Fakery of social media

[Sayitisntso]

Is anyone else extremely fed up of the glossy / fake social media influencers , but also friends who clearly do the same? I feel like tattle has opened my eyes even more to the bullshit we are subjected too daily!

I’ve only got social media now for work but I still get targeted and I hate instagrams suggestions , I see lots of friends almost viewing themselves as mini influences posting things for the “gram” I’ve cleaned up my feed which has helped lots .

watching the social dilemma , influencers flouting the rules& being targeted by Ads has proper peed me off today no end.

I’ve found some brilliant accounts thats help my ED and helped with grief , it certainly can be positive but I am very anti social media etc and all my friends think I’m a grump for it.

I’ve added a timer for the app and try and stick to using it for solely work , any other tips to move away from it ? I was addicted not so much now

 

[under the ivy]

Same. I deleted my Twitter app (I still have an account for work) but deactivated Facebook nearly 2 years ago. I do like IG but I had a big cull of who I follow and follow more accounts that suit my interests rather than ‘influencers’.

I’ve started putting my phone the other side of my bedroom on a night. Sometimes I could lay in bed for hours on my phone. I sleep better for not doing that. The screen time settings on iPhone do help curb the urge.

 

[Sayitisntso]

Same. I deleted my Twitter app (I still have an account for work) but deactivated Facebook nearly 2 years ago. I do like IG but I had a big cull of who I follow and follow more accounts that suit my interests rather than ‘influencers’.

I’ve started putting my phone the other side of my bedroom on a night. Sometimes I could lay in bed for hours on my phone. I sleep better for not doing that. The screen time settings on iPhone do help curb the urge.

I like IG more over fb but it sucks me , the screen time counter thing made me realise I wasting hours on it. I could have read so many books. I’m annoyed at myself for wasting then scrolling for sure

 

[Gembo]

Yes! YES! I acknowledge that social media can have some positives especially when it first started ie. Facebook and it really was just about seeing what your friends were up to. Now it’s full of adverts and narcissists and I hate it! A friend of mine looks like shes trying to be an influencer now, her posts are getting ridiculous, considering I know her in real life it makes me cringe every time I see one. If I could press a button and abolish social media I would. Sorry everyone! I think the negatives are really starting to outweighs to benefits

 

[Sayitisntso]

Yes! YES! I acknowledge that social media can have some positives especially when it first started ie. Facebook and it really was just about seeing what your friends were up to. Now it’s full of adverts and narcissists and I hate it! A friend of mine looks like shes trying to be an influencer now, her posts are getting ridiculous, considering I know her in real life it makes me cringe every time I see one. If I could press a button and abolish social media I would. Sorry everyone! I think the negatives are really starting to outweighs to benefits

I’m glad it’s not just me!! It seems to be getting worse. Unless I’m less tolerant . I also don’t know why you would want to be an influencer unless you have a real niche or profession it seems such a slog , very fake and none of my friends post seem authentic anymore I hope social media changes again and goes back to real connection

 

[TravellingPants]

I’ve deleted all the apps and have a timer on for a 10 minute scroll of Instagram on the browser app, mainly so I’m not totally out of the loop. I was finding watching and posting to stories such a time drain so I’m pleased to be without it. I wasn’t able to moderate my own usage without getting rid of the app completely so maybe that’s something to think about... I had great intentions but with the temptation there and lockdown boredom it was too easy to ignore the time li

I realised a couple of years back that nobody I’m close to uses Facebook so that was easy to get rid of because I don’t feel like I’m going to miss anything I’d care about and the endless videos/memes are just not for me.

100% with you on the fakery aspect... I loved Instagram when it was posting a naff photo of a cupcake with a retro filter. I can’t be bothered with half the stuff people share on there now and it’s quite an overwhelming amount of content to take in.

 

[TwooTwooTwitTwitTwoo]

I'm not keen on social media either. The only account I've got is Facebook and I've used that far less since I joined here.

I like seeing what people get up to and it's a nice way to keep in touch with people I don't see very often but I don't post much myself really. Just the occasional meme or article and very occasionally something with the children in.

There is so much crap on there though. Ridiculous adverts, pointless posts. People who bombard it with photos and check ins of every little thing they do. It's definitely changed since I first joined it in 2007. Everything seems to be so competitive and for the 'gram as it were.

 

[Glamourelle]

I’ve ended up deleting my Instagram because I realised I was becoming one of those people. I would do things purely “for the gram”, everything was carefully curated to make it look like I was living a perfect life when it was so far from the truth in reality. Even little things like I felt like I HAD to buy new clothes or an outfit just for photos! Pathetic I know.
Its been several months without it and I feel so much better for it. Never ever thought I’d say that especially as Instagram was a huge part of my life but there we go!

 

[Gym&Tonic]

I have a timer for Facebook which comes on when I’ve been on it for five minutes and I have set it to quiet mode over night which comes on automatically at 10pm and stays on till 8am. Twitter is the worst. I deleted the app ages ago and have all my tweets set to private, but rarely go on it now anyway.

 

[Sayitisntso]

I’ve deleted all the apps and have a timer on for a 10 minute scroll of Instagram on the browser app, mainly so I’m not totally out of the loop. I was finding watching and posting to stories such a time drain so I’m pleased to be without it. I wasn’t able to moderate my own usage without getting rid of the app completely so maybe that’s something to think about... I had great intentions but with the temptation there and lockdown boredom it was too easy to ignore the time li

I realised a couple of years back that nobody I’m close to uses Facebook so that was easy to get rid of because I don’t feel like I’m going to miss anything I’d care about and the endless videos/memes are just not for me.

100% with you on the fakery aspect... I loved Instagram when it was posting a naff photo of a cupcake with a retro filter. I can’t be bothered with half the stuff people share on there now and it’s quite an overwhelming amount of content to take in.

Thank you!
Yep I think deleting the apps altogether is the way to go. I reckon I could read lots on my kindle if I didn’t get sucked in

I'm not keen on social media either. The only account I've got is Facebook and I've used that far less since I joined here.

I like seeing what people get up to and it's a nice way to keep in touch with people I don't see very often but I don't post much myself really. Just the occasional meme or article and very occasionally something with the children in.

There is so much crap on there though. Ridiculous adverts, pointless posts. People who bombard it with photos and check ins of every little thing they do. It's definitely changed since I first joined it in 2007. Everything seems to be so competitive and for the 'gram as it were.

I feel I’ve lost the connection to people , often they assume I know what is going on as they’ve plastered it on their Facebook. I’ve been telling people to text me , and make more of an effort to message friends to check in as I really want to move away from fb . As you say it’s very competitive and the check ins and “look at me” posts will sky rocket when lockdown lifts . I know I can also feel a bit jealous of people esp on IG but I’m working on that , it’s mainly feeling like I won’t ever travel and I hope to see more of the world

I’ve ended up deleting my Instagram because I realised I was becoming one of those people. I would do things purely “for the gram”, everything was carefully curated to make it look like I was living a perfect life when it was so far from the truth in reality. Even little things like I felt like I HAD to buy new clothes or an outfit just for photos! Pathetic I know.
Its been several months without it and I feel so much better for it. Never ever thought I’d say that especially as Instagram was a huge part of my life but there we go!

Well done , I can totally see how tiring it must have been . I have a work one which is okay I don’t post too much . My personal one is better since I detoxed but I may delete that one altogether. I worry I won’t know what’s going on in the world / feel too disconnected , but felt that podcasts might feel that void - I don’t know if that makes sense

I have a timer for Facebook which comes on when I’ve been on it for five minutes and I have set it to quiet mode over night which comes on automatically at 10pm and stays on till 8am. Twitter is the worst. I deleted the app ages ago and have all my tweets set to private, but rarely go on it now anyway.

I have greatly reduced Twitter it fed into my anxieties with all the latest news !

 

[Mermer89]

Deactivated Facebook at the start of the year and don’t miss it at all, just kept messenger as use that all the time. Hardly post on Instagram and have like a 100 followers lol, years ago I had a bigger account when I was on slimming world. Never had Twitter. Can’t stand the majority of people on it, not sure who’s worse, the influencers or the people that believe their shite

 

[Zanzi202]

I agree with everything you’re all saying. I also feel like people have made ‘announcements’ a big thing on social media. Prolific posters think they’re half famous or something. It’s weird

 

[Countrybumpkingirl]

Deleted Instagram almost 2 years ago and deactivated Facebook a couple of months back. I don't have Twitter. The only SM I use is LinkedIn for work but even now that is becoming a bit try hard. Best thing I ever did and I don't miss any of it. I am early 30s and I just began to realise how toxic it was for me and my mental health. Highly recommend to all it is so freeing but now I do need to reduce my tattle usage.

 

[openbook1]

I barely use Facebook apart from for endometriosis groups I am on and a neighborhood group.

Instagram...I constantly go through phases of unfollowing people (even people I know in real life) whose content I dislike. I don't follow influencers, will just lurk and have a nosy if I read something on here. I probably follow more animal accounts than humans, mostly dogs . And then like British accounts (different cities, castles, gardens). I live overseas so following the UK accounts makes me less homesick. I used to have alot of followers but removed people I don't know or like.

Twitter: I barely post on there now. I had thousands of followers and removed people I don't know.

All my accounts are private.

 

[Sayitisntso]

Deactivated Facebook at the start of the year and don’t miss it at all, just kept messenger as use that all the time. Hardly post on Instagram and have like a 100 followers lol, years ago I had a bigger account when I was on slimming world. Never had Twitter. Can’t stand the majority of people on it, not sure who’s worse, the influencers or the people that believe their shite

I know what you mean , it’s the cult like followers some people have it’s scary which really makes me think social media has lost the plot !

I agree with everything you’re all saying. I also feel like people have made ‘announcements’ a big thing on social media. Prolific posters think they’re half famous or something. It’s weird

Yes this !! Also those who think they are some expert it worries me how many people think they are some kind of earth mum , fitness PT or life guru it’s really hard to follow the genuine.

Deleted Instagram almost 2 years ago and deactivated Facebook a couple of months back. I don't have Twitter. The only SM I use is LinkedIn for work but even now that is becoming a bit try hard. Best thing I ever did and I don't miss any of it. I am early 30s and I just began to realise how toxic it was for me and my mental health. Highly recommend to all it is so freeing but now I do need to reduce my tattle usage.

I have all types for work Ig drives traffic to my website if I didn’t have my own business I would have done what you have - it sounds bliss !! Do you ever feel you miss out ?

I barely use Facebook apart from for endometriosis groups I am on and a neighborhood group.

Instagram...I constantly go through phases of unfollowing people (even people I know in real life) whose content I dislike. I don't follow influencers, will just lurk and have a nosy if I read something on here. I probably follow more animal accounts than humans, mostly dogs . And then like British accounts (different cities, castles, gardens). I live overseas so following the UK accounts makes me less homesick. I used to have alot of followers but removed people I don't know or like.

Twitter: I barely post on there now. I had thousands of followers and removed people I don't know.

All my accounts are private.

It could be such a good platform for the above , it’s helpful and I’ve found some really useful ED accounts and one literally has blown me away with the decent content around binge eating etc - I have that fomo and worry but at the same time it’s not doing my mental health any good I need to stick to checking it for work and that’s it !

 

[lemonlime]

Yes. So tired of social media and the constant state of being connected, even if I know that technically I am in charge of how accessible I am. Still it feels like we're constantly being served some kind of force fed information from all fronts under the guise of communication. Sick of the ads on every goddamn social media app especially. I don't care for sponsored posts or ads posing as posts. Everything is so insincere.

I've deleted my facebook completely some years ago and never looked back. Great decision. I now have a small twitter account which I just use to keep in touch with some of my old online friends or friends from abroad, handful of followers really. Haven't a single account that is public, my Instagram is very small too but I swear anything Facebook touches turns into a dumpster fire. I like taking photos and seeing actual real life snippets of a handful of people I follow but if I had another bare minimum platform for that, I'd leave Instagam within the minute. The relentless state of being under surveillance is really getting to me, sucks that I do have to keep some platforms because I need to keep in touch with people.

Deleted my instagram app from my phone, barely miss it tbh. Checked it from the browser a couple of times but I won't be touching it for the rest of the March, to see how much I can eradicate that twitch of reaching my phone and starting to scroll without an aim or a purpose. I do feel the same dilemma; some aspects of it helped me greatly. I have found resources and friends I couldn't have met otherwise but for me, it's become so aggressive in its way of forcing the online presence into daily life. I'm so glad I at least grew up without these and my brain isn't entirely wired to the concept of an existence online.

 

[Lisdiz]

I live Instagram. But I am also super selective over who and what I follow. Because of this I get bursts of inspiration every time I go on. But my god, if I followed influencers etc it would drive me insane.
I agree with the person above who mentioned how many books they could have read. I hang my head in shame.

 

[1001 others]

I feel like so much social media content is what people wish their 'real' lives were like ...

I honestly don't get the point of oversharing details about your life with everyone. Sure, it's handy at times, but save all your news for when you catch up with people in person (obviously with lockdowns it's a handy way to stay in touch).

 

[ClockworkDolly]

Is anyone else extremely fed up of the glossy / fake social media influencers , but also friends who clearly do the same? I feel like tattle has opened my eyes even more to the bullshit we are subjected too daily!

I’ve only got social media now for work but I still get targeted and I hate instagrams suggestions , I see lots of friends almost viewing themselves as mini influences posting things for the “gram” I’ve cleaned up my feed which has helped lots .

watching the social dilemma , influencers flouting the rules& being targeted by Ads has proper peed me off today no end.

I’ve found some brilliant accounts thats help my ED and helped with grief , it certainly can be positive but I am very anti social media etc and all my friends think I’m a grump for it.

I’ve added a timer for the app and try and stick to using it for solely work , any other tips to move away from it ? I was addicted not so much now

Social media is great, but it really depends whom you follow.

I tend to stick with a hobby I’m interested in and follow the people who also post about that same hobby. I’m on Twitter and I follow the gardening and nature crowd and honestly, they are some of the nicest people whom I would love to meet in real life.

Social interaction is all about the company you keep, same goes for real life too.

 

[Countrybumpkingirl]

I have all types for work Ig drives traffic to my website if I didn’t have my own business I would have done what you have - it sounds bliss !! Do you ever feel you miss out

Honestly I really don't anymore. I found with Covid and watching people breaking lockdown rules I was becoming increasingly angry and bitter (I am now shielding and i live alone). I came off IG when my relationship broke down and I think that is the main reason I haven't gone back on to it is for the fear aspect but as time went on I missed it less and less. But totally understand businesses rely on SM now, my hairdresser, beauty salon, GP surgery and gym all post all their updates on fb so it is more difficult keeping up to date without an account.