Sorry to hear you're feeling down. So, sending you lots of love
thank youSorry to hear you're feeling down. So, sending you lots of love
I know it hurts just now, and I'm glad he was honest with you instead of stringing you along, but it's better you know now and not a lot further down the road, where things could have gotten really messy.
You're worth so much more than to be someone's rebound or gap filler. You deserve someone who will make you their one and only.
Can I ask how long you guys were together?
we were only seeing each other a couple of months but I had the best time and, before he realised all this on the weekend (all happened pretty abruptly) we had nothing but an amazing and really lovely time together. I think he panicked but ultimately I do really miss hearing from him as I think things could’ve been great 
Honestly you are better off out of it. He’s still got feelings for his ex, it would never have ended well, he would have done you dirty and dropped you for her eventually. You are better off out of it now before you got in deeper. It sucks but you’ll be ok - give yourself a week or so to feel a bit crap, watch some films, have a few drinks etc and then pick yourself up and crack on.thank you
Agree. Don’t allow him to call all the shots. It’s hard to give advice without knowing that much but if he’s backed out of the relationship then don’t allow him to duck you around going forwards. He’s either in or out - don’t put up with any “I need some time/it’s not you it’s me/I need a break” bullshit.
Sending big hugs. As the others have said - do not let him mess you around at all
Be strong and don't listen to tit. Don't let him have his cake and eat it.
When you say you are back together, what has happened to resolve the situation?? Why did you split up and what’s changed to bring you back together??
I really want to tell you guys for opinions because I haven’t told anyone irl, but the reasons are too specific.
Just generalise them a bit?
I understand this so much, I found out end of January my husband had a month long affair and although we’re trying to save the marriage I’m always on edge
I don't blame you! Can I ask how you found it? Did you catch him out? Or did he confess of his own accord?
I’d had a gut feeling for a while and already checked his phone when he was asleep, this one particular night I couldn’t sleep the gut instinct was so strong and I reasoned with my self if I find nothing I’ll fall asleep and I checked his deleted pics (on iPhone) and then slowly I could feel my blood running cold, I woke him up and said how many times did you sleep with “name” I honestly expected him to say he didn’t and he said 3 times, I told him he was out by 8am (this was 3am). Some days were a normal couple and other days I honestly think of leaving. He’s the type you’d never ever expect it from everyone was as shocked as me.
Sorry to hear that. But glad you trusted your gut instinct, it's there for a reason.
If you hadn’t checked his phone, he would have carried on. It wasn’t a drunken fumble or one off mistake, it was deliberate infidelity and deceit. You’ve taken him back and honestly, if he’s done it once and you’ve essentially forgiven him and taken him back he will do it to you again.
Agree! By forgiving a cheater and taking him back, you're essentially setting the tone on how you expect to be treated and what you will accept going forward. It's not a good foundation for a relationship that's supposed to be founded on trust and respect.
How are things going with your ex now?
