Yeah, I'd say that's common knowledge given it's consistently one of the highest ranking search terms on porn sites. It's likely also the reason I've been cornered by creeps asking about my sex life on numerous occasions.
A lot of butch lesbians do get repeatedly asked when they're going to transition - this is a good video with some talking about the pressure they've felt (and one of those - the second one - interviewed later did transition)
from what i understand, many of them transition or are reffered as queer women
That video really nails the problem with the current situation, its almost as if its not ok to be a Lesbian woman anymore!
I agree. I'm currently interested in this girl I've known for a while and lately we've been having quite open conversations about our feelings towards the "community" nowadays. To my pleasant surprise, she had the same views as me. Being a woman attracted to other women is now almost looked upon like it's at the bottom of the list of priority for rights/voices. I have been shut down a lot over the years, hence why I don't really speak about my own story to other LGBT people through fear I'll just be fobbed off "you've not had it as hard as me"/"people are more accepting of gay women/bisexual women so you've got the easy life"
Why?
I do think more and more LGB people are waking up now the more that they see how institutions like Stonewall and THT are more than willing to throw gay men under the bus to appease trans (and heterosexual queer) people.
I am also unwilling to describe myself as 'queer.' I think that it erases L, G and B people - each letter (and each sex in the case of the B) have both shared struggles but also have different struggles to each other. Queer feels like it is saying everyone has the same experiences and it also includes people such as (heterosexual) 'demisexuals' and 'sapiosexuals' which I don't consider myself to have anything in common with.
Your experience makes me bleeping angry. I agree with what you said and in equal measure find it disgraceful and disgusting the treatment you have had (by LGBT people and Men). The thing for me I have always found the company of Lesbian women more tolerant and accepting, and thats as a gay man. I've never been able to explain that, but then I've never questioned it either. Most of my friends are male and straight, I don't live a life of gay adornment.I agree. I'm currently interested in this girl I've known for a while and lately we've been having quite open conversations about our feelings towards the "community" nowadays. To my pleasant surprise, she had the same views as me. Being a woman attracted to other women is now almost looked upon like it's at the bottom of the list of priority for rights/voices. I have been shut down a lot over the years, hence why I don't really speak about my own story to other LGBT people through fear I'll just be fobbed off "you've not had it as hard as me"/"people are more accepting of gay women/bisexual women so you've got the easy life"
No...its not always easy. I still feel "wrong" sometimes, it's hard to explain but from a young age I've always had it drilled into me I should be with a man/the correct path to take etc. For this reason, I've always felt like there was something "wrong" with me and I was a very shy and quiet teenager until I turned 16, left school, and met other wlw. It was only then I felt accepted in any meaningful way. I also feel afraid to tell men, because I've had some quite vile comments made before "you've just not had the right p*nis yet" "I can change you" "can I join in with you and your girlfriend" yes it can be funny, I wouldn't say I'm easily offended but when it's constant, it gets tiring and feels like I'm just a joke. Sometimes it can be scary, depending on the tone/body language from certain men, they can get quite aggressive and wound up if I say no. Then again, I'm sure most of us have experienced that, straight or not.
Sorry for the long post but yes, I do often feel silenced and like I've not been through "enough" to feel marginalised/left out. But I have...and I'll always try and be a voice for women like me.
Queer has a different meaning where I come from in the NE, its still used with its original meaning to this day.
I know someone from work who has (seemingly all of a sudden, I've mentioned her before) identified as queer and non binary and knows I'm a bisexual woman.
Are you friends outside of work? If not maybe say that you'd rather not talk about your sexuality during work hours? If you're friendly outside of work then that's trickier.
You have a right to define yourself, so tell her! If she doesn't like it she can duck off. I'm past the point of being nice to people these days, they have the right to define themselves but not the right to define (you or) me. I'm same sex attracted, as much as the LGBT group in work has tried to change it to "same gender". So I've told them, you do you and I do me, I refuse to be called queer too. They have this bullshit encouraging staff to put their pronouns in email signatures, just like the notion of a safe space in work....its a load of bollox.
I was on a a social history course at uni, there was a block of content called "queer history" or words that effect. I was asked why I skipped it, I told them that term is very offensive used in that context to many millenials and those that came before. It got to a point where I told them if there is a question on the exam about this stuff I wouldn't show up, there never was thankfully. When I was at uni it was left wing, but they entertained discussion of different view points, nowadays its indoctrination.
Thanks to covid I've had time to observe this on social media. The general gist of it is that lesbians is being redefined as same gender attraction, and that lesbians need to accept transwomen and be open to male genetalia. Since TWAW then the dick they have is a girl/feminine dick and lesbians like girls/women so... yeah. Any lesbian sub reddits except porn ones for straight men have been completely banned or taken over by transwomen and their love of their girlcock.
Yup, I've spoken before about how I didn't even know other lesbians existed (due to section 28 and living in a tiny rural village) until I was a teenager. That was only 20 years ago.
Oh jesus don't apologise, its very much an important part of the topic of this thread.
Thats what gets me, who gave them the right to do that?
EXACTLY!
Its like some reclaiming the N word......it sounds just as repugnant no matter whose mouth its coming out of.
