make up by the next day

 

[Mercedes12]

Proper arguments where we don’t speak for hours or days: very, very rarely

Arguments where I call him a tit for loading the dishwasher wrong: all the time. But we don’t fall out over it and are laughing two mins later

 

[Pixipoppy]

I feel like we’re “in” an argument at least 50% of the time - whenever we do argue it lasts WEEKS. I’m not even kidding, he will walk out and not come back for days, and then he’ll come back - we’ll argue again and then won’t speak for another week or so. Good job I don’t mind being on my own and it doesn’t really even bother me anymore.

 

[Motherofpigs]

Me and my partner never really argue. We are both quite chill, we bicker about daft things on occasion - like the amount of time he spends browsing the reduced section in the supermarket argh, I like to get in and out as quick as poss atm as I have asthma and wearing a mask is uncomfortable for me. Aaaaanyway lol, we never really argue about big things as we are both ‘talk it out’ people and don’t like drama (I also don’t like shouting due to a previous partner being a very angry/shouty person) so we usually talk through any problems we have.