Grief Counselling

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Has anyone had it? Was it helpful? How long after losing someone did you have it?

I lost my father really unexpectedly just over a month ago. It was in horrible circumstances and I witnessed a lot of stuff no one should have to see.

I guess I’m wondering if it’ll help or if I just need to go through the process of grief.

I had counselling once before and didn’t find it too helpful, but I think it’s because I didn’t gel with the counsellor.

Thanks in advance.
 
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Has anyone had it? Was it helpful? How long after losing someone did you have it?

I lost my father really unexpectedly just over a month ago. It was in horrible circumstances and I witnessed a lot of stuff no one should have to see.

I guess I’m wondering if it’ll help or if I just need to go through the process of grief.

I had counselling once before and didn’t find it too helpful, but I think it’s because I didn’t gel with the counsellor.

Thanks in advance.
Hiya .. sorry to hear about your dad 💙

In my opinion for me, it didn't help me unfortunately..
I've lost my dad mam and all grandparents in the last few years.. so ive tried grief counselling at all different stages..

Grief is forever unfortunately and for me talking about all the deaths didn't help..


But counselling for other reasons in my life has helped sporadically..


You could try it.. one or two sessions then you can decide 💙💙💙

Mind yourself 💛💛💛
 
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Has anyone had it? Was it helpful? How long after losing someone did you have it?

I lost my father really unexpectedly just over a month ago. It was in horrible circumstances and I witnessed a lot of stuff no one should have to see.

I guess I’m wondering if it’ll help or if I just need to go through the process of grief.

I had counselling once before and didn’t find it too helpful, but I think it’s because I didn’t gel with the counsellor.

Thanks in advance.
I'm really sorry for the loss of your father. You've mentioned that, aside from losing your dad, it was quite a traumatic event - do you think maybe you have an element of PTSD on top of the normal grief?
 
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Has anyone had it? Was it helpful? How long after losing someone did you have it?

I lost my father really unexpectedly just over a month ago. It was in horrible circumstances and I witnessed a lot of stuff no one should have to see.

I guess I’m wondering if it’ll help or if I just need to go through the process of grief.

I had counselling once before and didn’t find it too helpful, but I think it’s because I didn’t gel with the counsellor.

Thanks in advance.
I’m so sorry about your dad.

I think grief counselling is good. You might find that although you had it previously, you might wish to discuss or work through some more recent emotions or feelings that your having. With me, i know the counselling isn’t going to fix it, but it’s so important to just talk to someone and also to get it off your chest. You might find that as you go through the grief journey that you might benefit from counselling at different times. This time of year is generally hard for a lot of people so I say put yourself first and try it again. It’s worth a shot if it makes you feel a bit better 💕
 
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I would try anything that helps you cope with grief. Grieving is an exhausting process, take however long you need to work through your feelings.
 
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I'm really sorry for the loss of your father. You've mentioned that, aside from losing your dad, it was quite a traumatic event - do you think maybe you have an element of PTSD on top of the normal grief?
I don’t think so, thankfully.

Thank you everyone for your reply. I’m going to look into it properly
 
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I don’t think so, thankfully.

Thank you everyone for your reply. I’m going to look into it properly
Counselling imo is really helpful but you need to find a counsellor you click with. I was very lucky in that the first counsellor I saw, I clicked with so well and found her tremendously helpful.
 
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Has anyone had it? Was it helpful? How long after losing someone did you have it?

I lost my father really unexpectedly just over a month ago. It was in horrible circumstances and I witnessed a lot of stuff no one should have to see.

I guess I’m wondering if it’ll help or if I just need to go through the process of grief.

I had counselling once before and didn’t find it too helpful, but I think it’s because I didn’t gel with the counsellor.

Thanks in advance.
Really sorry for your loss.

As others have said here, it's important you click with your counsellor, so don't give up if the first person isn't right for you, as exhausting as it all is.
I found grief counselling really helpful, and was also quite traumatised by the behaviour of many of my family after the deaths started. I think the best
thing with counselling for me, was being able to cry and weep and splutter the stress out, that I'd been bottling away during work/with pals/with family.

Do give it a go, and it may not be for you, but no harm in exploring it <3
 
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Hi, sorry for your devastating loss, it sounds like it's really affected you deeply. Counsellor here, so hope I can give some insight.

Grief counselling can work wonders for some people in terms of helping them understand the different phases that we go through, but others may not be able to process things properly straight away, especially those going through complex grief due to traumatic instances. It's commonly suggested that people seek grief counselling at least six months after the death of a LO, so that they've had time to work through one or more of these phases, but it's certainly not a one size fits all approach. Do what you feel you need to do in your own time. There's no right or wrong way to grieve. ❤
 
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Hey, I’m really sorry for your loss.
I lost my Mum four years ago and I really struggled with a few aspects surrounding her death.
I did have grief counselling and I am glad I did. I wouldn’t say it helped the grieving process as such, but it did help me come to terms with some guilt I was feeling and it put some things into perspective for me.
 
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I’m very sorry for your loss. If you are in the UK please try contacting Cruse bereavement counselling. It’s free and they really helped me when I needed them. I had to change counsellors because I didn’t gel with the first one but it was no problem to them.
 
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Has anyone had it? Was it helpful? How long after losing someone did you have it?

I lost my father really unexpectedly just over a month ago. It was in horrible circumstances and I witnessed a lot of stuff no one should have to see.

I guess I’m wondering if it’ll help or if I just need to go through the process of grief.

I had counselling once before and didn’t find it too helpful, but I think it’s because I didn’t gel with the counsellor.

Thanks in advance.
I'm so very sorry for your loss 💗 I lost my son almost 3 years ago and would highly recommend getting specialist bereavement counselling. It totally helped me declutter my head and stopped me having so much rage towards everyone else who was still alive. I started the sessions around 6 months after my son died and had 8 sessions a few weeks apart. The first session was extremely traumatic but I found myself looking forward to the other sessions.

Of course, you do need to find a counsellor that you gel with, and that can take time, patience, tears and money.

Good luck. Take comfort in the small things and be kind to yourself.
 
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Im so sorry. People have come here from all over.
my Friend died on the day after Boxing Day and I’m struggling. I don’t know who to talk to.
 
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Sorry about your dad :( I lost my dad3 years ago, I did counselling immediately after like about a month but to be honest I didn't find that helpful. I returned to it about 18 months later and I found that very very helpful. I guess everyone is different so maybe try one or 2 sessions to see how you get on and if you don't find it helpful take a break but don't give up
 
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I’m so so sorry for your loss. I lost my brother to suicide in 2020. Contacted cruse for some help then but in all honesty it was too soon. Since then I’ve just started counselling which I’m hoping will help. Like everyone else has said, don’t settle for a counsellor you don’t click with!
 
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I think with grief, you need time. You need time to adjust, take in the shock of the initial loss or the way the person died. Come to terms with that initial stage of loss. This could take days, weeks months or years. Grief doesn’t go away. It becomes more manageable but it doesn’t go. To expect counselling to cure grief isn’t going to work and it isn’t a miracle cure.

I think you can learn to manage to cope with the grief you are feeling. At first it’ll feel catastrophic. But you will feel more like you again. Don’t get me wrong, you will have good days and bad days - just getting through, learning what helps you through, doing something for you. Being kind to yourself. Allowing yourself to feel the emotion as it comes.

I’m so sorry for you loss. I just want to give you hope that you will get there but you need to give yourself time. Grief never leaves but it will become more manageable.

Lots of love 💕
 
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I’ve recently read a book about grief called A Matter of Death and Life. It was written by a psychotherapist after the death of his wife. He speaks about how counselling can do more harm than good in the early stages of grief. He said he feels a year has to pass, you need to go through all those milestones before you are emotionally ready to go deep with it. Obviously depends on the person but I found it really resonates with me.
 
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I’ve recently read a book about grief called A Matter of Death and Life. It was written by a psychotherapist after the death of his wife. He speaks about how counselling can do more harm than good in the early stages of grief. He said he feels a year has to pass, you need to go through all those milestones before you are emotionally ready to go deep with it. Obviously depends on the person but I found it really resonates with me.
Oh must read this thanks .. ❤❤



(Just reserved it on my library app) xx