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Really need this! There is something that I'm a bit worried about. My husband has 2 children from a previous relationship and now we have a baby together. Weirdly, my husband's ex had a baby at the same time as us. Thing is, everytime the kids talk about what her little life is like I just want to cry. She is 6 months and just sits in a baby seat in front of the TV all day. Needless to say her development is behind. She has never been to the park or a baby group. She eats only pouches of food and also, jaffa cakes and chocolate ice cream and sausage rolls. She doesn't have any toys or books. I dont like to judge other peoples parenting choices but I wish there was something I could do to help the poor little girl. Anyone have any advise?
 
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Really need this! There is something that I'm a bit worried about. My husband has 2 children from a previous relationship and now we have a baby together. Weirdly, my husband's ex had a baby at the same time as us. Thing is, everytime the kids talk about what her little life is like I just want to cry. She is 6 months and just sits in a baby seat in front of the TV all day. Needless to say her development is behind. She has never been to the park or a baby group. She eats only pouches of food and also, jaffa cakes and chocolate ice cream and sausage rolls. She doesn't have any toys or books. I dont like to judge other peoples parenting choices but I wish there was something I could do to help the poor little girl. Anyone have any advise?
Oh that’s so sad, I have a 4 month old baby so I understand how important things are for development. If you have a good relationship with her could you suggest going somewhere together ? Maybe she just needs someone to give her a push as baby groups can be daunting to some people.
 
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Oh that’s so sad, I have a 4 month old baby so I understand how important things are for development. If you have a good relationship with her could you suggest going somewhere together ? Maybe she just needs someone to give her a push as baby groups can be daunting to some people.
I think you might be right. We used to be so close! We've always been good at the "blended family" thing. I guess we have drifted apart a bit lately. I'll invite her out over the weekend. Thank you for the advice x
 
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Reading this just made me want to cry :( totally agree with the other post but even if you don't get on as much as you would like to with the ex could you not involve the little one on her own, I would imagine it would be hard with you having one of your own same age of course but even if the older two could help? They are all brothers & sisters 💕 hope it all works out whatever you decide 💖
 
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Reading this just made me want to cry :( totally agree with the other post but even if you don't get on as much as you would like to with the ex could you not involve the little one on her own, I would imagine it would be hard with you having one of your own same age of course but even if the older two could help? They are all brothers & sisters 💕 hope it all works out whatever you decide 💖
This is a great idea but we live far away and I dont drive. When they're both out of push chairs I intend to take her on days out with us. Thank you ❤
 
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Girlies this is off topic but my boyfriend watches porn.. I know this is what most guys do however it’s whenever I leave the house or it was when I would bath our son etc. I’ve told him it really upsets me and I’m not comfortable with it at all doing it whenever I leave the room. I don’t know why I don’t like it I just don’t see why he would rather look at another woman in that way when he has me. I don’t know if I’m over reacting it just makes me feel like 💩
 
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Girlies this is off topic but my boyfriend watches porn.. I know this is what most guys do however it’s whenever I leave the house or it was when I would bath our son etc. I’ve told him it really upsets me and I’m not comfortable with it at all doing it whenever I leave the room. I don’t know why I don’t like it I just don’t see why he would rather look at another woman in that way when he has me. I don’t know if I’m over reacting it just makes me feel like 💩
I would feel exactly the same, I said this years ago on mumsnet about my then boyfriend and was basically told I was an abuser for not wanting him to do it. Couldn't help how I feel though and I've never bought this boys will be boys bullshit anyway.
 
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I would feel exactly the same, I said this years ago on mumsnet about my then boyfriend and was basically told I was an abuser for not wanting him to do it. Couldn't help how I feel though and I've never bought this boys will be boys bullshit anyway.
it’s horrible isn’t it I’m glad I’m not the only one that thinks it.. I’ve told him it upsets me but he Still does it soon as I leave the house. Can’t help but think am I really that ugly or what
 
Does anyone have any advice?

So last year I started getting flirty texts from my boss about how he owed me and that we were going sleep together. We’ve known each other for just over 2 years and I worked with him before and I’ve always had a crush on him. A few weeks after we started flirting we slept together and continued doing so every month just once a month. I’ve got really attached to him but found out that he has a partner and he started texting a work colleague of mine and she told me that he was flirting with her, sleeping with me and had a girlfriend all at the same time. He stopped with my colleague but carried on with me until a month ago. I’m finding it really hard to move on because he never actually finished with me and he was my first.
Please don’t tell me it’s bad I know it is.
I just need to know how to get over him as I don’t let myself get attached to people but I’m in really deep with him.
 
Does anyone have any advice?

So last year I started getting flirty texts from my boss about how he owed me and that we were going sleep together. We’ve known each other for just over 2 years and I worked with him before and I’ve always had a crush on him. A few weeks after we started flirting we slept together and continued doing so every month just once a month. I’ve got really attached to him but found out that he has a partner and he started texting a work colleague of mine and she told me that he was flirting with her, sleeping with me and had a girlfriend all at the same time. He stopped with my colleague but carried on with me until a month ago. I’m finding it really hard to move on because he never actually finished with me and he was my first.
Please don’t tell me it’s bad I know it is.
I just need to know how to get over him as I don’t let myself get attached to people but I’m in really deep with him.
Is it possible for you to look for another job? It sucks but you wont get over him having go see him every day and work with him
 
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Is it possible for you to look for another job? It sucks but you wont get over him having go see him every day and work with him
He’s leaving soon. He was supposed to take it but he volunteered me to keep a work colleagues stuff at my flat and he will come and pick it up.
 
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it’s horrible isn’t it I’m glad I’m not the only one that thinks it.. I’ve told him it upsets me but he Still does it soon as I leave the house. Can’t help but think am I really that ugly or what
Has he always done it or just more recently?
 
Has he always done it or just more recently?
I think he’s always done it and I’ve always got really upset over it. he promised me he won’t do it anymore but it just seems to keep happening again. We got engaged last week and he’s promised the world again but we’ll wait and see. I just feel awkward every time I leave the house because it’s just always in my head what he’s doing and 90% of the time I’m right
 
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I think he’s always done it and I’ve always got really upset over it. he promised me he won’t do it anymore but it just seems to keep happening again. We got engaged last week and he’s promised the world again but we’ll wait and see. I just feel awkward every time I leave the house because it’s just always in my head what he’s doing and 90% of the time I’m right
I guess a question that hasn’t been asked from what I’ve seen is what is your sex life like? Are you intimate often?
 
I guess a question that hasn’t been asked from what I’ve seen is what is your sex life like? Are you intimate often?
we have sex 2/3 times a week. Anyone would think I don’t give it him but I never say no, I just don’t really understand really
 
we have sex 2/3 times a week. Anyone would think I don’t give it him but I never say no, I just don’t really understand really
How do you know he’s doing it, are you interrupting him or looking at his search history?
 
He just lets me go on his phone & it’s always there
It doesn't sound like he is trying to conceal it then if he lets you go on his phone... is there something specific about it that upset you or just the general knowledge he watches porn?
e.g is he watching it when you're in the house? Is it violent or extreme? Does he avoid intimacy with you in favour of watching porn?
If it is none of these things then it sounds fairly normal..... he could learn to use a private/incognito window on his phone so you don't have to look at it?? I'm surprised he doesn't d this already as i'm sure that is what most people do!
 
He just lets me go on his phone & it’s always there
If he isn't hiding it, personally I wouldn't be too bothered. I understand it's different for everyone. He may use it as a way of relaxing etc? Everyone does different things.
If you've told him it makes you feel uncomfortable etc I would reiterate this and make it clear how you feel. Or just don't look on his phone? (Not being rude x)
My partner doesn't watch porn and isn't interested in it. My previous partner however loved it and often watched it when I was there, I just switched off and let him get on with it.... did freak him out once and asked to watch with him? He stopped..... try that :) x
 
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