What happened? Why are they angry?
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I don’t want to identify myself in terms of the issue just in case.
Ok. Can’t really offer any advice or help if you won’t say much more though!!
I’m just upset.
Is there any way you can make up with them?
Gyms are currently shut over here but the women’s gym gave me such an idea. I used to dance a lot back in uni so I might try and find a Zumba of Pole dance class once things open up. I’m just very self conscious about how I look right now with the extra weight. Thank you so much for your suggestions.
It’s a very complicated situation that spiralled out of control.
It's really hard going through disagreements.
I think sometimes you have to take the emotions out of it and try think about the situation logically.. did you do anything wrong or react strongly due to your own triggers? Could you have done anything differently (better)? Would you genuinely try and act differently next time? Do you still want a friendship with them?
If so maybe you can try and arrange a meeting and keep calm and explain your part in it and how sorry you are, and ask to put it behind you all and move on?
One friend is very dominating and won’t accept my version/ perspective. I think she has been jealous of me for a number of years and her reaction now is a form of control / power.
Believe me when I say we are all fighting the extra lockdown pounds, and are more worried about how we look ourselves than others. I can’t tell you how many wives say that their husband’s wants to join the gym but feels too fat. Well nothing will change if you don’t pluck up the courage. I always think it’s going and getting over that first hurdle that’s hardest. I did Zumba earlier and I can’t dance for toffee, but it was so fun. Pole dancing is a superb way to lose weight and feel strong and fabulous. I’d love to do that too. You just need to get your courage up and go for it. You just never know.
I feel really low about the friend situation today …
I have one amazing friend from a big group at uni and she is just a star , she lives in London though so it’s about a 90 min journey to go and see her so we mostly just text ! However , she is coming to stay with us for a weekend in august which I am thrilled about
however , all my other friends in that group seemingly want nothing to do with me … if I don’t message first , I don’t hear anything from them for months … one of them just had a birthday and I sent her a really thoughtful present hoping that Would reignite things .. she sent me a polite message thanking me but nothing about the “would love to see you soon, let me know when” message I wrote in her card so I really think the friendship is dead in the water … it does hurt so much but I think I just have to realise who’s worth my time and who isn’t !
im trying to branch out and be braver and realise that other people are in similar situations to me and that I shouldn’t get myself down about it !
Now lockdown has eased I’m going to message some ex colleagues I got on with well and see if they want to get a drink or have a meal out , and just try and put myself out there a bit more .. it’s hard when you have a baby though and I feel like this last year has really just made me even more reclusive
sorry to vent , just needed to get it off my chest !
I have one amazing friend from a big group at uni and she is just a star , she lives in London though so it’s about a 90 min journey to go and see her so we mostly just text ! However , she is coming to stay with us for a weekend in august which I am thrilled about
however , all my other friends in that group seemingly want nothing to do with me … if I don’t message first , I don’t hear anything from them for months … one of them just had a birthday and I sent her a really thoughtful present hoping that Would reignite things .. she sent me a polite message thanking me but nothing about the “would love to see you soon, let me know when” message I wrote in her card so I really think the friendship is dead in the water … it does hurt so much but I think I just have to realise who’s worth my time and who isn’t !
im trying to branch out and be braver and realise that other people are in similar situations to me and that I shouldn’t get myself down about it !
Now lockdown has eased I’m going to message some ex colleagues I got on with well and see if they want to get a drink or have a meal out , and just try and put myself out there a bit more .. it’s hard when you have a baby though and I feel like this last year has really just made me even more reclusive
sorry to vent , just needed to get it off my chest !
This is such good advice. I joined a gym when things started to open up. It was a massive step. I've put on a lot of weight and I'm in a lot of pain with an illness too. One of the personal trainers was such a rude plonker though that I left. I could have taken it personally but decided that if he was rude to me he was probably rude to other people and the best way of dealing with him was to take my money elsewhere.
I've joined a new gym. Hell, I'm not giving up on myself because of one half-witted buffoon. I start tomorrow.
I have bought myself new sports bras and leggings. Joining group outdoors exercises next week. I am so nervous and embarrassed about my belly. But I hope the exercise will help with my mood. Thank you so much for your motivation.
Good girl. Be prepared to buy new leggings when those get too big! We should keep each other informed of our progress!I have bought myself new sports bras and leggings. Joining group outdoors exercises next week. I am so nervous and embarrassed about my belly. But I hope the exercise will help with my mood. Thank you so much for your motivation.
This is such a good idea! Yes, let's keep each other updated!Good girl. Be prepared to buy new leggings when those get too big! We should keep each other informed of our progress!
Well done you! Trust me, everyone will be conscious of something. Just go with an open mind and see how you feel after. The fresh air will definitely lift your mood. Fingers crossed for lovely weather too.I have bought myself new sports bras and leggings. Joining group outdoors exercises next week. I am so nervous and embarrassed about my belly. But I hope the exercise will help with my mood. Thank you so much for your motivation.
Disneys so much of what you have written has resonated with me! I’m coming up to 30 and one of my old best friends is getting married today, we aren’t in contact now which is fine I wasn’t expecting an invite. I’m just more surprised at the others that did.
If it’s any consolation I’ve always enjoyed your posts and views on things and thought you’d be a great friend! The kind of person I’d love to have a coffee with and have a lot of common ground with
hope I don’t come across like an absolute creep 
aww thank you @MaryJaneShoes82 , I’d love to meet up with fellow tattlers but we are spread so far around the country ! You definitely don’t come across a creep - I told tattle before I told anyone else when I was pregnant , you are all great friends to meDisneys so much of what you have written has resonated with me! I’m coming up to 30 and one of my old best friends is getting married today, we aren’t in contact now which is fine I wasn’t expecting an invite. I’m just more surprised at the others that did.
If it’s any consolation I’ve always enjoyed your posts and views on things and thought you’d be a great friend! The kind of person I’d love to have a coffee with and have a lot of common ground with
aww thank you @MaryJaneShoes82 , I’d love to meet up with fellow tattlers but we are spread so far around the country ! You definitely don’t come across a creep - I told tattle before I told anyone else when I was pregnant , you are all great friends to me
It’s difficult isn’t it. As I’ve got older I’ve found it more awkward to find where I fit in. I love tattle because it’s full of Disney people and I find in real life I’m surrounded by people who don’t get the love of disney as an adult
Tbh it’s just so hard to find new friends, I’ve joined the peanut app but even that I find is just lots of small talk and never moves to anything like meeting up and making friends.Think I’d be terrible at online dating!
it’s been a while since i came on this thread! i’m still a bleeping loner. but i recently started a new job (just a retail one) and have met other girls my age which is nice. i wouldn’t say they are my friends as such but it’s just so refreshing to socialise after being so alone.
i still feel so lonely and have some real low moments about having no friends. my birthday is in a few months and i’m already anxious, i hate birthdays as it is but just knowing not a single person will wish me happy birthday makes me so sad. i just wish i had someone to celebrate with, i’d do anything for a friend. i honestly cant wait for the day i can come on here and tell u i’ve been invited somewhere or made a friend being alone sucks.
i still feel so lonely and have some real low moments about having no friends. my birthday is in a few months and i’m already anxious, i hate birthdays as it is but just knowing not a single person will wish me happy birthday makes me so sad. i just wish i had someone to celebrate with, i’d do anything for a friend. i honestly cant wait for the day i can come on here and tell u i’ve been invited somewhere or made a friend
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