I try and stay positive and think that you never know when you'll meet someone.I have 0 friends. I have an amazing partner who is pretty much my best friend, though. I left a job last year after 4 years, unfortunately the ‘friends’ I thought I had there have vanished from my life completely. I think about my wedding often- I’m only 25 but the thought of trying to find bridesmaids etc makes my heart sink. The only contact I have aside from my boyfriend is with my parents, maybe once a week over FaceTime. It’s so lonely
And that genuine good friendships will be worth the wait.Absolutely! Sometimes I get caught up in thinking I’m wasting the ‘best years’ of my life, like I should be having as much fun as possible while I’m still young. In a way the pandemic has made it easier, nobody else can see their friends so I don’t feel as left out any more. Hoping for a girly bottomless brunch soon thoughI try and stay positive and think that you never know when you'll meet someone.
that’s what I say! I got my son christened and that was bad enough stood up at the water thing, I was literally dripping sweat bright red just felt like such a knob and thought omg how many people are looking at me , then fake smiled at lots of distant relatives afterwards it was PAINFUL hahahaI can't believe the number of people who also have the not knowing who to ask as bridesmaid problem! I have friends I could ask if I really had to but it would be kinda awkward as they're not best friends and I wasn't their bridesmaid so I wouldn't really want to..
Luckily the idea of a big wedding with me as the centre of attention is my idea of hell so I probs wouldn't have one
unless if we are all so anxious we all just sit there not talking after a drink I’m sure you can’t shut me up
Even if you would like more friends, it will happen for you at some point, it's just not always easy to meet people you really click with but it will happen, you might just need to move into another stage of life first.it’s really hard, I always think *how* do I make friends, I’ve spoke to people on Instagram too and even some local pages but the conversation gets a bit forced after a whileI have related with so many posts, so thought I'd comment. I'm 37 and live with my boyfriend, but only have 1 close, best friend I've known for over 20 years, and as much as I cherish her, it makes me realise she's the only person I physically have to talk to, aside from my bf and my parents. I get on well with my work colleagues, but we've been furloughed since December and I miss the chatter and laughs, just general contact, so I can't wait to start back to have more company. I've had a few close friends over the years, but they turned toxic, which is sad and made me very wary of people. I have aquaintances and people I speak to on Instagram but it's not the same. I'm not happy with it, but what can I do? I know I'm not the only be, do that's a comfort, and I'm friendly and talk to people briefly when I walk the dog, but lockdown has made me painfully aware of the fact I'm lonely....
I feel like a lot of people just don't want to make the effort. This was all pre-lockdown but I always found I'd be instigating stuff and getting lukewarm responses, or we'd arrange to catch up and they'd bail on me at the last minute. It gets so tiring. I had a colleague who became a friend and the best thing about her was that she was always up for doing something. She made time for people. I don't know if I'm just hyper-aware of it but it seemed like so many people couldn't be arsed.it’s really hard, I always think *how* do I make friends, I’ve spoke to people on Instagram too and even some local pages but the conversation gets a bit forced after a while
And it doesn’t help that I don’t really have any hobbies, so there’s no major interests that connect me with people. I’ve been in a few mum chats but then I end up just talking to people because we both have kids the same age which isn’t really a friendship quality It’s just something we have in common.
i only talk to my partner, his family and my family and the kids but they don’t really give me great conversation I’m pretty bored of talking about play doh and paw patrol
I know exactly what you mean, I’ve had a few chats with people and we’d talk for a few weeks or whatever then like you say I was always instigating conversations, or I tell them something I was doing at the weekend or something and they’d give like the most patronising *okay....* kinda reply then I end up wishing I’d not even bothered messaging them as it makes me feel so rejected and embarrassed
Yes, I get what you mean.... the want is there but they've got to want to keep up the conversation. Is there not a kinda mother's and babies/older children group you can join online for a natter with some mother's? I made some friends years ago through Meet Up, but as I said, after getting to know them and being friends for a few years, I discovered very unsavoury things about one or two of them, things turned sour and I had to cut ties, so that was a kick in the teeth as I thought they were decent and I spent time and money meeting up and getting to know them. I might try again once restrictions are lifted, but it makes you wary. I don't mind my own company, but it gets me down not having the option of other friends.it’s really hard, I always think *how* do I make friends, I’ve spoke to people on Instagram too and even some local pages but the conversation gets a bit forced after a while
And it doesn’t help that I don’t really have any hobbies, so there’s no major interests that connect me with people. I’ve been in a few mum chats but then I end up just talking to people because we both have kids the same age which isn’t really a friendship quality It’s just something we have in common.
i only talk to my partner, his family and my family and the kids but they don’t really give me great conversation I’m pretty bored of talking about play doh and paw patrol
I feel exactly the same. I get major anxiety when I think about lockdown and ending because I’m scared everyone starts meeting up with all their friends and doing fun things and I’m almost still living a lockdown life. I hope that’s not the case but it gives me severe anxiety just thinking about itI’m kind of dreading seeing all the pics of people having massive reunions with big gangs of friends after lockdown. Don’t get me wrong, I want lockdown to be over but stuff like that makes it hit home.
Im also someone who dreads getting married due to lack of friends. I’ve been engaged for 8 years but just can’t face it
The mum groups around here are pretty few and far between, I’ve been on a couple of apps which are basically tinder for mumsYes, I get what you mean.... the want is there but they've got to want to keep up the conversation. Is there not a kinda mother's and babies/older children group you can join online for a natter with some mother's? I made some friends years ago through Meet Up, but as I said, after getting to know them and being friends for a few years, I discovered very unsavoury things about one or two of them, things turned sour and I had to cut ties, so that was a kick in the teeth as I thought they were decent and I spent time and money meeting up and getting to know them. I might try again once restrictions are lifted, but it makes you wary. I don't mind my own company, but it gets me down not having the option of other friends.
and I met up with a couple a few times but never clicked, it seemed really forced like we just talked about the kids and because we had kids the same age the kids were always there, so it was more just playing hahaha no deep conversations , I don’t know if that’s my fault maybe it’s a vibe I give off I don’t know, sometimes I get nervous and blank at what to say but generally I’m a nice person ...I think haha Oh no, that's a shame - you'd think they'd want some adult laughs and conversations!The mum groups around here are pretty few and far between, I’ve been on a couple of apps which are basically tinder for mums
I’ve kind of just given myself the label of loner because I’m so used to just keeping myself to myself unfortunately xx
Do you know what? You can get too used to your own company, but I hope once lockdown restrictions are eased you can find a way of meeting new people, but we're here for a natter in the meantime. 
I'm sorry things reached a low, nobody should go through that.
Lockdown has highlighted so many things and has showed up some people for the selfish cretins they really are - out of sight, out of mind, as I've found! I think, in the past, I gave too much in friendships, but I've realised I was giving my love and trust to the wrong people. I moved in with my boyfriend at the start of lockdown, to a completely new borough and area an hour's drive from my parents and my hometown, and haven't had the chance to get to know anyone in the area aside from my neighbour, so once the pubs are back open, I'll look forward to us going to our local restaurant/ for meals and drinks, and I think I'll make a point of going once a week in the hope of building some friendships and having company, I miss going into cafes and bars to sit, eat, drink and people watch as I will talk to anyone (it's the Welsh in me ) and miss that interaction. I feel you. I don't use social media or anything, but yesterday was my birthday and I didn't hear anything from anyone. My husband took the day off work but spent most of the day dealing with legal stuff and was so annoyed and in a bad mood all damn day. I had a migraine and spend the entire day and night in bed in pain but also feeling so so alone, like who gives a tit about me? No one. I hate birthdays. 
