solidarity and love to my anxious fraus - same (babes) - didn’t even put two and two together but I think this must be it as all my anxiety is safety / mortality related, like obsessive thoughts and fears it’s been weird. Probably not a good idea to then watch Des is it
omg jealous, I really want an orange cat as my next one (yes I am shallow lol) fotos??
have you just triangulated yourself?? I assume they are only half maine cooneHe is not Jack Monroe’s cat. Repeat, I am not Jack Monroe
so beautifulOh @Alansbigplate i feel your pain, I was DESPERATE for one as a kid, but my Mum said no as I was an only child and it was too extravagantCan you just do water in it? Does it need a thing that costs money to make the water fizz? I never had one as a kid so deprived
I think that is totally natural, regardless of age tbh, (I don't have a group of friends as such so cannot really relate) but I would be glad not to be putting myself at risk! you should see it like thatI feel a bit pathetic at my age to be upset but some of my friends have posted photos and they’re having a nice old bbq together before lockdown comes back. I rarely get invites because they’re couples and I’m not usually bothered. Think it’s because of lockdown, they’d know I won’t see anyone again for a while
Smug marrieds.I feel a bit pathetic at my age to be upset but some of my friends have posted photos and they’re having a nice old bbq together before lockdown comes back. I rarely get invites because they’re couples and I’m not usually bothered. Think it’s because of lockdown, they’d know I won’t see anyone again for a while
I don’t think they even realise they’re doing it, just think they’ll have another couple over. Thank youSmug marrieds.
It’s not pathetic to feel this way.
Yes, true they’ve been all over the show abroad and everything so I’m safer indoors! XI think that is totally natural, regardless of age tbh, (I don't have a group of friends as such so cannot really relate) but I would be glad not to be putting myself at risk! you should see it like that
I think this is the issue with SOOOOOOOOOOO many misunderstandings, people don't see things the way you do etc... like if you wwanted to join and said to them... they would probably say to you that they didn't invite you as it was couples and they didn't want you to feel "different". Most people are nice and act accordingly, and view things through their opinion, it is rarely (IMO) maliciousI don’t think they even realise they’re doing it, just think they’ll have another couple over. Thank you
Yes, true they’ve been all over the show abroad and everything so I’m safer indoors! X
It’s not pathetic at all. And how dare they - I can tell that you’re the Best One out of the whole group and it‘s ludicrous to leave you out. More fool them - lucky us that it means you’re free to post here instead.I feel a bit pathetic at my age to be upset but some of my friends have posted photos and they’re having a nice old bbq together before lockdown comes back. I rarely get invites because they’re couples and I’m not usually bothered. Think it’s because of lockdown, they’d know I won’t see anyone again for a while
Yeah it’s true, it’s just repeated behaviour like it’s my best mate but she has different couples over quite often but never me alone. I’d feel a twit saying that to her tho
hotdog?! surely a horsespunk lasagna or something badly cooked in a microwave?!It’s not pathetic at all. And how dare they - I can tell that you’re the Best One out of the whole group and it‘s ludicrous to leave you out. More fool them - lucky us that it means you’re free to post here instead.
I suspect they’ve made a passing assumption, without giving it much thought, that you might not be free because of childcare, perhaps you’ve turned them down before and they’ve just invited the same group as last time etc....I’m sure they’d feel terrible if they realised how it made you feel. Even though I’m in a couple, I can’t think of anything worse than a BBQ of couples. Much prefer talking to single people, they're invariably more interesting. I do know exactly how you feel, though. I have a group of friends from school who I’ve known since I was 4. Although they always seem really pleased to see me when we do get together, every now and then I’m left out of stuff and it hurts, I have to admit. I logged into Facebook last weekend to see a photo of them in a massive manor house in Cornwall having a great time. I have no idea why they just don’t invite me sometimes and try not to let it drive me
If the cabal was having a BBQ, you’d have the star spot in a hammock with a magnum of Lambrini and the biggest hotdog.
It’s not pathetic at all. And how dare they - I can tell that you’re the Best One out of the whole group and it‘s ludicrous to leave you out. More fool them - lucky us that it means you’re free to post here instead.
I suspect they’ve made a passing assumption, without giving it much thought, that you might not be free because of childcare, perhaps you’ve turned them down before and they’ve just invited the same group as last time etc....I’m sure they’d feel terrible if they realised how it made you feel. Even though I’m in a couple, I can’t think of anything worse than a BBQ of couples. Much prefer talking to single people, they're invariably more interesting. I do know exactly how you feel, though. I have a group of friends from school who I’ve known since I was 4. Although they always seem really pleased to see me when we do get together, every now and then I’m left out of stuff and it hurts, I have to admit. I logged into Facebook last weekend to see a photo of them in a massive manor house in Cornwall having a great time. I have no idea why they just don’t invite me sometimes and try not to let it drive me
If the cabal was having a BBQ, you’d have the star spot in a hammock with a magnum of Lambrini and the biggest hotdog.
you touch my heart and make me laugh all at once. Yeah I dunno I think they just don’t know what it’s like, and I’ve been on my own so long now I’m used to it yet still can see that if I had a partner I’d get invited sometimes. Think I’m over thinking it because of the stress of things lately, I’m glad I could speak to you guys about it as I feel suddenly v down this evening. Like others were saying the changing covid rules are just so anxiety inducing. Consider me on the virtual hammockI think it must be hard, but you need to somehow trasmit you don't mind being a "non- couple" friend? I think a lot of couples do feel uncomfortable being single (not everyone, don't want to be offensive) but don't actually realise single people are (usually) fine with itYeah it’s true, it’s just repeated behaviour like it’s my best mate but she has different couples over quite often but never me alone. I’d feel a twit saying that to her tho
Yeah maybe, I do get invited when it’s a girls thing or a big group thing so I suppose they’re entitled to have other times where it’s just couples. Think it’s cos I thought yesterday when they announced we were going to lockdown again oh I should maybe see if they want to come for coffee at the weekend and then saw they’re doing this. It really is pathetic ha and I’m a proper lone wolf and they know that I like to be alone, so it’s daftness really x
but it’s probably more to do with my ex’s imminent re-marriage and feeling lonely relationship wise than them anywaydude, it's not pathetic at all. I won't say I know how you feel, cos circumstances are different. but I do know what it's like to feel left out. your own feelings are always valid and sometimes you just have to wait them out. massive hug if you want it.I feel a bit pathetic at my age to be upset but some of my friends have posted photos and they’re having a nice old bbq together before lockdown comes back. I rarely get invites because they’re couples and I’m not usually bothered. Think it’s because of lockdown, they’d know I won’t see anyone again for a while
This has fired a determination in me to host an F&D cabal BBQ when the pandemic is over! Can’t decide whether it should be genuinely nice with hammocks (will need to get a much bigger house and garden, bear with), and a gorgeous array of gently charred veggie and meat options, rounded off with a fuckton of gorgeous booze and mocktails. Or whether I should go for the rather charming @emm‘s suggestion of a JM theme.
