Fake gf?

[Loulou_23]

Has anyone ever experienced a man pretending to have gf? I’ve heard of men lying about having a gf and unfortunately been on the receiving end in the past but I can’t say I’ve ever experienced a guy making one up before.

These a guy I’ve liked for a while we’ve chatted on and off this year and I know he likes me he’s actually told me he does but he’s acting weird about having a gf and not in a shifty hiding it way. I know a lot of people keep things off SM so can’t really go by that but these no sign off him having one anywhere. In a past relationship the girl seemed to be on his SM a lot (we’ve been fb friends for years) These other things that don’t add up too but without going into detail and outing myself I can’t go into detail.

Do people even make up partners? Surely if he was keen he wouldn’t lie, or even be doing the opposite to hide her. Something just isn’t adding up.

 

[TheGlossy]

I've never experienced it, but all I have to say is that there's no point in trying to figure this out. You're just gonna wreck your head for no apparent reason. It's a bad seed. Just move on.

 

[Chels91]

Couple of questions,

in what context have use been speaking in the past year ? Just friends …. More than friends, it sounds as if it could have been more with you saying he’s admitting liking you & you seem fairly laid back about him having a GF. Does him not having a girlfriend and speaking to you give you red flag vibes ? Also what has he told you about her ?

 

[Loulou_23]

Couple of questions,

in what context have use been speaking in the past year ? Just friends …. More than friends, it sounds as if it could have been more with you saying he’s admitting liking you & you seem fairly laid back about him having a GF. Does him not having a girlfriend and speaking to you give you red flag vibes ? Also what has he told you about her ?

A bit flirty but nothing has happened as I say I don’t want to say too much without outing myself. The ‘girlfriend’ is very recent though like in the past month I believe. From what he’s said it doesn’t sound like he’s happy (she’s an ex, not the same ex that I mentioned in my first post as she’s with someone else now) of course I get red flags from men with girlfriends messaging me, I’ve unknowingly experienced it in the past and cut them straight away! But my gut is telling me she doesn’t exist. Obviously if it’s true I wouldn’t entertain it but I feel like this is a little payback for me ignoring him once before a good 18 months ago.

 

[laughing]

Sorry but he is not interested in you as a gf and has made one up as an excuse

 

[Loulou_23]

Sorry but he is not interested in you as a gf and has made one up as an excuse

Yeah maybe but then why tell me that he does! Lol

 

[lurkingaround123]

From what he’s said it doesn’t sound like he’s happy

If he is telling the truth and has a girlfriend. He's a grown adult who's chosen to be with her. He is saying that to you to breadcrumb you and keep you around. Also could you be bothered being with someone who has a track record of slagging their partner off to other girls?

If he's made it up that's proper weird and you deserve better than that.

 

[JoeBloggs]

Whatever the answer is, he doesn’t sound like a great partner. Either she’s real, he’s talking and flirting with someone else and telling them he has feeling or he’s made one up to either cover up saying he liked you or to get out of commitment. if he is doing it to get back at you for you ignoring him, that’s a childish game and no one needs that. Whatever it is, why would you want to date someone who does either?

Tell him your done with games and just move on.

 

[candyland_]

I’m sure of my best friends has a fake girlfriend There’s not one sign of her on social media and he will make up the most random things that just sounds too far fetched. He has little dramas with her and then says he would love to get with me (no chance.. he gets told to duck off).

We don’t know her name either.. He calls her posh cat

 

[BettyCrockerr]

A bit flirty but nothing has happened as I say I don’t want to say too much without outing myself. The ‘girlfriend’ is very recent though like in the past month I believe. From what he’s said it doesn’t sound like he’s happy (she’s an ex, not the same ex that I mentioned in my first post as she’s with someone else now) of course I get red flags from men with girlfriends messaging me, I’ve unknowingly experienced it in the past and cut them straight away! But my gut is telling me she doesn’t exist. Obviously if it’s true I wouldn’t entertain it but I feel like this is a little payback for me ignoring him once before a good 18 months ago.

Wether she exists or not - it’s almost beside the point.

he’s lying to you about something. You don’t trust him. And that isn’t a healthy start to any relationship at all - romantic or otherwise.

even if she does exist - it doesn’t say much for him that he’s apparently flirting with you does it?

This is all bollocks and unnecessary drama that’s not going to go anywhere good. Tell him to jog on and get out of the entire ridiculous situation with some semblance of self respect.

 

[slabber]

I don't understand why anyone would even entertain this

 

[judgejohndeed]

Sorry but you can't win here. He either actually does have a girlfriend, or you don't trust him to the extent that you're wondering whether he has made up a whole person. Cut your losses and move on.

 

[BettyCrockerr]

I don't understand why anyone would even entertain this

 

[Loulou_23]

Yeh I get all your points it’s weird if he’s made it up and obviously not good if he’s chatting to me the way he was if it’s true.

But saying that I know of his family I know he comes from a good home and I know that he did not cheat in his past relationship. I know that doesn’t make him trust worthy to me but as I said these a lot more to it which I don’t want to discuss incase it outs me. If he was a total stranger from an app I’d have moved on and not given him a second thought but he’s not.

I get peoples point I really do but the turn you don’t know until you are in that situation comes to mind. I know I’ve given advise to friends but can I take it myself…maybe not. I just wanted peoples thoughts on if they have encountered men making up gfs before. The rest of the situation doesn’t matter. If it’s true then I wouldn’t go there regardless if it’s not and I’ll probably never know cos he’d probably just say they broke up.

 

[BettyCrockerr]

Yeh I get all your points it’s weird if he’s made it up and obviously not good if he’s chatting to me the way he was if it’s true.

But saying that I know of his family I know he comes from a good home and I know that he did not cheat in his past relationship. I know that doesn’t make him trust worthy to me but as I said these a lot more to it which I don’t want to discuss incase it outs me. If he was a total stranger from an app I’d have moved on and not given him a second thought but he’s not.

I get peoples point I really do but the turn you don’t know until you are in that situation comes to mind. I know I’ve given advise to friends but can I take it myself…maybe not. I just wanted peoples thoughts on if they have encountered men making up gfs before. The rest of the situation doesn’t matter. If it’s true then I wouldn’t go there regardless if it’s not and I’ll probably never know cos he’d probably just say they broke up.

 

[xoxo GG]

Yeh I get all your points it’s weird if he’s made it up and obviously not good if he’s chatting to me the way he was if it’s true.

But saying that I know of his family I know he comes from a good home and I know that he did not cheat in his past relationship. I know that doesn’t make him trust worthy to me but as I said these a lot more to it which I don’t want to discuss incase it outs me. If he was a total stranger from an app I’d have moved on and not given him a second thought but he’s not.

I get peoples point I really do but the turn you don’t know until you are in that situation comes to mind. I know I’ve given advise to friends but can I take it myself…maybe not. I just wanted peoples thoughts on if they have encountered men making up gfs before. The rest of the situation doesn’t matter. If it’s true then I wouldn’t go there regardless if it’s not and I’ll probably never know cos he’d probably just say they broke up.

You don’t know anything for sure, you believe that he never cheated. People from good homes can be tit people.

 

[plonkington]

Yeh I get all your points it’s weird if he’s made it up and obviously not good if he’s chatting to me the way he was if it’s true.

But saying that I know of his family I know he comes from a good home and I know that he did not cheat in his past relationship. I know that doesn’t make him trust worthy to me but as I said these a lot more to it which I don’t want to discuss incase it outs me. If he was a total stranger from an app I’d have moved on and not given him a second thought but he’s not.

I get peoples point I really do but the turn you don’t know until you are in that situation comes to mind. I know I’ve given advise to friends but can I take it myself…maybe not. I just wanted peoples thoughts on if they have encountered men making up gfs before. The rest of the situation doesn’t matter. If it’s true then I wouldn’t go there regardless if it’s not and I’ll probably never know cos he’d probably just say they broke up.

Why not ask him if you’re on good terms how it’s going with the girlfriend? Drop in a few more questions, if you’ve known him a while you’ll know if he’s lying….
personally no experience, but come on girl, sounds if it were to amount to anything it would if by now

 

[Wowitsme]

So you were not looking for advice just asking if you’ve known anyone to ever make up a fake girlfriend/boyfriend.

Nope never, especially if they were interested in someone. The fact you think he’s made up said girlfriend is odd tho

 

[whoareyouu]

Either way, he ain’t interested.

 

[Suzesnooze]

Yeh I get all your points it’s weird if he’s made it up and obviously not good if he’s chatting to me the way he was if it’s true.

But saying that I know of his family I know he comes from a good home and I know that he did not cheat in his past relationship. I know that doesn’t make him trust worthy to me but as I said these a lot more to it which I don’t want to discuss incase it outs me. If he was a total stranger from an app I’d have moved on and not given him a second thought but he’s not.

I get peoples point I really do but the turn you don’t know until you are in that situation comes to mind. I know I’ve given advise to friends but can I take it myself…maybe not. I just wanted peoples thoughts on if they have encountered men making up gfs before. The rest of the situation doesn’t matter. If it’s true then I wouldn’t go there regardless if it’s not and I’ll probably never know cos he’d probably just say they broke up.

I haven't encountered a fake g/f but I know a family members girlfriend has no social media whatsoever so he never tagged her in anything and it was ages before he actually posted a photo of her in it and we saw what she actually looked like. But then some people find it suspicious if people don't have social media too!