Embarrassed I don’t know what to do

[Sha384]

Hi girls..
so I’ve been single now over a year and a half..
And I’m currently txting a guy to meet tomorrow eve for drinks.
But we have been sexting alot and to be honest I’m in need of a bit of fun
The thing is
I had breast cancer 4 yrs ago which ended up with me having to get my breast removed just before Covid I had reconstruction so now I have what u would I suppose say a fake boob!
But with Covid and everything the follow up operations didn’t happen and it’s just been left..I will spare any more details.
But I have only been with my ex since this and nobody since we broke up.
Do I tell the guy he prob run a mile I’m up in a heap over this.
Can anyone give me some advice pls I’m desperate

 

[SpindleWhorl]

I don't know the answer, I probably would speak to him beforehand, if he runs a mile at least you know he;s a wrong un before letting him in your bed xx

 

[justonemorepage]

I'm sorry you've been through cancer and a breakup - as well as COVID/lockdown!

If this guy is a keeper, or a decent human being, then he won't care and should be more concerned about your wellbeing. Mention it before things go any further as you wouldn't want him to hurt your feelings if things progressed and it did, for some reason, bother him. Like the poster above said, if you want to have a sexual relationship with him then he needs to fully accept you otherwise he doesn't deserve you! Hope you have a lovely evening out and hope he's mature enough to understand and be compassionate.

 

[TheGlossy]

If he runs a mile, then you dodged a bullet! It means he’s a superficial fool who is not worth your time! No one should make you feel bad or inadequate. You’re a strong woman who overcame really difficult times. If he runs, then let him run!

 

[Rosie glow]

I would definitely be upfront about it if he's a decent guy he won't give a fig about it

 

[Kim Mild]

Maybe go into the details gradually. Mention you are a cancer survivor. Then see if the conversion leads to giving more information .

If and when intimacy happens , could you wear lingerie?

 

[Sha384]

Maybe go into the details gradually. Mention you are a cancer survivor. Then see if the conversion leads to giving more information .

If and when intimacy happens , could you wear lingerie?

I am very limited to bras to wear unfortunately it’s not really an option to wear pretty ones

 

[FlipFlop0706]

Much depends on what your plans are!

If it’s just drinks then I would drop it in to the conversation so he’s aware. No biggie, just a “yeah had a bit of a tit year with covid and then I was also diagnosed with breast cancer” See how he reacts to that.

End of the day, you are here. You’ve gone through something seriously tit and come through it fake boob and all. Don’t be ashamed of your fabulous body. Treat yourself to some nice lingerie and live bravely with your scars/fake boob. If he doesn’t like it then duck him! You don’t need superficial immature twats like that in your life!

 

[Kim Mild]

I am very limited to bras to wear unfortunately it’s not really an option to wear pretty ones

But you could choose not to be naked. You could set the Boundary that you don't want to show the part of your body where you had surgery yet and he should respect that .

 

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

I would be up front. Apart from the fact you might feel embarrassed it can be shocking for people if it's unexpected and they might not know what "to do" in the situation.
I would mention that you've had a breast removed and some reconstruction. That you are up for fun but maybe keeping a bra on to start with. Personally I'd rather "show" him my breast when you are not feeling amorous in case it doesn't go the way you expect. He might be scared of hurting you etc

 

[Jojoo]

Hope the date went well on sunday